Would you have your first child at 45?

[O.T.I.S.]

41.

Still want to, but I recognize it may not happen. Not gonna have an accident baby, and I'm probably 2-3 years from it happening with someone that I like.

Been doing a lot of internal digging in that, am I the problem lately?

Nah

Believe it or not, plenty of men in that boat.


It’s statistically been proven that it’s a smaller amount of black men with children out here, yet the women out here stay pregnant or have multiple babyfathers.


I personally know a dude with like 7 or 8 kids by different women. Not a bad guy, but definitely got issues with wrapping it up and the kids aren’t exactly model children running around. Some even got kids of their own now too, with no husband/man. While he also got brand new kids.


It’s an epidemic at this point

 

[Vandelay]

Nah

Believe it or not, plenty of men in that boat.


It’s statistically been proven that it’s a smaller amount of black men with children out here, yet the women out here stay pregnant or have multiple babyfathers.


I personally know a dude with like 7 or 8 kids by different women. Not a bad guy, but definitely got issues with wrapping it up and the kids aren’t exactly model children running around. Some even got kids of their own now too, with no husband/man. While he also got brand new kids.


It’s an epidemic at this point

Yeah, some of my closest friends have 10 kids. I got a cousin with 13. I even had a scare with a chick 13 years ago. Definitely don't blame me entirely. But not gonna say I haven't met or been with chicks that wouldn't be good moms. I just didn't see it in them for me.

 

[T. Dubb Ya]

I just turned 45 and still thinking about it lol.. I have a buddy who's 2 years younger than me and he just had his first so...If it happens??? Great!!! If it doesn't??? That's fine too...

 

[serial]

In my 40s with a 14 year old girl if I could turn back time I woulda had more at a younger age to start again now seems crazy

 

[Jaylen Tatum]

45 is not too old.

 

[ThrobbingHood]

Yeah, some of my closest friends have 10 kids. I got a cousin with 13. I even had a scare with a chick 13 years ago. Definitely don't blame me entirely. But not gonna say I haven't met or been with chicks that wouldn't be good moms. I just didn't see it in them for me.

One thing I teach younger brehs is:

“Before you lie down with this woman, ask yourself: is this someone I want to be potentially tethered to for the rest of my life? Is she even worthy of taking my last name?”

I get we all have needs but there are too many risks involved when it comes to casual sex. That nut isn’t worth it if it comes with a lifetime of consequences.

I’m just lucky I settled down unscathed. Two pregnancy scares was enough to smarten me up. Because those were two women I definitely didn’t want raising my children.

 

[kaldurahm]

If I was that age, I would probably give it up. I always disliked the idea of being an old dad, especially if I were to have a son. Had things gone the way I wanted, I'd be a dad by now or very soon

 

[shopthatwrecks]

i know a pastor who had one at 55.. wife was in her late 30s... and their kid is smart as fukk...she hates the internet and all she does is read books and goto the lake and catch lizards and other bugs..

she is my daughter friend...

 

[cyndaquil]

Want to have children before im 40, im 34

5 years later...39 you had any yet breh?

 

[Bigen King]

Damn, I am turning 40 in October still have no children...

U betta start vetting some prospects. Yo peoples starting to look at you funny.

 

[Dave24]

5 years later...39 you had any yet breh?

No, I still don't

 

[Booker T Garvey]

Better to have your 1st child at 45 than to have your 1st child as a broke 18 year old because you wanted to take it off of your to do list.

Yo, me and my friend were talking about this a few months ago

all the chicks that got pregnant with sons in high school, they're either YN's running the streets, or gay. no bullshyt.

that's just with our class and at my high school, not trying to put that on everybody but just saying.

 

[summwunn]

... i wish . . . but no matter how many steroids and supplements that are out there . . .. . i aint trying to be in my late-60s trying to discipline a high-school rebel . . . . save that for Dave Letterman and his staff. . . .

 

[Yinny]

Thirty five when I had my first, if I don’t have another in the next few years (I won’t but also didn’t see him coming so you never know) it’s a wrap

Thinking about waking up in the middle of the night, changing diapers at 45 is making me pre-tired

 

[summwunn]

Thirty five when I had my first, if I don’t have another in the next few years (I won’t but also didn’t see him coming so you never know) it’s a wrap

Thinking about waking up in the middle of the night, changing diapers at 45 is making me pre-tired

. . . im past 45 and i cant imagine that stacatto sleep pattern . .. .
... on top of the usual 9-to-5 bullshyt . . . . .