15% of men don't have a close friend

[DetroitEWarren]

Mr.Bytches over here

Weird comment. I'd assume no bytches over there

 

[UpAndComing]

The best type friends are Business related

 

[NoirDynosaur]

Depends on the culture. We live in a individualistic culture. The United States is a transaction society, it treats people like they're disposable. Travel. Outside the US you'll find that relationships are a significant part of everyday life. Collectivism.

The problem with male relationships is men see other men as mere competition and do comparisons. Men usually bond through action based activities, business, humor, intellectual debates, plus if you ain't afraid to open up, the bond gets stronger and tight. Yes its hard to make friends as an adult, but there are exceptions!

Be a leader. Bring your own energy. Charisma, positive energy and confidence is tremendously influencial. Think of 2pac, DMX, Obama, Muhammed Ali, MLK, Michael Jackson, etc.

In High School, I just cold approached a lot of people from different walks of life and we just talked about random shyt. I was introverted as fukk didn't matter though, I just enjoyed making people laugh and feel cool.

 

[franknitty711]

My nephew just told me he didn’t have one today during his visit. He is 25 - and really does not have a social circle outside of his work.

I feel bad for the kid a little and hope if he meets a nice girl her friends will have some guys to chill with that are cool.

 

[semicko82]

Depends on the culture. We live in a individualistic culture. The United States is a transaction society, it treats people like they're disposable. Travel. Outside the US you'll find that relationships are a significant part of everyday life. Collectivism.

The problem with male relationships is men see other men as mere competition and do comparisons. Men usually bond through action based activities, business, humor, intellectual debates, plus if you ain't afraid to open up, the bond gets stronger and tight. Yes its hard to make friends as an adult, but there are exceptions!

Be a leader. Bring your own energy. Charisma, positive energy and confidence is tremendously influencial. Think of 2pac, DMX, Obama, Muhammed Ali, MLK, Michael Jackson, etc.

In High School, I just cold approached a lot of people from different walks of life and we just talked about random shyt. I was introverted as fukk didn't matter though, I just enjoyed making people laugh and feel cool.

This

 

[Rozay Oro]

Help you get over what?

If you trust someone enough to be your spouse why couldn't you feel that that's your best friend. If you can't lable your spouse as your best friend that shouldn't be your spouse... And I'm not talking about someone you're dating or been with for a few months bc that's not a spouse yet.

Your spouse is still not your friend. You have to remain the nikka that got her.

 

[Sex Luthor]

Your spouse is still not your friend. You have to remain the nikka that got her.

How does her being your friend make less of a man?

 

[frush11]

The best type friends are Business related

The best type off friends, are actual friends, regardless off the type

 

[UpAndComing]

The best type off friends, are actual friends, regardless off the type

Do "actual friends" exist in large numbers? That's the point. We can have an ideal of what a real friend is, but not alot ever fit the bill

My view is maybe 4-5 best friends you will meet in your entire life who are like family. The rest for business. The rest are not really your friend

 

[etrofllenrod504]

It's easy to lose close friends when you transition from high school to college to real life as guys move away and go to different stages of life. Still possible to keep in touch though, but it depends on some factors.

But making friends is different as you get older. Im not a cynic, but a hell of a lot of men are insecure and only want to associate with cats that are similar to them, or in the same circles.

This wasn't always the case but sometimes I'd try and make 'friends' in college and beyond but because I wasn't in the same social group, took care of my appearance to a better standard, got more hoes, etc. I'd face passive aggressiveness and indifference

That type of insecurity goes hand in hand with simping, but that's another discussion.

Alot of truth in this. Reason I feel im not as close to a few of my friends that I use to be as I got older.

 

[KingFreeman]

How does her being your friend make less of a man?

If you're spouse has any type of value and isn't just some frumpy woman, the moment you start being too 'friendlike' with her, she'll start to resent you. It won't happen right away, but eventually.

You can be close to her of course, but there's levels to it.

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

Do you need to be a physicist to know that if you throw something at the sky, it will fall back down? No. It's a fact of life.

You don't need to be a genius to know how important money and financial stability is to women. Everybody knows that. It's a fact of life that you can't hold a woman down if you don't bring that to the table. A friend on the other hand could give two fukks about what you make and where you work at.

Just a couple of weeks ago a guy I know got dumped by his woman after she got a new, better job. She dumped him because, quote, "you aren't good enough for me anymore." Dude was shattered about it. He left his kids behind with his ex-wife in a different state to be with her (she was also a divorced mother). They're 40 and 36 respectively, so they're not young either. He thought that their shared experience of being divorcees with children and with awful ex-spouses was an unbreakable bond between them. He thought wrong. As soon as she started getting close to six figures, she immediately decided that she couldn't be seen with a guy who drives a bus for a living anymore. Never mind that she had been divorced twice and that this guy, though he doesn't have a great job, was by far her longest relationship and by far the best father figure her daughter had ever had. It was all about money to her. You call that friendship?

There isn't a man alive who hasn't heard that story being told on many occasions by another at the least. Many would have experienced it themselves.

The ex couple in your example were unequally yoked.

 

[Sex Luthor]

If you're spouse has any type of value and isn't just some frumpy woman, the moment you start being too 'friendlike' with her, she'll start to resent you. It won't happen right away, but eventually.

You can be close to her of course, but there's levels to it.

So you would share a living space, life, and children with someone you can't consider your best friend? That sounds dumb as hell. Sounds like you're waiting for her to hate you and that's no way to live in a relationship. All women aren't the same

I've been with my woman since high school and we in our 30s now. We've obviously been thru shyt together but I can honestly say she's my best friend.

 

[ChatGPT-5]

the older i get the less friends i have.

just last friday i hit up my boy "yo, lets go drinking' he hit me back with 'man i wish but i gotta take my daughter to rehearsal tomorrow'
cant even be mad at it. its not like the old days, all these fools have multiple kids now. GMB

 

[Rozay Oro]

How does her being your friend make less of a man?

I didn’t say that. Maybe I’m wrong but woman stay on some other shyt