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[KingFreeman]

Simp motherfukkers be deep off in they 30's trying to hand time and resources to women with nothing going on in their lives and/or don't respect them. Sacrificing self-worth and in some cases income to worship ass like its their God or something.

Once I had enough experience and hit a certain age, only a certain personality caliber of women even get to remain in my orbit.

 

[Gloxina]

All of this. Fact of the matter is many women these days grew up witnessing constant dysfunction and take away from all that that relationships are MEANT to be adversarial in nature. All that conflict and drama is basically the only way they know how to relate unfortunately.

And they even subconsciously seek out dysfunctional men to play this dynamic out with. Then when they get involved with a dude who aint about that bullshyt that actually treats them right, they dont know how to act. They will seek out and even manufacture dysfunctional bullshyt because that is all they know at this point.

Its pathological at this point. And arguing with them is only feeding the beast. The only way to win is literally not to play the game. Gotta shut that shyt down completely and absolutely. Even if that means walking away from them completely. Feeding into it in any way shape or form only validates that shyt in their mind.

Completely agree. Only thing I will say is that there are men like this as well.


You gotta check out at the FIRST sign of disrespect if you’re in a new situation. That person hasn’t earned your grace or understanding yet.

The issue is people wanna give folks a second chance, say “maybe he/she didn’t mean it”, etc.


Nah- FUKK THAT.

People are on their Ps and Qs when they are interacting with someone they really want. Never forget that.

Unless they are psycho, and using this method will weed them out anyway.

 

[The Half-Blood FKA Prince]

Completely agree. Only thing I will say is that there are men like this as well.


You gotta check out at the FIRST sign of disrespect if you’re in a new situation. That person hasn’t earned your grace or understanding yet.

The issue is people wanna give folks a second chance, say “maybe he/she didn’t mean it”, etc.


Nah- FUKK THAT.

People are on their Ps and Qs when they are interacting with someone they really want. Never forget that.

Unless they are psycho, and using this method will weed them out anyway.

Oh yeah, that sword definitely cuts both ways. Men and women, we both take our cues from what we witness growing up. This is how dysfunction perpetuates itself and snowballs. Each generation is passing down all the fukkery of the previous ones to the next and so on.

And u are correct. I had to learn this the hard way myself once about letting disrespect slide. We teach people how to treat us and when we tolerate disrespect of any form we are only signing off and giving the green light to them to escalate.

The issue for many of us is as u said, the only option at that point is to walk away. If u tolerate it it wil escalate. If u try to argue or fight back u are still only validating the abuse. U can neither let it slide nor put it up to debate. There can be NO DEBATE about how we allow people to treat us. And that is all that arguing really is. The only true way to combat it is to walk away altogether. Your basic human respect u are due can not be negotiable.

 

[Gloxina]

My ex was like that. I couldn't tell you why I tolerated it, probably because I was half a p*ssy. Like I wouldn't tolerate the speech, because we'd go at. But everytime I'd had enough, I didn't pull away because I felt like she needed my support. What's fukked up is I was probably almost as screwed in the head as her, I just showed it in different ways.

That was 10 years ago. If I even smell someone giving me a hint of that level of disrespect, I'll disappear like Batman.

It only takes one bruh , I always had resolve and restraint dealing with countless women, but it only took one who was feral and broken to hit below the belt and say shyt that'll get you ziptied and thrown over a bridge. especially when circumstances like OP was talking about.

Facts.

Also, not setting boundaries early on in the relationship.

When I was dating my now wife, she did something light which I still considered disrespectful. I didn't blow up. The next day I calmly told her I wouldn't tolerate any disrespect (because I don't do that to her). Even now when she's mad, she knows how to address issues.

If someone respects you they express themselves in a way that preserves your dignity.

Completely agree. Only thing I will say is that there are men like this as well.


You gotta check out at the FIRST sign of disrespect if you’re in a new situation. That person hasn’t earned your grace or understanding yet.

The issue is people wanna give folks a second chance, say “maybe he/she didn’t mean it”, etc.


Nah- FUKK THAT.

People are on their Ps and Qs when they are interacting with someone they really want. Never forget that.

Unless they are psycho, and using this method will weed them out anyway.

/thread

 

[Gloxina]

Oh yeah, that sword definitely cuts both ways. Men and women, we both take our cues from what we witness growing up. This is how dysfunction perpetuates itself and snowballs. Each generation is passing down all the fukkery of the previous ones to the next and so on.

