"She just took my shyt. She molested me." Friends proceed to LOL.

[Shadow]

Smiling when discussing trauma is a way to minimize the traumatic experience.
It communicates the notion that what happened “wasn’t so bad.” This is a common strategy that trauma survivors use in an attempt to maintain a connection to caretakers who were their perpetrators. If they can downplay the severity of what was done to them, they can stay in relationship with people who are important to them despite the fact that they were betrayed or violated by them.

Laughter can be a defense that protects the trauma survivor from feeling the depth of their actual pain.
Many survivors believe that if they don't laugh about their experiences they will connect with intense feelings of rage, despair, disappointment, or sadness. The deeper fear is that that they will be flooded and overwhelmed if those emotions are identified and fully felt. Feeling deeply is often associated with a loss of control. Laughter keeps the pain at arm’s length.

Smiling or laughing when disclosing trauma can be an indicator of embarrassment or shame.
It takes so much courage to talk openly about experiences that are humiliating and invalidating. Some trauma survivors hold deeply entrenched feelings of self-blame and other distorted and inaccurate thoughts about the role they believe they played in their abuse. Laughter is a way to communicate that embarrassment and can also serve as a distraction to short-circuit further exploration of their trauma experiences.

Smiling or laughing when disclosing trauma can be information about the survivor’s family of origin experiences.
Often the inability to access or express specific emotions in adulthood is the inevitable byproduct of not having those emotions modeled and normalized in childhood. When painful experiences are trivialized within a family or there’s an unspoken rule that certain feelings are unacceptable to express, children lose the ability to gain mastery over the full and appropriate expression of those emotions. It’s also information about the strong possibility that it was physically or emotionally unsafe to express anger or sadness. Many clients assume that it will be equally unsafe in the therapist’s office.

It is important to acknowledge that many trauma survivors have a genuinely great sense of humor, which is both miraculous and at times, life saving. And it’s equally important to be able to communicate one’s pain with emotions that are in sync with the experience so that pain can be witnessed and comforted, and authentic processing and healing can take place.

Why Clients Smile When Talking About Trauma - Part 1

 

[jwonder]

I would laugh too. shyt is ridiculous. I would only have compassion if he was a child. But a grown ass man crying about a bytch grabbing his dikk? FOH. Punch that bytch in the face and you even.

 

[jwonder]

I'm sorry. You gotta be a weak ass nikka to get sexually assaulted by a chick.



And in all honesty I'd invite women to sexually assault me. And I'd enjoy every minute of that shyt. I wouldn't even put up a fight. Violate me. Please.

Pretty sure it would be fat and unattractive women being that bold. You still down for that?

 

[newworldafro]

breh I've heard stories of chicks (usually uggos or heifers) going in rooms where dudes have passed out at parties and fukking them in they sleep. One where adude woke up with period blood on him.

Then there was that one in the news where a guy was drunk and the woman was sober, and she gave him head when he was passed out and he got expelled for rape

Link for that.

 

[The Fade]

Link for that.

I think it's this one

Man receives sex act while blacked out, gets accused of sexual assault
Wrongfully Expelled Student Hauls Elite College Into Court

 

[Flywin Lannister]

I'm sorry. You gotta be a weak ass nikka to get sexually assaulted by a chick.



And in all honesty I'd invite women to sexually assault me. And I'd enjoy every minute of that shyt. I wouldn't even put up a fight. Violate me. Please.

You and the 27 losers who dapped this clearly have zero idea about what make and female assault victims go through.

I wish the Coli rain insane neg trains on nikkaz like you, but since it's not related to sports nothing will happen.

You will neg me, but that's fine: you will have to live with your ignorant ass every day breh.

 

[Guess Who]

If he's bigger than her he wasn't raped. Sorry. He let her have her way...but he wasn't raped.

So if I fukk a woman who is bigger and physically stronger than me against her consent then it's not rape cuz she has the ability to kick my ass?

 

[Captain Crunch]

Did she drug him?

 

[010101]

i am too tired for it
females are just as predatory as males
the difference is they are protected by perception

*

 

[GrindtooFilthy]

I would laugh too. shyt is ridiculous. I would only have compassion if he was a child. But a grown ass man crying about a bytch grabbing his dikk? FOH. Punch that bytch in the face and you even.

that's works but when the police arrive you think they gonna believe she tried to molest you and that's why you had to 2 piece her

 

[InfinateOpulance]

So if I fukk a woman who is bigger and physically stronger than me against her consent then it's not rape cuz she has the ability to kick my ass?

I don't know.

I've never been raped and I've never dealt with men who have been raped.

Im not trying to offend anyone.

 

[Fun Sized Psycho]

Yes

So why don't you consider it rape when it's the woman forcing herself on the man?

 

[GetRichOrDieTryin]

Happened to a cousin of mine.
His soccer ball landed in a neighbor's yard, he went to go pick it up and she stopped him and kissed him in the mouth.
She felt him up as well.
She flashed her titties and her coochie to him.
This type of shyt happens all of the time but it's looked at different because we are dudes.​

i wish that would happen to me the fukk

 

[InfinateOpulance]

So why don't you consider it rape when it's the woman forcing herself on the man?

@Guess Who

Because if the man is bigger than her and she has no weapon he can easily push her off if he doesn't want sex from her.

Have you ever tried taking sex from a guy? Have you ever play fought with your man? He usually lets you win till hes ready to win. I've never won a play fight with a dude and I've never been able to take something from a dude just because of the physical strength and size that he has and i don't.

Im not talking about young boys being abused by older women, someone that's been drugged, tied up, or any other out of the norm circumstances. Im talking about an adult sized healthy grown man being physically raped by a regular woman. Its just hard for me to see.

 

[Cabbage Patch]

I'm sorry. You gotta be a weak ass nikka to get sexually assaulted by a chick.



And in all honesty I'd invite women to sexually assault me. And I'd enjoy every minute of that shyt. I wouldn't even put up a fight. Violate me. Please.

Even a woman you're repulsed by?