17-Year-Old Asked His Dad If He Could Go On A Day Date With A Young Lady From School (FATHER REPLY INSIDE)

[Silver Surfer]

Prolly something a woman wrote impersonating a man

 

[Jamal514]

Coli Fathers, would you have a similar response? If not what would you say?

Unfit parenting. The dad must be a male feminist

 

[Smokee Robinson]

Fake af.. tell your son to be honored his goof troop ass got picked to pay for everything and go out like a chump.. who makes this type of shyt up

 

[Sister Mary Clarence]

Are u cappin for a dappin? Cause u beggin for a neggin

 

[Uachet]

You not the only married one, but congrats on 26 my brother, real talk.

If you revisit what I said about the “Boss” statement, I was saying that that term isn’t literal. Every dude I know calls his wife the “boss” of the house, or “I just listen to her” - but it’s not literal, it’s somewhat jokingly. As, yes, I listen to her and she be right about a lot, but I’m not literally in my home or out in public getting bossed around like a subordinate, or being told to what to buy and when to clean up or no lame shyt like that - but I’ve also never seen this have to be explained.

What part of what I said did you get doormat out of?

That’s why I went so hard. It’s like dudes here (not saying you) go so hard online and be lame, worshipping YouTubers, posting weirdo behavior and dapping ugly white women pics, but the dudes yall wanna be like in real life or the real “tough” or got it together men offline def do not talk or act like what ppl here portray.

It’s like you can be a 6figure 6 cert 6 foot brother that every one respects and wants to follow while still being all of those things to your lady.

Where the nuance is being lost is, if you finding your lady with 6 others on Collins Ave on South Beach at KOD and she talking crazy and trying to get you to rent a Lambo, maybe it’s your mistake you got played lmao

I said most of what you said is perfectly fine. My main point is that the advice about how to treat women should start with advice about self-respect. The true source of finding a good woman worthy of respect and love is first to feel you are worthy of respect and love. Without that, many will pick poorly. People can take advantage of you if you are not self-aware and lack discernment when dating. That is why being one-sided about the advice can lead to his son being disappointed or outright used.

On your last point, I agree. He needs to recalibrate his picker if he finds himself in that situation. Where I think we disagree is the part where a father can help his son avoid that pitfall by being honest with him about relationships and types of women. I believe a father should teach his son not only how to treat a good woman, but also how to pick a good woman.

I've had talks like this with my younger brother (I am old enough to be his father) and nephews. What I wrote here I have said to them. My daughter, younger sisters, and nieces have received this same talk that mirrors what I have said to the males. Since really, the idea is generally the same for both sexes. Self-respect is the Alpha while respect for your significant other is the Omega in my opinion.

So I am firmly against advice that can be construed as encouraging simping. That is probably not what you intended in your statements, but that is the impression I got from some of the "Father's" advice. In reality, I do not believe the story is true. It is possible, but I doubt it.

 

[Piff Perkins]

Calling your Son goofy within this context is breaking down his self esteem and putting him in the mind-state that its a miracle some girl would be interested in him. Thats not only terrible advice thats TERRIBLE parenting

It's clearly in jest. Calling your kid "goofy" is not some insult, or comparable to calling a child stupid/dumb/etc. My dad called my style - or lack thereof - goofy. I called his style - including wearing socks with sandals - goofy.

 

[Amestafuu (Emeritus)]

it never even occurred to me to ask a parent for permission to date.

 

[The G.O.D II]

What type of Walton’s ass 1870s shyt is this?

 

[Peachstate]

Upper middle class family men wouldn't bat an eye at any of this. I know from experience.

 

[Hov]

I said most of what you said is perfectly fine. My main point is that the advice about how to treat women should start with advice about self-respect. The true source of finding a good woman worthy of respect and love is first to feel you are worthy of respect and love. Without that, many will pick poorly. People can take advantage of you if you are not self-aware and lack discernment when dating. That is why being one-sided about the advice can lead to his son being disappointed or outright used.

On your last point, I agree. He needs to recalibrate his picker if he finds himself in that situation. Where I think we disagree is the part where a father can help his son avoid that pitfall by being honest with him about relationships and types of women. I believe a father should teach his son not only how to treat a good woman, but also how to pick a good woman.

I've had talks like this with my younger brother (I am old enough to be his father) and nephews. What I wrote here I have said to them. My daughter, younger sisters, and nieces have received this same talk that mirrors what I have said to the males. Since really, the idea is generally the same for both sexes. Self-respect is the Alpha while respect for your significant other is the Omega in my opinion.

So I am firmly against advice that can be construed as encouraging simping. That is probably not what you intended in your statements, but that is the impression I got from some of the "Father's" advice. In reality, I do not believe the story is true. It is possible, but I doubt it.

I can agree with that. And I 99% believe the post is very fake

 

[MurderToCassette]

Sounds ghostwritten by the wife

 

[Houston911]

dad is a clown

 

[NatiboyB]

Why did he lie to his son like this

 

[Mac Brown]

Honestly , 17 girls are no where near mature enough to even receive and appreciate anything pops was spitting. Bad advice...would have been better if he just gave him a curfew and said have fun.

 

[Peachstate]

Honestly , 17 girls are no where near mature enough to even receive and appreciate anything pops was spitting. Bad advice...would have been better if he just gave him a curfew and said have fun.

False.
My oldest and her first boyfriend were like this. He was a gentleman and she was gracious and grateful.

Some kids are being raised a certain way with certain values that may sound strange to most, but it's not strange in our circle.