Unbothered
Our Black Shining Prince 🤴🏾✨
To be clear, when I say 'intimidated,' I'm not talking about finances, lifestyles, etc., but rather emotionally, as my love seems to be too much for them to handle.
An observation I've made is that showing too much love, affection, and interest towards many sistas seems to push them further away rather than bringing them closer to you. Now obviously, not every sista is this way. I've come across many who appreciate the gesture, but I've also encountered many who are drawn to the sentiments, only to suddenly withdraw and distance themselves.
You wouldn't believe how many times in my life it seems like my love becomes too much for them to handle. Now, to be clear, I'm not “love bombing” or anything extreme like that, but rather being myself; y'know, a decent understanding, compassionate, loving, and supportive young brotha. But a segment of sistas I've encountered in the dating world seems to be intimidated by that. I don't believe I'm coming off too strong; just a man with a lot of passionate thoughts.
See, I've been fortunate enough to avoid becoming traumatized by past relationship woes, and whatnot, compared to, unfortunately, much of our brothas and sistas who have endured physical and emotional abuse from the hands of sadly, some of our own, so I can't exactly understand what's going on in their heads when I'm showing them love and affection.
A lot of sistas, due to the aforementioned issues, are not used to a brotha who is naturally loving, affectionate, and compassionate; y'know, being loved properly, so whenever a brotha is those things, it scares them.
Has Black romance gotten that bad where being a normal, loving, affectionate, etc., individual (especially as a man) is a red flag? Is that where we're at as a community now? Where only dysfunctional romance is seen as “the way”.
An observation I've made is that showing too much love, affection, and interest towards many sistas seems to push them further away rather than bringing them closer to you. Now obviously, not every sista is this way. I've come across many who appreciate the gesture, but I've also encountered many who are drawn to the sentiments, only to suddenly withdraw and distance themselves.
You wouldn't believe how many times in my life it seems like my love becomes too much for them to handle. Now, to be clear, I'm not “love bombing” or anything extreme like that, but rather being myself; y'know, a decent understanding, compassionate, loving, and supportive young brotha. But a segment of sistas I've encountered in the dating world seems to be intimidated by that. I don't believe I'm coming off too strong; just a man with a lot of passionate thoughts.
See, I've been fortunate enough to avoid becoming traumatized by past relationship woes, and whatnot, compared to, unfortunately, much of our brothas and sistas who have endured physical and emotional abuse from the hands of sadly, some of our own, so I can't exactly understand what's going on in their heads when I'm showing them love and affection.
A lot of sistas, due to the aforementioned issues, are not used to a brotha who is naturally loving, affectionate, and compassionate; y'know, being loved properly, so whenever a brotha is those things, it scares them.
Has Black romance gotten that bad where being a normal, loving, affectionate, etc., individual (especially as a man) is a red flag? Is that where we're at as a community now? Where only dysfunctional romance is seen as “the way”.
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