18 Ugly Truths About Modern Dating
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LMAO, for real, man, I'm 22 so it's not just you telling
Modern women created us monsters and these games. Women like to chase like men.
1. The main problem today is women over-appraising themselves. You have average looking chicks only looking to date top notch guys. Top notch guys will only smash these chicks. Then the chicks screams foul and men ain't sh:t when there's an average guy right there in the friendzone.
2. "He's too nice" Never heard that until I moved to the east coast.
1. The main problem today is women over-appraising themselves. You have average looking chicks only looking to date top notch guys. Top notch guys will only smash these chicks. Then the chicks screams foul and men ain't sh:t when there's an average guy right there in the friendzone.
2. "He's too nice" Never heard that until I moved to the east coast.
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This is sadly all truth. Even the people in here decrying it are probably guilty of at least a few of those things. The only thing you can do is realize that if you see this list and don't like the games, there must be plenty of your gender of choice who feel the same way. Move on from those that play games quickly and find the ones with your same mindset.
Glad I'm not in the dating scene anymore though
Glad I'm not in the dating scene anymore though
Do I love the list? Yes.
But the most important lesson on that list is #7:
The only difference between your actions being romantic and creepy is how attractive the other person finds you. That’s it, that’s all.
That is, and has always been the most important lesson with dating. Good looking people MAKE the rules that are followed in a relationship.
There should've been an even MORE important ugly truth #19: You're probably not the only person they are talking to, flirting with or sleeping with. They're most likely in their transition away from an ex phase. Which oddly, for most people, takes years (do the math - you share that). The moment you both agree to be boyfriend and girlfriend, is probably the FIRST time they're not texting other people they are attracted to and entertaining other dating options. THAT my friends is modern dating.
But the most important lesson on that list is #7:
The only difference between your actions being romantic and creepy is how attractive the other person finds you. That’s it, that’s all.
That is, and has always been the most important lesson with dating. Good looking people MAKE the rules that are followed in a relationship.
There should've been an even MORE important ugly truth #19: You're probably not the only person they are talking to, flirting with or sleeping with. They're most likely in their transition away from an ex phase. Which oddly, for most people, takes years (do the math - you share that). The moment you both agree to be boyfriend and girlfriend, is probably the FIRST time they're not texting other people they are attracted to and entertaining other dating options. THAT my friends is modern dating.
Actually, another ugly truth that was missed:
- Watch out for people that attempt to make a distinction between the following: talking to, sleeping with, dating. Example, person A who only fukks person B, will omit knowing that person to Person C. So when you ask them, are you talking to anyone one, its an automatic NO. It's a lie, but according to Person A its the truth, because their relationship with Person B does not involve "talking to" activities (whatever that may be).
Example, person A has a lively texting relationship with person B. But it's never, for some reason, turned into anything more. It's considered harmless flirting, even though they've probably shared pics (naked or clothed) and have probably openly spoke about sexual acts. But because no "real" emotions have been conveyed or acted upon, when you ask Person A if they're talking to anyone, it will be disregarded. The relationship does not fall within the realm of "talking to" or "dating" according to their defined rules. Even though the things they've done/shared with them are things you'd only expect between boyfriend and girlfriend.
Example, person A has slept over person B's house. At most they've only kissed. If you ask them if they're sleeping with someone, they will reply, "No *awkward silence* but I am involved with someone." Good luck figuring out that puzzle.
- Watch out for people that attempt to make a distinction between the following: talking to, sleeping with, dating. Example, person A who only fukks person B, will omit knowing that person to Person C. So when you ask them, are you talking to anyone one, its an automatic NO. It's a lie, but according to Person A its the truth, because their relationship with Person B does not involve "talking to" activities (whatever that may be).
Example, person A has a lively texting relationship with person B. But it's never, for some reason, turned into anything more. It's considered harmless flirting, even though they've probably shared pics (naked or clothed) and have probably openly spoke about sexual acts. But because no "real" emotions have been conveyed or acted upon, when you ask Person A if they're talking to anyone, it will be disregarded. The relationship does not fall within the realm of "talking to" or "dating" according to their defined rules. Even though the things they've done/shared with them are things you'd only expect between boyfriend and girlfriend.
Example, person A has slept over person B's house. At most they've only kissed. If you ask them if they're sleeping with someone, they will reply, "No *awkward silence* but I am involved with someone." Good luck figuring out that puzzle.
I agree with this in some of the scenarios listed,but at the same time I believe im smarter than alota these bytches
...sometimes the game is just begging to be beaten
...But I do agree you should never lose yaself trying to outsmart it though
newworldafro
DeeperThanRapBiggerThanHH
the fact that this eloquent and truthful writeup is coming from homeboy has me done..........
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*L*E*G*A*C*Y*
Done.
This is all true.
biblical
Hoes that usually approach a dude got so much balls they can care less. You think she won't approach another dude the same way she approached u?FLAKING with women in this generation is ridiculous. I'm not even talking chicks YOU sought out and gamed to, I'm talking women who came up to YOU to tell you that they found you attractive. How the fukk does THE CHICK make the initial approach and STILL flake?
Im one of those "im talking to somebody right now
" people I must say...Its a nice payoff when you honest and the woman wont play stupid down the line after she catches feelings
But lets be honest,how many women emotionally are grown up enough to do that? Women cant handle the truth,and even if they seem to be handling it now,who knows if she will be able to handle it once her feelings are involved...who knows if she was ever handling it,or if she was just pretending because she figured she would be able to change you and maker herself the one and only
Its certainly a lot easier to tell a woman you single and aint messin wit nobody but her when yall first meet,suprisingly women still believe it....women being stupid and naïve is the real problem,and men not having the guts to lose out on some puzzy by being honest is the next. You really have to have the same patience you have with your child if you wanna be honest with women and challenge and fforce them to challenge all the bullshyt they think they know......the payoff is big,but sometimes u just want puzzy,and u wont know until you get the puzzy...so who really wants to make it harder on themselves BEFORE they get the puzzy..so many moving parts its complex,always has been always will be.
The Devil's Advocate
Call me Dad
my god if this isn't the most true 18 statements i've ever heard in my life
mainly because i'm known to do all the above... but also hear about nikkas doing the exact same shyt and i don't even know them nikkas... so much truth... but i can' t post this on my fb cause too many chicks will recognize the game
You nikkaz really have to make everything about race, don't you? It's not that hard: If a chick isn't fukking with you, for WHATEVER reason then take her off your radar
Some of you dudes spend too much time worrying about women that aren't interested in you for whatever reason. If a chick isn't interested in black guys so what? Find someone that is and go about your life
11. So many people are scared of commitment and being official that they’ll remain in a label-free relationship, which blurs lines and only works until it doesn’t. I’ve said it many times before, I’ll say it again – “we’re just talking” is opening the door for cheating that technically wasn’t cheating because, hey, you weren’t together together.
This one is real as fukk. I was one of these types, just now getting over it ... but there's nothing like being in a label-free relationship and still being able to do whatever you want. But I lost a good girl over that, so I learned the hard way how that can turn out.