The official Handsome Nxgga Problems thread - all brehs and brehettes welcome

[Pazzy]

hate to say this but once upon a time, men were NOT so preoccupied with looking "pretty" or were so "vain". 10 years ago, it wasn't like this. folks basically used "pretty boy" or "meterosexual" for a guy who was way too concerned about his appearance to the point where he treated it like it was the most important thing that happened to him. it was women that were usually the ones preoccupied with appearance and looking right and shyt. 10 years later, shyt completely made a 180 and you have dudes thinking like women now. what happened?

not saying that this thread is bad BUT think it's kind of sad that dudes nowadays are like "admire me for my looks" instead of "admire me for what i do".

 

[2manyFCKNrappers]

These pretty boy problems sounding more and more like bytch made boy problems but Imma let ya'll finish.

You

 

[O.T.I.S.]

hate to say this but once upon a time, men were NOT so preoccupied with looking "pretty" or were so "vain". 10 years ago, it wasn't like this. folks basically used "pretty boy" or "meterosexual" for a guy who was way too concerned about his appearance to the point where he treated it like it was the most important thing that happened to him. it was women that were usually the ones preoccupied with appearance and looking right and shyt. 10 years later, shyt completely made a 180 and you have dudes thinking like women now. what happened?

not saying that this thread is bad BUT think it's kind of sad that dudes nowadays are like "admire me for my looks" instead of "admire me for what i do".

True...


My nickname in HS was actually "Pretty"... I hated that shyt on the low. And ZERO chicks at school fukked with me but everyone thought I always had the hoes


Even now, when we go out nikkas be expecting me to pull something... Like WATCHING me and waiting and 9/10 I do but not how they think i do.


Random shyt might happen around my boys like waitress leaving me her number, females rubbing up on me, or finesses chicks at the gym talking to me but that shyt NEVER happens when I'm alone.

Females at work assuming I'm a hoe


Head turns when I dress up

If I was taller it probably wouldn't even be fair

 

[O.T.I.S.]

This shyt right here. This shytttt Women act wayyy weirder when you good looking. And i also feel that if your game doesn't match your looks, they get repulsed. Like if you a good lookin, swagged out nikka...you almost always have to be a player and confident and cannot be awkward cuz the slightest whiff of insecurity they get from you...and its a wrap.

This too^^^^


Like once females get to know how weird, nerdy, and silly I am the automatically are like

I wouldn't say I'm insecure because I'm a lil too apathetic about other people in general but j do hate crowds...


At least a lot of black females (or wannabe other races) imo. Like they had this opinion in their head on how I should be. Usually other races are attracted to it and not the "player" look. So once they get to know me it's better to them

 

[Pazzy]

True...


My nickname in HS was actually "Pretty"... I hated that shyt on the low. And ZERO chicks at school fukked with me but everyone thought I always had the hoes


Even now, when we go out nikkas be expecting me to pull something... Like WATCHING me and waiting and 9/10 I do but not how they think i do.


Random shyt might happen around my boys like waitress leaving me her number, females rubbing up on me, or finesses chicks at the gym talking to me but that shyt NEVER happens when I'm alone.

Females at work assuming I'm a hoe


Head turns when I dress up

If I was taller it probably wouldn't even be fair

exactly, man. it's like us men are getting treated more like how women were treated back then where we're being sexually objectified, turning us into pieces of meat and etc. it's getting to the point where it seems like women are more and more getting bold and even molesting, sexually harassing and raping dudes now while @ the same time, they are slowly and surely dominating the workplace and the schools to the point where men are getting pushed to the back or are only being limited towards working certain jobs.

and yet dudes are not realizing it. women are taking over. hell, even the females that are objectifying their bodies where dudes are calling them "bytches" and going thirsty over them are even turning the tables on dudes. pretty sure that 20 years from now, you'll have guys all getting shirtless and dressing up sexually suggestive, at home taking care of the kids IF women allow them to stay in their lives and their kids lives, while women are the breadwinners.

 

[Mac Brown]

This too^^^^


Like once females get to know how weird, nerdy, and silly I am the automatically are like

I wouldn't say I'm insecure because I'm a lil too apathetic about other people in general but j do hate crowds...


At least a lot of black females (or wannabe other races) imo. Like they had this opinion in their head on how I should be. Usually other races are attracted to it and not the "player" look. So once they get to know me it's better to them

Are you my long lost twin breh?

 

[AAKing23]

Hell yeah.... Kind of like those people that are underconfident/have low self-esteem but for literally NO GOOD REASON (like myself). Imagine if Michael Jordan didn't think he could shoot a basket....

I think a lot of it stems from my childhood/teenage years (constant rejection and ridicule), and now it subconsciously fukks with me still.
I always "think" I see women checking me out or whatever. The thing is, I can never tell if i'm actually attractive to them or if they're giving signs.(it's always the "look away" thing). I always second-guess myself, so ain't no telling what I may have actually missed out upon. It's quite frustrating.....

