40 Dating a 21 Year Old

truth2you

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They didn't have any money to give :mjlol:. All their money went to child support and alimony. I had my own money. Never needed theirs and never asked. Sex was decent with the first but that wore off real quick. The relationship was lacking and we had nothing in common. Most women don't stick around for sex only. They stick around for other qualities and the particular guys I dated didn't really have any desirable qualities. In the end I felt grossed out. It took a little while for me to realize it but one day I woke up, saw them for what they were and bounced.
You just proved my point!

Go back & read my post. If you had some good dingaling, your story would be different, BUT thankfully it wasn't good because you don't need to be dikk drunk with someone like that, they would destroy your life. I believe a woman should get something out of a relationship. I like to teach how to have the best sex, and teach her how to get money, and avoid foul people in her life. Some chicks don't like me telling them what to do, but those chicks get the:camby:
 

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You just proved my point!

Go back & read my post. If you had some good dingaling, your story would be different, BUT thankfully it wasn't good because you don't need to be dikk drunk with someone like that, they would destroy your life. I believe a woman should get something out of a relationship. I like to teach how to have the best sex, and teach her how to get money, and avoid foul people in her life. Some chicks don't like me telling them what to do, but those chicks get the:camby:
Doubt it. Most men think they have have good sex but I could get the same with a vibrator. If you only bring sex to the table I have no use for you. And you ignored the part where I said we had nothing in common and in the end I felt grossed out. Those type of relationships are not for me.
 

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Ok! I see your point but I really don’t think someone that age can speak with the same nuances and insight of someone who has lived longer and experiences more. Yes, we can talk about the same thing, but we will come to different conclusions and understandings because of the life we have lived or have yet to live. For example, I understand how people can end up in bad situations so much better now than my 20 year old self. I get the grey area in a way I couldn’t when I was younger.

As for a woman dating an already established man, on one hand this is great, but that means she is robbed of the experience of becoming established herself through experience. Struggle molds people. A 20 year old who is coddled and taken care of will grow into a 30 year old with the same mentality.

Of course there are exceptions to everything. I believe that after 30 age doesn’t matter but the 20s are still babies.
To me, being guided is way better then falling on your face all the time because you might not come back. look at all the older people in their 30's who are beat up about life, how do you think they got that way? NO PROPER GUIDANCE! And we are men, so its kind of different for us, women don't come back so easily. you are right about coddling them at that age, but I don't see showing someone how to move as coddling them.

Latin women taught me all of this years ago because they LOVE for a man to guide them. I love black women, but its hard to show them proper ways to move because they have this attitude that you can't tell them anything. But, like I said earlier, sex changes everything. If you have good sex, live what you talk, and she is not combative, she will listen.
 

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I did it... but wasn't 40...Sex was great...:banderas: but the relationship was rough... mad people just critiquing shyt about us and relationship failed like it usually does...:francis: So just have your fun and be wary of the end.
 

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Doubt it. Most men think they have have good sex but I could get the same with a vibrator. If you only bring sex to the table I have no use for you. And you ignored the part where I said we had nothing in common and in the end I felt grossed out. Those type of relationships are not for me.


How old were you and how old were they? You do know they got what they wanted out of the relationship. That's basically what you just said.
 

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Doubt it. Most men think they have have good sex but I could get the same with a vibrator. If you only bring sex to the table I have no use for you. And you ignored the part where I said we had nothing in common and in the end I felt grossed out. Those type of relationships are not for me.
I didn't ignore it, I just know that means nothing when the sex game is good. You got grossed out because he had nothing to give, and you are SUPPOSED to not want to be with an older man who has nothing to give. This should be common sense. Why be with a man who didn't do anything by the time he turned 40, and all that baggage, when you could get with someone younger, and none of that, they still are in the rat race and may be the one to give you what you want?

And of course he needs more then sex, but if he is 40 years old, and has nothing but good sex, why would you even get to the point of having sex with him? His conversation before the sex tells you all you need to know about him.
 

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Yea for one night and no for anything more than that.
Shes just starting her life. And you are looking at retirement..two different stages of life.

Honestly, stick to your age group.
 

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How old were you and how old were they? You do know they got what they wanted out of the relationship. That's basically what you just said.
21 and 37, 23 and 34. The first stalked me after I left. The second wanted to start a 3rd family.
 

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Doubt it. Most men think they have have good sex but I could get the same with a vibrator. If you only bring sex to the table I have no use for you. And you ignored the part where I said we had nothing in common and in the end I felt grossed out. Those type of relationships are not for me.
That just proves you’ve had wack sex . Or maybe your p*ssy isn’t as good as you think :hubie:
 

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No issue. If you’re trying to mold her into something serious it’s going to take some work. If you’re willing to do then go ahead. If it’s just for fun, go ahead.
 
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