I’m 25 year old and still a Virgin. I could use some some advice. UPDATE: I finally lost my v card

[BLΔCK⁂W⊙LF]

You don't need to pay for it. Don't EVER do that bullshyt.

You have to improve your social skills when it concerns talking with women. Eventually, you will nab one and depending on her personality, and how comfortable you are with her, tell her you are a virgin. Or don't.

 

[Dad]

It doesn’t matter with me at this point. But I would rather not have to pay for it.

Go somewhere where you’re comfortable, anywhere where you don’t feel anxious and can relax. And let your personality shine. You aren’t a hermit so you have social skills. Get out of your head () by rejecting any negative thoughts and enjoy yourself, breh. It’s crazy how far just saying, “hello” to someone you don’t know will take you.

 

[Child_Of_God]

Don't use your height as an excuse. There are women who will eliminate your off the bat, but dealing with rejection is part of the game for all of us. Whether you're 5'5 or 6'5. It will always be something.

A lot of the slickest players ever were short dudes. Find ways to develop your confidence in your appearance outside of your height and don't carry yourself like someone who is ashamed of being short. A lot of women don't fukk with short guys because of the insecurity, not the height itself.

Thanks for the advice.

 

[Morethan1]

Ask @zamzon he can get you some slam ass

 

[Child_Of_God]

nikka do you want p*ssy or not? You not allowed to have prefrences right now. women like confident dudes, they can sense the weak from a mile away. Go get you one of those short hair, Bon iver listening white broads they easy. Once you get your confidence up then you can join the big leagues

I guess you got a point. I just feel way more comfortable with black women compare to other races.

 

[Jerz]

OP would be feeling like a boss and losing his virginity at the same. Make it happen OP

I second this motion

 

[Child_Of_God]

Ask @zamzon he can get you some slam ass

 

[Piri Tomas]

Thanks for the advice.

I have some more.

I think you'd be a good candidate for online dating. Tinder, okcupid, I'm 43 so you might have to ask someone younger which sites/apps to use. You don't have much of a social circle, so meeting someone through your small circle is likely not going to be efficient/successful.

The good thing about online dating for someone like you is that you get to wet your feet before you go for a swim. Chat them up and if you have things in common/a good conversation, arrange to meet them in person. You're an introvert, but having a good time in person with someone you've been vibing with online (a phone call first would be good too) is definitely doable.

Also, these women you meet online are complete strangers. They don't know you as the shy guy who never had a girl in his life. You get to be who you want to be with these women. you can project confidence/experience even if you don't have that in reality. Just use real pics and don't lie about your height and you'll know that most of these women you're meeting at least see you as a sexual option.

Last piece of advice, don't put pressure on yourself to fukk from the jump. You're not a pay for play type of dude, you've made that apparent. Be proud of yourself after going on a date that you enjoyed, and build off of that. You keep vibing with one chick or several, eventually you'll take one of them back to that spot you have to yourself.

And you're in the DMV, sophisticated, beautiful women abound.

 

[Blackout]

I don’t want to pay for sex. I want a women to like me for me, not because I paid her.

I feel you but your urge for sex will get in the way of that which is why the suggestion that you pay for it and get some experience is actually helpful.

 

[Bumblebreh]

You don't need to pay for it. Don't EVER do that bullshyt.

You have to improve your social skills when it concerns talking with women. Eventually, you will nab one and depending on her personality, and how comfortable you are with her, tell her you are a virgin. Or don't.

Exactly as paying for p*ssy when you are a virgin and have no experience with women is like hustling backwards.

Breh if you are a virgin and you are in your mid to late twenties live your truth.Learning game is actually learning in how to deal and to be social with women and you are not going to do that by smashing an escort.

 

[datnigDASTARDLY]

It's incredibly hard for a breh like you to meet a girl out in the wild...let's be honest
You too much into your own head.


If I were in your shoes id definitely hit up eharmony and find out what's actually in your area. Pay the fee and use the trail for your benefit. Ease into it until you feel comfortable.

