15% of men don't have a close friend

[Ziploc]

As I got older, I realized that friends I grew up with,for the most part couldn't get past their roles within the group and tried to keep that same dynamic going. I grew up,went through some shyt and evolved from it. The things I valued about the friendship just seemed to become less important to me. My brother, first cousin and one true friend that remained are my best friends in that regard. I distrust people that have a lot
of "friends" and cling to the approval and insertion into each other's life.

 

[Sex Luthor]

I didn’t say that. Maybe I’m wrong but woman stay on some other shyt

I'm just trying to understand what you're saying. Not saying you're right or wrong. I don't know your women or life

 

[Sex Luthor]

The best type off friends, are actual friends, regardless off the type

I think this is part of the reason this thread is everywhere. nikkas these days don't have real friends so the don't understand what to expect from them. Everybody talking about getting value from a friend. It shouldn't be like that. Friends should bring fun, truth and support.

 

[Sex Luthor]

My nephew just told me he didn’t have one today during his visit. He is 25 - and really does not have a social circle outside of his work.

I feel bad for the kid a little and hope if he meets a nice girl her friends will have some guys to chill with that are cool.

I feel like it's harder for adults bc we have jobs and shyt to take care of. The reason why most people's friends are people they work with bc that's where we spend most of our time.

 

[TAYLONDO SAMSWORTHY]

No, that doesn't work like that. A partner is not a friend.

Think about just one small example. Say you want to quit your job to pursue your life dream. Maybe you always wanted to travel the world. You tell your friend about your plan. He will support you one hundred percent. Go do what makes you happy, he'll say. Work and money can always wait.

Now go tell your woman the same thing, she will be liable to murder you. How dare you quit your job, sacrifice financial stability, give up your career, to follow your stupid life dream, she will demand. What about me, what about us? You're so selfish, etc. She will fight you every step of the way.

This is not because women are bad or anything like that. That's not what I'm saying. What I am saying is that your relationship partner will never be your friend, because a relationship is not a friendship. You can walk out of your friends life anytime and walk straight back in when you please. As long as you explain to them before you leave that you are going to pursue your life dream, your friend will be fine. They'll support you even.

You can't do that with your relationship partner. A relationship is never about you, what's best for you, what makes you happy. Instead it's always about us, what's best for us. And that means compromise.

 

[Hey_zeus]

I got two close friends that are basically brothers(grew up in the dirt together) been rocking 25+ years. We just spread out all over the city so it's hard to connect with work etc. But them my dudes to the end. Need to make a better effort connecting with them in person this year.

 

[HARLEM AL]

Some grown motherfukas still have the life experience of teenagers. They still don't know female nature after all of this free knowledge that's been put out over the past couple years.

Like I always say, women start learning to sniff out success and clout naturally around kindergarten age. I'm not cynical, but dudes don't realize women never love you for you. It's what you can do for them, or how you make them feel.

Men just enabling all types of fukkery

Someone that knows the truth….

 

[HARLEM AL]

No, that doesn't work like that. A partner is not a friend.

Think about just one small example. Say you want to quit your job to pursue your life dream. Maybe you always wanted to travel the world. You tell your friend about your plan. He will support you one hundred percent. Go do what makes you happy, he'll say. Work and money can always wait.

Now go tell your woman the same thing, she will be liable to murder you. How dare you quit your job, sacrifice financial stability, give up your career, to follow your stupid life dream, she will demand. What about me, what about us? You're so selfish, etc. She will fight you every step of the way.

This is not because women are bad or anything like that. That's not what I'm saying. What I am saying is that your relationship partner will never be your friend, because a relationship is not a friendship. You can walk out of your friends life anytime and walk straight back in when you please. As long as you explain to them before you leave that you are going to pursue your life dream, your friend will be fine. They'll support you even.

You can't do that with your relationship partner. A relationship is never about you, what's best for you, what makes you happy. Instead it's always about us, what's best for us. And that means compromise.

Amen…..

 

[Rozay Oro]

I'm just trying to understand what you're saying. Not saying you're right or wrong. I don't know your women or life

Women aren’t our friends. They’re looking for something better or to be dominated/g checked. If that was the case their would be a lot less (initiated) divorces.

 

[frush11]

Do "actual friends" exist in large numbers? That's the point. We can have an ideal of what a real friend is, but not alot ever fit the bill

My view is maybe 4-5 best friends you will meet in your entire life who are like family. The rest for business. The rest are not really your friend

Then they are professional/business associates not friends.

 

[franknitty711]

I feel like it's harder for adults bc we have jobs and shyt to take care of. The reason why most people's friends are people they work with bc that's where we spend most of our time.

very true. Nothing wrong with that - forging new relationships is okay too.

Me personally I separate my work from personal. Ive got my circle of friends but as we have gotten older and have so much going on its much smaller. The smaller circle is much tighter tho, and I appreciate them very much

 

[International Playa]

I wish I had a solid group of close friends, like u see in movies

Most of the "friends" I have is brehs I can go to a bar/nightclub, play ball with etc, but not friends I could call when I'm stuck in some real life shyt

I suspect a majority of people don't have real friends they can call on when life gets tough

 

[DapMeUp!]

This GIF

 

[Piff Perkins]

85% of men have a man?

 

[RicanFury]

if youre not a fan of social media...this makes sense.