18 Ugly Truths About Modern Dating

JLova

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most of the list is "true" but there is a simple solution to all of it. simply don't try to outsmart the game. whatever you bid in the game (time, money, emotion, body, energy, reputation, your security, etc) you bid it in order to maybe gain more. just remember that you never have to play and it's always your choice. and if you do choose to play, be at peace with the possibility that you might lose what you bid in. if you can't afford it, don't buy in.

the problem with us is that we always want to outsmart the game.

On point. Folk just need to be honest with themselves and the person they're seeing. I think if you're looking for a meaningful relationship you shouldn't fukk quickly. You should try to build a friendship first. Get to know who the fukk you're dealing with first.
 

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Breh, we have to play if we want p*ssy. Like it or not nature made US the hunters, unless you're strikingly good looking, rich, or have the GOAT personality/social circle then you're not gonna get laid by choosing not to play the game :ld:
step back a little and observe the people around you. check out how people interact with eachother and with you. shut down all the approbation and attention seeking within you (something we all do because it's natural) for a few days and just observes how people act.you will notice some chicks jocking you. sometimes we get into our own way when trying to accomplish goals.

i'm not saying to never play if you want to play. what i'm saying is, don't go all in cause you might not be able to afford the loss.

as far as not playing the game, you will still get laid as long as you're at peace with choosing within the ones who have already chosen you. choose the ones who are cooperating already. choose the ones who have already chosen who they want to serve. as soon as she tries to flip the script, you treat her accordingly. but see this will take discipline. you will have to sacrifice some p*ssy over principle. ironically, this strength will end up attracting more chicks who will offer you what the have to give to get you.


it might sound weird but at the end of the day, it's all about what we choose and what we accept. even our beliefs are a choice. The beliefs we choose to hold on to so strongly can be what limits us. We are the architects of our own prisons.
 

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be yourself, don't worry about how she views you (because your a confident individual), fukk her good, never act as if you are pressed and your as good as a new foreign whip....

live within yourself, never get extra or try switchin it up to appease her.... these women love nikkas who are confident, somewhat rude but still caring, and themselves.... they keep the over the top, corny, always in character nikkas around to play with...

remember simple yet effective is what it is, never get to doing too much and overthinking... find ya flow and go with it...
 

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4. Making phone calls is a dying art. Chances are, most of your relationship’s communication will happen via text, which is the most detached, impersonal form of interaction. Get familiar with those emoticon options.

:to:
 

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be yourself, don't worry about how she views you (because your a confident individual), fukk her good, never act as if you are pressed and your as good as a new foreign whip....

live within yourself, never get extra or try switchin it up to appease her.... these women love nikkas who are confident, somewhat rude but still caring, and themselves.... they keep the over the top, corny, always in character nikkas around to play with...

remember simple yet effective is what it is, never get to doing too much and overthinking... find ya flow and go with it...

My woman has gotten mad at me and called me an a$$hole a handful of times.
I wonder if thats good
Hmm :ohhh:
 

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7. The only difference between your actions being romantic and creepy is how attractive the other person finds you. That’s it, that’s all.
:damn: at how real this is.

I think about this with practically every check I interact with.

17. There are plenty of people who’ll have zero respect for your relationship and if they want the person you’re with, they’ll have no qualms with trying to overstep boundaries to get to ‘em. Girl code and guy code are wishful thinking and human code isn’t embedded in everyone.

18. If you get dumped, it’s probably going to be pretty brutal. People can cut ties over the phone and avoid seeing the tears stream down your face or end things via text and avoid hearing the pain in your cracking voice and sniffling nose. Send a lengthy text and voilà, relationship over. The easy way out is far from the most considerate.
:damn::damn::damn:
 
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:damn: at how real this is.

I think about this with practically every check I interact with.


:damn::damn::damn:

yeah old news

let a ugly nugga driving a ford pinto say hey ma and grab her hand gtfo away from me nygga,

let that dude look like trey songz driving a luxury car, oh hes so aggressive i like that in a man.

more men need to realize this its why if a chick aint feelign you then :camby:
 

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3. A person being carefree because they have zero interest in you looks exactly like a person being carefree because they think you’re amazing & are making a conscious effort to play it cool. Good luck deciphering between the two.

7. The only difference between your actions being romantic and creepy is how attractive the other person finds you. That’s it, that’s all.

I think females call this courting/dating.
 

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FLAKING with women in this generation is ridiculous. I'm not even talking chicks YOU sought out and gamed to, I'm talking women who came up to YOU to tell you that they found you attractive. How the fukk does THE CHICK make the initial approach and STILL flake? :mindblown:

she's just playing her part in courting, this is what she was taught, no? :mjpls:

flaking is a learned attribute. easily corrected attribute, but if you're told you're right all of your life, why would you think you need to change? :lupe:
 
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