You should always be better than any woman you deal with.

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

I try to be very specific with the words I use. Words have power. The idea that men have to be "better than" is an ongoing negotiation/equivocation to shore up the self-perception men traditionally like to have of themselves as leaders in all things...when truthfully no man has ever been the leader in EVERYthing. Maybe that's not what OP was trying to get at, but the language itself carries a heavy inference toward traditional ideas of "real men" vs "good women" mind games.

We're well past that at this point.





Nice.



Oversimplified version:

This

and not this

Obviously it's a yin and yang breh. You're right that words matter and I could have wrote this whole thread a lot better. A couple brehs said that and I will accept that. My bad.

And yes, a man cant lead on EVERYTHING. There are things that men are naturally good at, and that fall within our masculine roles and vice versa for women and feminine roles.

A man isnt going to lead a woman when it comes to childbirth. A man isnt going to be better than a woman when it comes to nurturing. That's their wheelhouse.

But the things that you should be good at... maintaining and providing for her and the family, making sure the family is secure, plotting the next moves that will contribute to that security...

No woman wants to do that. And if you force her to, she will out of self preservation for herself and her children if she has any, but she will resent you for it. And she will be looking to level up with another man who is a better leader in those areas than you are.

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

Hook brehs up with an opportunity to get a check
It’s only so much you can say about women you feel me breh? I understand it’s coming from a good place but as a man if your main reason for bettering yourself is to bag women you already lost

I agree. @BaldingSoHard and I actually had that conversation a few posts up.

You should better yourself because you want to be a better man. When you focus on yourself and take your mind off women, that's when the women come. And once you get to that point, they will be more of a means to an end, meaning that they will serve a purpose in your life instead of them being THE purpose of your life.

I used to tell my real life brehs all the time. You're messing up if your life is bad and you think it will get better if you get a woman.

A woman cant bring you happiness. The only thing she can do is help to enhance the happiness you already have.

Shes supposed to fit in to your program like a puzzle piece or as a player on your roster as another breh said above.

 

[Colicat]

Go in, sis. Tell us why you feel this way

Equally yolked. Why would you want to lead someone who isn’t as intelligent as you?
You aren’t strong enough, wise enough to lead a strong and intelligent woman?

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

@Drip Bayless peep the edits above breh

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

Equally yolked. Why would you want to lead someone who isn’t as intelligent as you?
You aren’t strong enough, wise enough to lead a strong and intelligent woman?

Strong intelligent career driven motivated women are my lane tbh. Those are always the women that go for me. Chics in the hood dont give me play. I talked about this in another thread actually

But heres the thing... no matter how strong, how intelligent, how motivated these women are that come at me, the reason they want me in their lives is cause I'm stronger, more intelligent and more motivated than them.

Water seeks its level if you get what I'm saying.

I had this chic the other day, has a great career in a huge news outlet, has her own division that she's over... she has been a potential relationship interest for years... and she called me the other day asking my opinion on George Floyd because in her words "you're smarter than me."

And it wasn't her gassing me or anything. She said that and then we moved into the conversation.

What is a man that's below her or even on her level going to offer to a woman like that?

She gravitates to a man that she feels is above her and that can provide the answers that she feels she doesn't have

 

[KingJay]

Facts
I've had a girl be deterred by how "perfect" I am though. As silly as it sounds, you can be too good for some women

Not something to worry about in most cases, but something to consider if you notice something off or somethin

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

Strong intelligent career driven motivated women are my lane tbh. Those are always the women that go for me. Chics in the hood dont give me play. I talked about this in another thread actually

Facts
I've had a girl be deterred by how "perfect" I am though. As silly as it sounds, you can be too good for some women

Not something to worry about in most cases, but something to consider if you notice something off or somethin

That's what I was actually referring to in my post above. I've never had any luck with hood chics. They are attracted to me but when the conversation starts I always lose them

When I was younger I thought it was something I was doing wrong till this one chic flat out told me... "you make me feel stupid."

I hit the cause at no point in the conversation did I try to flaunt or anything like that. Then she went on to tell me she knew it was her, not me. Just the fact that I was intelligent made her realize how much she didnt know.

And even though she was attracted to me, it made her feel some kinda way inside.

I think it's the thing with women where they cant stand rejection. Like men a lot of us don't like rejection but women really cant handle that stuff.

So when they deal with a man that's TOO far above them, it makes them feel like he's going to leave them for a better woman.

