Woman crushed by online dating -Asks Reddit Am I Ugly? (PHOTOS)(Update: she joined the coli pg 88)

[Killer Instinct]

It's amazing these women proclaiming that black men don't approach them then in another thread talking about street harrasment and cat calls.

 

[Timeis$]

Nope. Its definitely a real thing at the HS and sometimes university level.

I need to go to your area where women appreciate the nerdy black dudes because in mines most black women there prefer thugs and hypebeasts

I went to an HBCU and ate well from attractive black women who were not ghetto and weren't looking for thug or ghetto dudes.

I dont see how nikkas can say most attractive black women want thugs but my friends who aren't thugs practically have black women beating down the door...

Some of you just don't want to date black women and need an excuse just do you.

 

[KenyaDoll]

Yes. I'm telling you the vast majority of Black men aren't on some "dime piece or no piece" shyt. We just want a woman at the end of the day: someone who is feminine, pleasant, rides for us, etc.

Someone we wouldn't be ashamed to have chat with our moms and pops for 3 minutes unattended!

Black men don't have these laundry lists of requirements like you women do.

Have you ever seen a Black man talking about the woman has to make X money, be X height, drive X car, have X type of job, etc.? Men don't keep mental checklists. If we're feeling someone, we just move on it.

She has to have a big ass, big t*ts, an insane hip to waist ratio, preferably light skinned and a whole bunch of other bs (many attributes that you can't even work on).

Men and women want different things but men definitely have lists too.

 

[Blackout]

I went to an HBCU and ate well from attractive black women who were not ghetto and weren't looking for thug or ghetto dudes.

I dont see how nikkas can say most attractive black women want thugs but my friends who aren't thugs practically have black women beating down the door...

Some of you just don't want to date black women and need an excuse just do you.

Well looking at your username you don't sound very nerdy but that aside let's not pretend that praising the ghetto isn't an issue on our community.

It's good that you found black women who like you for being nerdy yet your area isn't the same as mine.

 

[KenyaDoll]

Well looking at your username you don't sound very nerdy but that aside let's not pretend that praising the ghetto isn't an issue on our community.

Lol you you're judging him as ghetto black thug because of his username. Some of y'all are worst than the racist white conservatives that you hate.

 

[Poitier]

I went to an HBCU and ate well from attractive black women who were not ghetto and weren't looking for thug or ghetto dudes.

I dont see how nikkas can say most attractive black women want thugs but my friends who aren't thugs practically have black women beating down the door...

Some of you just don't want to date black women and need an excuse just do you.

I can have my pick of BW now which was never disputed but where was the love before the accolades?

Once again, you are being obtuse if you don't think BW 16-22 aren't favoring athletes, rappers, swag/ d boys, etc

That or you are an upper crust negro

 

[Yup]

Yes or no question.
Are you opposed to dating inter-racially?

Yet you don't answer my question.

 

[Timeis$]

Well looking at your username you don't sound very nerdy but that aside let's not pretend that praising the ghetto isn't an issue on our community.

My user name?? Timeis$ is ghetto or thuggy to you??


But yes praising the ghetto is an issue in our community but I'm not going to label a whole gender as having hood rat mentalities.

 

[Blackout]

Lol you you're judging his as ghetto black thug because of his username. Some of y'all are worst than the racist white conservatives that you hate.

Where did I connect his username to a ghetto black thug?

I said it doesn't sound nerdy

Is that what you see when you see
his username? Thug or ghetto?

Sounds like the real issue is with you and projection to me

 

[GiGi]

The average American household makes like 50 something thousand , yet many women wouldn't look twice at a good dude with character making 25-30k, he's not on their level, he's "broke", he doesn't have the masters or the Lexus can't brag or impress my friends and family with a man like that.

Why would I date/marry a man who makes $25k if I make $70k? That makes no sense at all. And (black) men would NEVER tell a white woman to "settle".

 

[Killer Instinct]

Yet you don't answer my question.

I promise you'll get an answer if you indulge me.
It's simply yes or no.
Fairly simple.

 

[Blackout]

My user name?? Timeis$ is ghetto or thuggy to you??


But yes praising the ghetto is an issue in our community but I'm not going to label a whole gender as having hood rat mentalities.

Did I use the word ghetto or thug?

I said it doesn't sound nerdy

Nobody is labeling the whole gender just those who are affected

 

[Poitier]

Why would I date/marry a man who makes $25k if I make $70k? That makes no sense at all. And (black) men would NEVER tell a white woman to "settle".

Does a WM pay you?


*Kept concubine*

 

[mamba]

She has to have a big ass, big t*ts, an insane hip to waist ratio, preferably light skinned and a whole bunch of other bs (many attributes that you can't even work on).

Men and women want different things but men definitely have lists too.

Those things aren't dealbreakers for Black men. The vast majority of Black women you see gettin' wifed up don't look like what you've described.

Men have wants, but they aren't dealbreakers. That's the difference between men and women. Women's wants are dealbreakers! If a nikka doesn't meet her height requirement, for example, it ain't happening!

Black men marry women with flat asses, small t*ts and other characteristics, regularly. If she has all the other qualities he values, he isn't passing her up over some superficial shyt.

If a Black man isn't giving a Black woman without those superficial qualities any love, it's probably because she's lacking in the basics (femininity, personality, etc.)

 

[KenyaDoll]

Where did I connect his username to a ghetto black thug?

Is that what you see when you see
his username?

Sounds like the issue is with you and projection to me

you clearly judged him by his username to say he wasn't a nerd. Your whole back and forth with him is about women liking nerds versus thugs.

I'm not projecting. I'm calling it like it is. Y'all hurt dudes only serve to perpetuate negative stereotypes about black women and black men who are more successful than you at dating. Not every black man who is successful at dating is a thug. Maybe he is just interesting. If you can't attract women, maybe you should work on your personality.