Pretty much how I am, I think my adolescence pretty much scarred me. I'm definitely a good looking guy but I've battled with low self esteem and confidence my whole life. It's the battle I fight everyday Ain't nobody gonna see it in you if you don't see it yourself

 

[JayGatsby]

when i wake up and see a spot on my forehead

i get like a cutman in boxing n try and even it out

#HandsomeProblems

 

[Raiders]

when i wake up and see a spot on my forehead

i get like a cutman in boxing n try and even it out

#HandsomeProblems

What type of handsome problems are we talking about, I don't do all that maintenance stuff, cut my own hair and rarely edge it up, I can get ready for any event from a day at the park to a wedding in 5 min or less from the time I wake up. I dont spend much time in the mirror trying to make sure everything is perfect.












I wake up perfect

 

[FLYINHAWAIIAN]

Let me preface saying I aint complaining I like handsome problems.
At my last job when they introduced me to everyone the group of women was like "Woooo alright now HOW U DOIN"

I was helping a coworker move a box of stuff at work and she was taking everything as innuendo. she said "go in more, Boda" i moved the box back & said "go in?" she was like "hehe u so nasty" at lunch she gave me an oreo and said "you better eat that cookie"

When I'm in the store ladies be idling they engine just to wait for me to come out before they leave.

When I walk ladies do drive by yells like "Heeeeey Sexy! BIG DADDY OOOWWW!"

When ladies see me coming from a distance they look at me then start fixing their hair n stuff.

When one too many ladies start liking you in a new environment the dudes try to get those slick disses in "pshhh what you want Him for he aint nobody". It doesn't really matter how humble, well mannered and nice you are. Being humble actually makes ladies and hater dudes go harder. Gotta find right the balance for each environment.

Gimme some of your problems breh

 

[JayGatsby]

What type of handsome problems are we talking about, I don't do all that maintenance stuff, cut my own hair and rarely edge it up, I can get ready for any event from a day at the park to a wedding in 5 min or less from the time I wake up. I dont spend much time in the mirror trying to make sure everything is perfect.












I wake up perfect

 

[RiffRaff]

This too^^^^


Like once females get to know how weird, nerdy, and silly I am the automatically are like

I wouldn't say I'm insecure because I'm a lil too apathetic about other people in general but j do hate crowds...


At least a lot of black females (or wannabe other races) imo. Like they had this opinion in their head on how I should be. Usually other races are attracted to it and not the "player" look. So once they get to know me it's better to them

Wow...

Summed up my life in a couple sentences and he ain't even know it

Not to sound c00nish because I love black women, but I know 100% what you're talking about. I'm not overly corny like when you see a brother with a tight aeropostale shirt and can tell all his friends are CAC. But off bat I think they get this impression of this guy who should always come off super smooth, because no brag, I'm tall, pretty decent looking, likes to play ball and a lot of people I'm acquainted with are prominent/popular black people. Once they get to know me, they see I give off a "lame" and "subdued" impression and a lot of my actual GOOD friends are not what you consider "cool" themselves (I fukk with them more than my acquaintances because they have the same corny interest I have) so they are turned off by that. .

It's gotten better the older I've gotten, but because of this my entire life I've always had more success with women of other races especially white, I'm not really into white girls either


I think you might be me breh
My new one has a typical stuck up look to her, but come to find out she's as corny as me so I'm loving life right now

 

[DEAD7]

problem 1: being faithful
problem 2: being faithful
problem 3: mediocre bishes with mad potential thinking you are out of their league and uninterested.
problem 4: self imposed pressure to look sharp ie. shaved, hair cut, clean cloths, fresh breath etc.
problem 5: moms always telling her friends and co-workers how handsome her son is
problem 6: random hate from niqqas that feel dwarf'd* by your aura
problem 7: the insinuation that you shouldn't be broke based just off how you look
problem 8: having to evenly split your attention when out with "female friends", to keep any drama from arising
problem 9: the chick at the register not caring your with your girl/wife/s.o.
problem 10: Coli niqqas afraid to show they face swearin up & down they pull badder bishes than you
problem 11: Chicks in relationships recognizing you're an upgrade after a few minutes of convo creating awkward situations
problem 12: you mans girl recognizing you're an upgrade after a few minutes of convo creating an awkward situation
problem 13: older white women being too pleasant and nice
problem 14: Asian dudes cuffin unfathomably hard whenever you are near
problem 15: your niqqas not inviting you out cause bishes be choosin
problem 16: having to wing man close to the sun
problem 17: being faithful

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

Focus on the money breh


Being a handsome, PAID nikka >>>>>>>> ANYTHING ELSE IN LIFE

Work on upping your wardrobe game, maybe upping your crib (furniture, atmosphere, etc.,), education, working out (take a boxing class, or yoga.) and do all the shyt you want to do while you're inbetween women.


Not worrying about dates, gifts, or whatever and build yourself up

Oddly enough I think this is the best advice one could receive.

I'm doing my muay Thai, trying to plan my European backpacking trip/move. Doing some more reading, playing music and drawing and meditating. I'm also trying to eat better and work on my spirtuality

 

[swimmingpools]

I heard something along those lines too
How/Why is quietness a turnoff?

I prefer a quiet guy to a loud mouth attention seeker, if its any consolation. Its only a turn off if he's too quiet to keep a conversation going or if he's completely withdrawn because it makes me think he has little no interest in me.