No grown woman gives a fukk about your height, but id also tap down on the woe is me shyt and remember to have some fun.

If you apprehensive about being a virgin, rub a couple out and take a blue pill . You'll be aight.

 

[Lord_nikon]

When that first body eventually comes around, don't tell her you're a virgin. At all.

Go the gym and put on muscle or pick a sport and start playing it as a hobby. Most people end up having sex with others through getting put on by friends. Be more social, get more friends,
boom.

she better be a virgin also , most chicks will notice

 

[BelieveBeOK]

I also don’t do nightclubs and bars because I’m a introvert.

Can someone offer me some of guidance on what to do?

My two cents, try them out with some friends. Alcohol at the right quantities is like a cheat code, they don't call it Dutch courage for nothing.

Other than that the best way is just to jump in. There are tons of resources on the topic online but I've found that you actually need to be in the field and have seen the different dynamics and scenarios that can play out in order for you to extract max value from these guides.

That's just what I did. You're gonna get a lot of rejections but believe me, overtime it doesn't phase you anywhere near as much and you start to recognise patterns in women and eventually you'll be able to sense, with about a 60%-70% probability, who you should and should not approach.

You learn so much just from actually being out there and getting burnt. I've personally learnt little things like never to approach a woman saying, "What's up?" Or to ask her if she has a boyfriend, or to approach with a question (unless you are looking to build on her answer) but rather to approach her with a statement or an observation you've made about her.

Also, apprearance is key. Haircuts and a sense of style can make a huge difference.

 

[MrWestGrand]

First off I want to say that I am not an incel and I don’t hate women. I don’t blame no one else but myself for this.

I have a stable job but I’m trying to get an IT cert, I’m average looking and I workout from time to time and I live on my own. With that said I’m still a virgin. The reason why I’m still a Virgin is because I have no confidence around women at all and this stems from my very short height “I’m 5’5’’ by the way.” I’ve been rejected a few times due to my short stature and I’ve seen a lot of couples were the man is significantly taller and knowing how much women like tall guys I figure why even bother so I simply just stop approaching women.

Lately I have been feeling very depressed about still being a virgin and I’ve decided to finally do something it but honestly I don’t know where to start. I have no game, I only have a few friends and my father and uncles were physically abusive to me so I can’t go to them for anything and all I have is younger cousins. I also don’t do nightclubs and bars because I’m a introvert.

Can someone offer me some of guidance on what to do?

Pay for the best looking prostitute you can afford. Sex is like ripping off the band aid for you at this point, and the confidence a hoe will give you can help you move forward in knocking down regular chics.

 

[Child_Of_God]

I have some more.

I think you'd be a good candidate for online dating. Tinder, okcupid, I'm 43 so you might have to ask someone younger which sites/apps to use. You don't have much of a social circle, so meeting someone through your small circle is likely not going to be efficient/successful.

The good thing about online dating for someone like you is that you get to wet your feet before you go for a swim. Chat them up and if you have things in common/a good conversation, arrange to meet them in person. You're an introvert, but having a good time in person with someone you've been vibing with online (a phone call first would be good too) is definitely doable.

Also, these women you meet online are complete strangers. They don't know you as the shy guy who never had a girl in his life. You get to be who you want to be with these women. you can project confidence/experience even if you don't have that in reality. Just use real pics and don't lie about your height and you'll know that most of these women you're meeting at least see you as a sexual option.

Last piece of advice, don't put pressure on yourself to fukk from the jump. You're not a pay for play type of dude, you've made that apparent. Be proud of yourself after going on a date that you enjoyed, and build off of that. You keep vibing with one chick or several, eventually you'll take one of them back to that spot you have to yourself.

And you're in the DMV, sophisticated, beautiful women abound.

I tried online dating a few times and I have manange to message a few women back and forth but the conversation usually dies down and then I never hear from them again. I will give it another shot though.