When paying your bills is the first thing you do when you cash your check.
When you stop being ignorant, and learn how to do the things that you need (change your own oil, brakes, cook your own food, etc)
When people that raised you start asking you for advice.
Instead of debating someone in an attempt to change their mind, you only seek understanding as to why they think the way they do.
When you don't rely on others to fix your physical, mental, nor emotional problems.
When you refuse to make time for what you want to do, because what you need to do is more important.