In fact recently i was talking to this chic and telling her that I need to slim down and lose 15 lbs

She goes "I like you how you are now"

So I say "you telling me you wouldn't like it if I had abs and was ripped?"

She tells me "tbh, I've dealt with men that were really in shape in the past and they always leave me. So I'm at the point now where I deal with regular men"

Chic wanted me to stay fat cause she's afraid of the options that would be in front of me if I was really in shape

 

[MajesticLion]

Obviously it's a yin and yang breh. You're right that words matter and I could have wrote this whole thread a lot better. A couple brehs said that and I will accept that. My bad.

And yes, a man cant lead on EVERYTHING. There are things that men are naturally good at, and that fall within our masculine roles and vice versa for women and feminine roles.

A man isnt going to lead a woman when it comes to childbirth. A man isnt going to be better than a woman when it comes to nurturing. That's their wheelhouse.

But the things that you should be good at... maintaining and providing for her and the family, making sure the family is secure, plotting the next moves that will contribute to that security...

No woman wants to do that. And if you force her to, she will out of self preservation for herself and her children if she has any, but she will resent you for it. And she will be looking to level up with another man who is a better leader in those areas than you are.

There's the practical versus the cultural.

- men don't get pregnant
- women in the general aren't the ones to knuckle up


Aside from those two biological biases, pretty much all else is negotiable. That "better at nurturing" thing is false. Men (generally speaking) clearly can; they simply cannot be bothered to learn. It gets in the way of conquering and carousing and building stuff and other women and philosophical navel gazing and all such "manly" activities. (There's an argument to be made here that such things are necessary for societies to advance, and it's a valid one. It's also wide open to propagandist abuse from the they-need-to-be-kept-in-their-place crowd. And there's the inevitable questions that arise: advance toward what, exactly? Do we even know? Are we doing stuff just to do it? Etc etc etc.)

Re: "leveling up" notions, I am not responsible for anyone else's decision to live in fear. That ignorance can step wide.

 

[Youseenmywork]

This some weak nikka shyt if I ever heard it...

 

[Family Man]

Y'all nikkas talking a bunch of foolishness. A nikka that's about his shyt ain't sitting around exchanging "game" and theories online. If you ain't speaking from experience then you're not qualified to dispense information. There's some shyt that you have to live it in order to talk it.

 

[Youseenmywork]

Breh women in here being honest. You love to see it

Naw I see a lot BS in here but I'm keep all the honest in minute ...

 

[010101]

Where do you see me strategizing?

Or do you see me sharing my experiences with brehs that may not be as fortunate?

See brehs like yall are happy when it's not as many men eating cause it means more food for you.

I truly want to see brehs succeed in life and so I dont mind sharing whether its online or offline

I'm always trying to hook my real life brehs up with opportunities

when it comes to getting puzzy you can't hook the next man up for real

you cannot negotiate women's attraction to you or what the quality of your relationship with women is

ultimately you have to go & handle that yourself with the women in question

also it's tough because different men have different perspectives on the matter of women

in my case it's nothing heavy

*

 

[semicko82]

Hilarious thread

I LOVE my boring no drama relationship

You better start some drama breh or it’s not going to be a relationship anymore











just joking breh

 

[semicko82]

Naw I see a lot BS in here but I'm keep all the honest

Drop some wisdom breh

 

[mamba]

It's a little bit of a difficult place to be in, honestly.

I've long advocated that if brehs want to be "that nikka" that the important thing is to focus on themselves and that's exactly what I did.

This is gonna sound like bragging, but I've followed my own advice and now I'm:

• Handsome (stay in shape)
  
• Intelligent (educate yourself)
• Successful (millionaire)
• With no ex wives..
• No kids
• No criminal history
• No tattoos
• No debt outside of mortgage and car
• 835 credit score
• ...and I can cook better than any woman I've ever met

So at this point in my life, what does a woman bring to the table other than p*ssy, crying, and endless annoying obligations?

The problem then becomes that apparently I'm not allowed to date a woman unless I intend to marry her (I've been told this by most of my female friends). Because, "A man like you changes a woman's life. It's unkind to give her that kind of life and then take it away from her."

But that's not my fukking problem.

Hoes will hashtag #ImThePrize all day every day till they meet a breh who really has his shyt together.

I have the same struggle. Will cross a million in terms of net worth—excluding real estate—later this year. No kids, in shape, no drama.

I’ve had women tell me the same thing. That I’m selfish for not sharing that with someone.