Would you have your first child at 45?
- Thread starter duncanthetall
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It’s not just about the money. If you’re wealthy having kids old af doesn’t always go well. You won’t have the energy to father as actively as you would if you were in your 20/30s. A lot of these kids who’s parents are old af end up having to deal with caretaking when they are in their 20s. Or those parents weren’t as active because they were tired and had other shyt going on. That’s not fair to the child. The older you have your child, the less time y’all have together typically.
My father just turned 39 when I was born. 
I am the last of 3. I felt I was robbed of a traditional father-son relationship because he was older, and new to this country, he had to grind for us to have a good life. Switched professions got a CDL and have been driving buses at the airport for 20 years now. I didn’t get to ride bikes with my dad and go catch movies on a Sunday type of thing, because he was always working but, I saw him everyday, till this day, get up and go to work and I respect that. Dude is my hero frfr.
39 is too old. I want to be done by 34 I think.
I am the last of 3. I felt I was robbed of a traditional father-son relationship because he was older, and new to this country, he had to grind for us to have a good life. Switched professions got a CDL and have been driving buses at the airport for 20 years now. I didn’t get to ride bikes with my dad and go catch movies on a Sunday type of thing, because he was always working but, I saw him everyday, till this day, get up and go to work and I respect that. Dude is my hero frfr. 39 is too old. I want to be done by 34 I think.
No. Elderly parents can be a burden on children - depending on the state of health.
I can hope that living a fairly healthy lifestyle and saving up + life insurance and a strong career can ensure it won't happen. But dementia at 65 makes the life of my 20 year old that much harder, under this scenario.
I can hope that living a fairly healthy lifestyle and saving up + life insurance and a strong career can ensure it won't happen. But dementia at 65 makes the life of my 20 year old that much harder, under this scenario.
BmoreGorilla
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See that’s the thing. Nobody is ever really ready to have kids if that makes sense. Adjustments will have to be made regardless of your situation. I’m speaking as someone who is 39 and done having kids. I won’t knock anybody for choosing till later becuz I understand. But my daughter is 11 now. By the time I’m in my mid 50s I’ll be able to only worry about me financially and be able to enjoy the fruits of my labor for the rest of my daysThe 'ready ' stuff is most of the time an excuse.
This!!!
I'd rather have my first kid at older age than when I was younger not getting paper.
BmoreGorilla
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That stuff is important tho. Some of the best memories I have with my father involved physical activities. The stuff he did with me at 35 he wouldn’t have been able to do at 55. Of course it’s possible to be a great dad at any age but from my perspective but I look at like at athlete in his prime where they are strong both mentally and physically. Having them too when you arent fully mentally developed isn’t good I know from experience. But also having them too old you won’t be your best physically. While raising kids you want to be on point in both of those areas. But to each his own
Age doesn’t matter so much for the guy as long as he’s in relatively decent shape and healthy.
IMO the sweet spot is 30-35.
there is a good chance you’re established by that point and financially ready to handle a child. Also women at that age are still fairly safe when it comes to children and birth defects.
IMO the sweet spot is 30-35.
there is a good chance you’re established by that point and financially ready to handle a child. Also women at that age are still fairly safe when it comes to children and birth defects.
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Atlanta 80s baby
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Some 40yo dudes are more virile than those at age 30 honestly. You can always get your seeds analysed. Women's eggs expire at a certain age. If you are bringing in people at that age just go get your sperm and eggs a health check.
Virtuous_Brotha
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It's not ideal but i'm rich af my kids are set for life regardless and even though i may not be around the longest or see them grow i will leave a long standing legacy and can pass down some serious assets i.e property and potentially businesses. That's what i mean really but no doubt having the first kid when you're older than 40 is waiting too long regardless of wealth.
An average 9-5 worker having kids old
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TELL ME YA CHEESIN FAM?
I walk around a little edgy already
Clooney was older than that,no?
ThrobbingHood
“I’m Sorry for 2025”
Yup, because Clooney is like 99.9999% of the male population right?
ThrobbingHood
“I’m Sorry for 2025”
My dad had me last, late on in life. He was still physically active but like you, I felt like I didn’t get the same experience my older siblings got.My father just turned 39 when I was born.
39 is too old. I want to be done by 34 I think.
I used to clown him saying “My siblings got the Bulls era of Jordan whilst I got the Wizards era.” He laughed but deep down I could see he was.
That’s why I’m not having children late on. I’m not letting the tv/video games act as a surrogate parent. I’m bike riding, swimming, hiking etc with my children.
It’s extremely selfish when I see people in their mid to late 40s and beyond having children. I’ve seen the affects it has on their offspring.
It's not ideal but i'm rich af my kids are set for life regardless and even though i may not be around the longest or see them grow i will leave a long standing legacy and can pass down some serious assets i.e property and potentially businesses. That's what i mean really but no doubt having the first kid when you're older than 40 is waiting too long regardless of wealth.
An average 9-5 worker having kids old
I gotcha. Yea it’s a little different if the coin is there. But i agree... the average old nikka making babies 45+ yrs old is pointless. His ass won’t ever retire. Can you imagine being on child support in your 50s and early 60s?
