'You're Not My Child" Mother Kicks Her Own Son Out The House On Live Once He Turned 18.. Called The

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Exactly. Parenting is hard. Parenting is 24-7. And parenting can be complex, and can even go wrong even in two parent households.
My dad was more of the breadwinner and he enforced discipline when he was around but he traveled a lot for work, and worked a lot so it was more of my mom doing the rearing. When she died that impact was felt, it was like the dominos collapsed and there were so many times we all went to my dad and he wouldn’t know what to do or how to help—not the way my mom would. But he’s at least there, and he tries, and he can admit when he don’t have all the answers.

I didn’t realize until I had my son just how hard being parent is—and part of the reason it is hard is because it is a constant, active role. And it’s also one that like you said there is no manual or one size all study guide you can use to ace it. Every time you think you have it figured out—you realize you still have some things to learn. But to do it on your own, 24-7?

I can always tell the posters who have children from the ones that don’t, just like I can tell the posters that hate that they were raised by a single mom and lowkey hate their moms for it.

What I’ve noticed is that parents with actual kids that they’re heavily involved and active in their life, tend to have a different level of accountability when it comes to these situations. For example the actual fathers I know that take care of their kids, don’t just judge and blame the single mom in these cases. They look at the dads too. They see the entire picture. Because they know they would never not be apart of their child’s life. They know the impact they make on their child’s life. And they know they would not be okay with themselves if they weren’t in their child’s life. As we speak my son has been with his dad since end of May. I always know if I have an issue with my son I can call on him. He’ll nip it in the bud. I know I have help and support, and even saying all that parenting is still hard.

I can’t imagine my son ever talking to me like that. It’s a sad situation altogether.
:wow:My dad told me that he always used to use protection before he married my mom b/c he grew up on a sharecroppers farm one of 9 kids.
His mom and dad both lived together and were married 38 years. AND THEY STILL CAUGHT HELL.

He said he’d never want the possibility of putting a child through a life as hard as his without being able to be in their lives.
I don’t know what I’d do without my father and I’m
so glad he didn’t abandon my mom when times got rough. He has been there for every stage of my life with my mom too.

That’s some shyt I don’t take for granted. My mom even told me, baby girl there are some blk women out here going through pregnancy by themselves, dying on the childbirth table alone. Just thinking about that shyt had me shook.
 

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There would be no incentive to steal if the mother provided for him properly, or at least gave him a cheaper set of life values. I still hold that children are 100% the result of the things their parents did or did not do for them. At the point, parents are the greatest influence on young person’s psyche.


I wish lil’ breh the best. :mjcry:

You hold this because you don’t have kids. Let’s see if you still hold this mindset when you have a kid.

My parents provided for me and brother and sisters and I still stole all the time, as a kid and even on through early adulthood. Why? Because at an early age when I saw something I wanted, I saw it as mine so I took it. They whipped my hands smh, but I continued to do it. I was manipulative, a pathological liar, and had a lot of fukked tendencies that landed me in a lot of trouble growing up. But my sisters didn’t have any of those issues. We were all raised in the same house.

Look some kids are just bad as fukk. And sometimes it is because of bad parenting but other times it’s just a kid fukking up. We don’t know all the details going on in this home. We only see what’s been recorded for us to see.
 
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There would be no incentive to steal if the mother provided for him properly, or at least gave him a cheaper set of life values. I still hold that children are 100% the result of the things their parents did or did not do for them. At the point, parents are the greatest influence on young person’s psyche.


I wish lil’ breh the best. :mjcry:
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The other aspect of this thread that hasn't been highlighted enough is that women have a very hard time at raising young boys into men. Especially if they had issues with their own father and the men in their lives. Boys need male role models. Women are too easy on single mothers and nikkas are too hard and too lenient on absent fathers. The woman in this video obviously ain't shyt and you can tell by the way she talks to her son. You don't talk to your kids like that period. Treated that nikkas like an ain't shyt boyfriend she was kicking out.
 

