All this can be avoided if couples just agree to a totally comprehensive DNA test on their kids. Paternity will be included in the package. Wouldnt you want to know if your child is susceptible to any genetic diseases? Cancer, diabetes, etc?
Too many men are worried about what the next man has access to and what he is or isnt doing and are comparing themselves to him. Some men will get wild buns but be miserable. Some men will get little to no buns or commitment from women but will be successful in other respects in life that the other man wish he had.
For example, I used to feel like i missed out in high school by not going out to parties and meeting girls, but I was the only one out of my friend group to get into college, graduate, and go on to complete a masters degree. I'm the only one of them that can afford to live alone in my own crib in the city. Those playboys I envied in high school went on to become fathers in their early 20s working jobs that are enough to feed the family and that's about it.
Live your life brehs, comparing and desiring what you dont have will just leave you consistently unsatisfied and bitter