35 year old Black woman wonders why she and her desirable friends are still single.

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Had my first truly weird dating experience. I’m living in the DMV now after leaving the west coast. Met a girl on Hinge. 32, never married or engaged, no kids. But also admitted to never having been in a serious relationship outside of an off and on thing for three years with an older guy (first big red flag). Ended up seeing this girl for about a month. Things seemed to be progressing. Constantly talking about a future. Wanted me to attend her church with her. Was talking about us taking a trip this summer. All of a sudden I get a random text one evening saying she wasn’t “emotionally available” to give a “great guy” like me the time and attention I deserve :skip: . I just replied thanks for being honest (:mjlol:) and told her to take care of herself. I say all that to say these women are lost out here. And I’ll keep it a buck, my last two relationships were with a German and a Persian girl. They didn’t play these kinds of games. I’m trying to be intentional with building a black family— but they don’t make it easy.
Unfortunately we know that means. She wasn't fully single as most women aren't on these dating apps. They’re either just getting out of a relationship within that month, got an ex trying to get back with them or in a non-committed situationship. Very rarely are women going to be "celibate" when you're meeting them they getting clapped up you just so happen to be next up.

Past a certain age (25 max) other groups of women don’t put as much weight on looks. Brehettes get caught up chasing the same small group of guys then wonder why they end up in situationships.
 

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I hate when women post shyt like this. There are plenty of men outchea that would be in a committed relationship with her but I can already tell she wants a man that every women wants looks, height, money and status all rolled in one.
hence the social media "work" she just advertising
 

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I watched. She complained about hinge saying she cant get off to some tidbits about a person and connect with surface level stuff and needs to meet in person to figure out someone's vibe...no shyt thats exactly why on hinge you're supposed to move off the app quickly and go on a date and talk to only a few people at a time. A lot of people dont know how to use dating apps effectively. Imagine talking to somebody on app for weeks at a time :mjlol:
women use it to find perfection, not realizing online presence is mostly highlights and facades...
 

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:mjlol: had this happen the other month these women are crazy.
they on the apps tryna find unicorns. very few women on those apps are worth a damn. think about it, what do we want as men? simple shyt, nice disposition, can take care of herself and her living space (cooks and cleans) simple adult life skills, decent looking 6-8/10 in looks works for most men out here. now what does she want? tupac in a fukking suit. gawdddd dm
 

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Every question that should be ask

What does your baby daddy do for a living
How much money does you’re baby daddy was making while u two was together
Does your baby daddy pay child support

80% of the time the child father isn’t near the qualities what they looking for now
 

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Yep. My ex was like that. According to her I’m the first man that treated her great and how does she reward me, by leaving a good healthy relationship.

And the fukked up part is family and friends sit back and watch them do it. You’d think family and friends would be like “you finally won and found a good guy don’t fukk this up”

It’s funny cause in all these brehs stories and mine the chicks suddenly wanna be alone and aren’t emotionally available to work on themselves when they finally get in a good situation but won’t do that and leave in abusive bad relationships. It’s very strange man.
i think it's a self esteem thing. she's probably a POS at heart and believes she doesn't deserve a good thing. she was probably cheating the whole time. it be like that.
 
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