Almost every couple that I know that have either ended or continued that introduced kids further down the line has seen both signficant physical and mental changes due to the fact that kids were brought into the relationship. This one couple I know whom was happily... and i mean really happily married for over 8 years decided to have kids one day.. and damn you could just see the changes in the love and affection they had for each other. They no longer have as much time for dates, working out together or simple shyt like sex. Then you have situations where women will without notice chose loving the children over there own spouse. Kids can without a doubt be a huge detriment to most relationships
Y'all blame marriage but it's really kids that change relationships
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Kids don't ask to be born. The most detrimantal thing to marriages is people believing in the fantasy version of marriage and then refusing to accept the fact that life is hard and not a rom com or a family movie.
BmoreGorilla
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Kids demand so much time, money, and attention that a lot of people have a hard time balancing their relationship
African Peasant
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Marriage is not a romantic ballad. 
Cats want to live a rom-com all their life
The purpose of marriage is to create a FAMILY, not to remain ONLY a couple doing dating and dining.
Cats want to live a rom-com all their life
The purpose of marriage is to create a FAMILY, not to remain ONLY a couple doing dating and dining.
People underestimate the time, care children need with how taxing it is on one life. All that freedom is gone once you push out a little one.
Child care will dissolve your relationship if you aren’t making time to enjoy one another.
Anything that wasn’t certain will be exposed while dealing with a child - finances, distribution of relationship effort, how selfless/selfish each partner is.
Child care will dissolve your relationship if you aren’t making time to enjoy one another.
Anything that wasn’t certain will be exposed while dealing with a child - finances, distribution of relationship effort, how selfless/selfish each partner is.
Blaming the kids is a WEAK AZZ EXCUSE
and those that cosign that shouldn't have kids and if they do are idealisticly bad parents
Having a CHILD made me a better man
It made me respect my mate more and the appreciation of her delivering a healthy child and not become a murderer (Abortion)
And it made me grind harder
This is the longest I ever held a job and I also started a LLC and I owe it all to being movivated by my child
and those that cosign that shouldn't have kids and if they do are idealisticly bad parents
Having a CHILD made me a better man
It made me respect my mate more and the appreciation of her delivering a healthy child and not become a murderer (Abortion)
And it made me grind harder
This is the longest I ever held a job and I also started a LLC and I owe it all to being movivated by my child
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Yeah that's why most people shouldn't have kids.
the bossman
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That's cause they need to prioritize their marriage over their kids if they want things to remain intact.
The kids benefit much more from happily married parents than the other waya around
Blaming kids is a weak ass excuse
The kids benefit much more from happily married parents than the other waya around
Blaming kids is a weak ass excuse
THIS! But people refuse to hear the truth.I would love to get married and have kids one day, but as of right now I am not ready. And some days I doubt that I will ever be ready.
shyt please it shouldnt at all u brought them in this world now love them and raise them well.
I have 5 kids and just took in my nephew which equals 6.
Sure u get less time alone together and exhausted but dont mean the love gotta change at all either.
Work around the kids schedule is what u do.
Get family to babysit or a trustworthy sitter.
Rotate breaks from kids so each get alone time for themselves cuz sometimes u need me time and not date night
My love for my wife hadn't changed at all cuz of kids.
It will only change if she chooses to change as a person and it sure as well wont be cuz of raising kids I can tell u that sounds like a excuse
Being a parent is the goat feeling and privilege
Kids does change the equation but it comes back once they get a little older if you can hang in the marriage for that amount of time. Alot of people don't realize this you literally have to know who you are dealing with when it comes to having kids. Thats why you gotta watch when women want kids really bad. Alot of them want sperm donors and don't really care about the man after they have the children. Some men are like this too but you already know who the leading gender of divorce is. I usually take a realistic approach when on marriage and relationships and it discourages alot of women because I don't give them the fantasy bullshyt. I've seen my parents go through almost 40 years of that shyt and marriage ain't no joke. The amount of times my parents were about to call it quits but hung in there though. Even to the point I didn't mind if they deaded it for there own happiness they still pulled through. That type of shyt I don't know if I have in me and I no for sure alot women don't have that shyt either in todays world. I mean they're probably some out there but it's rare.
Truth be told and i'm not saying this in general but if both genders have never seen there parents get married or have been raised by a single parent they whole life it's a little tougher maintain. But if you want to make it work it can work.
Truth be told and i'm not saying this in general but if both genders have never seen there parents get married or have been raised by a single parent they whole life it's a little tougher maintain. But if you want to make it work it can work.
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fukk these kids
Americans grew up with a bunch of fictional love stories and songs being popularized. All that shyt is ducktales, and kids are the ultimate wake up call