35 year old Black woman wonders why she and her desirable friends are still single.

[lib123]

A lot of them got attitudes like this then wonder why they single.

 

[Jazzy B.]

@Voice of Reason UPDATE the title breh


We had a PROTO BEDWENCH HERE

 

[Rekkapryde]

my nikka look like son

 

[threattonature]

Yep. My ex was like that. According to her I’m the first man that treated her great and how does she reward me, by leaving a good healthy relationship.

And the fukked up part is family and friends sit back and watch them do it. You’d think family and friends would be like “you finally won and found a good guy don’t fukk this up”

It’s funny cause in all these brehs stories and mine the chicks suddenly wanna be alone and aren’t emotionally available to work on themselves when they finally get in a good situation but won’t do that and leave in abusive bad relationships. It’s very strange man.

I just broke up with a woman like that last week. She was 39. Never had a long term relationship. Spoke often on how shocked she was to be with such a stable man who was truthful and straightforward in my words. She was used to guys putting her through an emotional roller coaster and was surprised how she didn't have to deal with that with me. Yet every time she'd talk to family and friends all of a sudden she'd start feeling something was off with the relationship. Or at times she would blow up the smallest issue then go to the friends and fam who would do nothing but hype her up and flame the situation.

I pointed out to her that maybe the reason she hasn't had a long term relationship is because she doesn't have a positive support system around her and that they enabling her worst behaviors. Eventually after the 5th or 6th tantrum over the smallest thing I had to end it. It was funny because when I'd try to convince her to think things through first and decide if the issue was big enough to throw tantrums over her defense is that she just has word vomit and is emotional and that's just her and I just have to learn how to deal with it. No accountability or no willingness to work on her issues or change.

 

[Savvir]

The idea isn't to change the game, it's to pick the right person to play it with.

Lowkey it seems like a lot of women that we hear complaining are struggling to adapt to aging out of their prime. It’s like a dude who made $500K a year when he was 23 and now he’s making $75K a year at 35 complaining about not being able to pull the same quality of women.

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