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Kick his sassy disrespectful ass out if he isn’t going to follow the rules established in the household....I don’t ask for much after 18 you need to be moving in a positive direction school/trade/something and respect the rules you can stay...If you aren’t doing anything positive yes you can go...

it is promised that I have to let you stay with me until you get your stuff together. But what you won’t do is disrespect me or your mother.
 

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Rap is equally as shytty and dysfunctional.
I’d venture as far as to say that rap is misdirected energy. If it were redirected at the proper parties:mjpls:, then it would change the world overnight. Rap is the modern black war cry. It’s a tool.



It’s like saying a grenade is shytty and disfunctional:ld:. Well, of course it will seem that way if you are aiming it at your own people, squad, or battalion.:manny:
 

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I’d venture as far as to say that rap is misdirected energy. If it were redirected at the proper parties:mjpls:, then it would change the world overnight. Rap is the modern black war cry. It’s a tool.



It’s like saying a grenade is shytty and disfunctional:ld:. Well, of course it will seem that way if you are aiming it at your own people, squad, or battalion.:manny:

Hip hop died the moment the majors and white people in general began to appreciate it and see its financial and social implications.

Financial implications for whites running hiphop, social implications for the Black populace theyre about to fukk over with negative messaging.
 

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You hold this because you don’t have kids. Let’s see if you still hold this mindset when you have a kid.

My parents provided for me and brother and sisters and I still stole all the time, as a kid and even on through early adulthood. Why? Because at an early age when I saw something I wanted, I saw it as mine so I took it. They whipped my hands smh, but I continued to do it. I was manipulative, a pathological liar, and had a lot of fukked tendencies that landed me in a lot of trouble growing up. But my sisters didn’t have any of those issues. We were all raised in the same house.

Look some kids are just bad as fukk. And sometimes it is because of bad parenting but other times it’s just a kid fukking up. We don’t know all the details going on in this home. We only see what’s been recorded for us to see.


Might I ask you why you wanted the the things that you took? That is the 2nd caveat to my earlier statement about the values parents instill (or don’t instill) in their children. Saying that, you “saw it as yours” and that you simply took it, is running around the issue. Why was it so important to have xyz item? Children don’t naturally want anything more than food or sleep. (short of having neurologic conditions)


There are dirt poor families in Camden and College Park that don’t have a stealing problem because of the values ingrained by one or both parents. These values can be ingrained explicitly through speech or beatings, or implicitly by fcking with your surroundings/influences.


For instance, I was in ATL during that cheating scandal. I also did everything you did in childhood. Could’ve been classified as a bad child myself until my parents started fcking with my influences. Despite not being able to afford it and honestly making the curriculum up as they went, they pulled me out of school and homeschooled me for a year. Took music and television away for 365 days. Then they dropped me back in school.

They sacrificed and effectively made me a blank slate. When I returned to public schooling, all behavioral issues were solved, my half assed home curriculum actually had me ahead of the kids in my grade, and I was physically incapable of being the disrespectful to my parents, because I had no frame of reference to do so.






I do agree with your point about unequal treatment of children within a household. Parents do be experimenting with earlier children and often don’t give them the exact same level of support. But that shortfall is 100% on the parents; not the child.
 

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Wow that's bogus af. I feel where yall coming from as far as the way he's talking but they been through it before. Dude young and frustrated. She acting like a kid her damn self. OG suppose to be the one you can trust. This broad ain't shyt. Seeing this dysfunction is sad as fukk.
 

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The other aspect of this thread that hasn't been highlighted enough is that women have a very hard time at raising young boys into men. Especially if they had issues with their own father and the men in their lives. Boys need male role models. Women are too easy on single mothers and nikkas are too hard and too lenient on absent fathers. The woman in this video obviously ain't shyt and you can tell by the way she talks to her son. You don't talk to your kids like that period. Treated that nikkas like an ain't shyt boyfriend she was kicking out.

Smh. Sad shyt
 
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