And u are correct. I had to learn this the hard way myself once about letting disrespect slide. We teach people how to treat us and when we tolerate disrespect of any form we are only signing off and giving the green light to them to escalate.

The issue for many of us is as u said, the only option at that point is to walk away. If u tolerate it it wil escalate. If u try to argue or fight back u are still only validating the abuse. U can neither let it slide nor put it up to debate. There can be NO DEBATE about how we allow people to treat us. And that is all that arguing really is. The only true way to combat it is to walk away altogether. Your basic human respect u are due can not be negotiable.

Love this discourse.

 

[rabbid]

Unfortunately income insecurity plays a part. Alot of men and women are with people because it makes sense financially. So once either the money gets better to where they can support themselves, or it gets worse to where they can do better on their own, you start to see the real version and tolerance goes out the window. Maybe you have kids etc.

Usually you dont have arguments and situations like these until the 2nd or 3rd year minimum. So i dont blame anyone for not seeing it coming. But once she's openly disrespecting you its not going to get better. I think we all know a breh or two that lets his girl bytch him out on occasion. You just step back and watch the carnage. Same way people let fear stop them from pursuing their dream, they'll let fear keep them hostage in a relationship.

 

[Marlow Stanfield]

None of the women I've been with would think of saying some vile-ass shyt to me.
1. Out of respect for me.
2. Because they're not guttersnipe chicks.

If you find yourself in the unfortunate situation in the OP, leave. Walk tf out. Or, if she's at your place, put her tf out. She don't wanna leave? Call the police. Either way, don't give them what they want by engaging. Simply dead the situation right there.

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

I once busted a dude in the head with a glass kitchen scale because he said something greasy about a dead loved one. Glad he didn't beat my ass lol...honestly I think he legit had a concussion. I hope he got brain damage. He definitely still has the scar.

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

 

[Coco Loco]

Really? I know you get upset when men say shyt like this to women

No. Because if every woman a man dates is a horrible trash person, it's a reflection on him not them. That's a pattern of choosing trash.

Just like when a woman says men are trash. No, the men she keeps choosing are trash. If the same outcome keeps occurring, there's a common denominator

Like one time a breh on here made a thread about all of his exes were evil women and his relationships end horribly with him giving more than them. I said the same thing, he got offensive and said of course it's me and not the women, well yeah. In the end he admitted to choosing women who were users so he could feel wanted etc.

Chick told him she didn't want a relationship, instead of moving on he kept offering her things to keep her around. Of course she took them because she's a user ass bytch. Once I finished my Ted Talk, he realized she only came around when he offered things not because she wanted to be with him. He finally recognized the pattern. I hope he's doing better

Facts.

Also, not setting boundaries early on in the relationship.

When I was dating my now wife, she did something light which I still considered disrespectful. I didn't blow up. The next day I calmly told her I wouldn't tolerate any disrespect (because I don't do that to her). Even now when she's mad, she knows how to address issues.

If someone respects you they express themselves in a way that preserves your dignity.

THIS!!!!!!! OMG! I set boundaries for everyone. If you don't people will do whatever they want. I establish boundaries early to set the tone of what I will and won't allow. If they don't respect them IDC who they are, they can get tf on.

My friends always laugh at how quick I am to cut someone off. Life's too short to be annoyed, disrespected or constantly tried. My peace is paramount. I've realized people ignore red flags a lot. I pick them heauxs up and put them in my pocket lol

Maybe 10% of women aren't. I could go outside right now and throw a rock and hit 35 terrible women in a row. Good women are few and far in between.

This is why the passport movement grew.

I dont even like the movement but I do understand, cause Black women in America be on some other stuff. I speak on black women specifically because that's all I interact with.

Yeah you might need to sit on a couch babe. I could never imagine saying good men are far and few between. Have I encountered some horrible men, yes but to claim most men are shytty horrible people would have me self evaluating. That's not a healthy mindset

 

[Blessings]

If you are constantly attracting those situations, there is something about you, your energy, your choice of women, or the way you treat women. That is not normal behavior.

cuff women that dont respect you brehs

/thread

Women know who to do that bullshyt with
Nun with one dude, a pornstar with another
...they get their "act right" with the one they truly want

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]