40 Dating a 21 Year Old

AZBeauty

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Read through the first pages and there are alot of comments about how immature she's going to be lol. How about maybe this nicca is the immature one since he is the one not dating in HIS age bracket.
 

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All that will change once you get older, see how hard life is(especially for black people), and meet well established men, time changes everything!

But it might not. you might just get a regular job, and live life like most people, its not a bad thing. I'm just saying if you are really like you say, you are a catch, and a man of means will try to scoop you up. I suspect you never been to upscale spots like that, am I right?
Who knows but I'm successful and so if my bf. He's everything I want and more. I don't care for upscale spots. I'm not into money, clout, jewelry or any of that nonsense. I live a comfortable life. Can't ask for anything more at this point really. When I'm not with him I spend my free time surfing the net, looking for new music and learning new things.
 

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It's hypocrisy also because if the genders were reversed it would be not nearly as much outrage.
They made a mainstream movie celebrating the love between 40 year old woman and 20 something year old man :yeshrug:
Angela Bassett got no hate AT ALL.....actually she was praised, my black men and women:francis:
 

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Who knows but I'm successful and so if my bf. He's everything I want and more. I don't care for upscale spots. I'm not into money, clout, jewelry or any of that nonsense. I live a comfortable life. Can't ask for anything more at this point really. When I'm not with him I spend my free time surfing the net, looking for new music and learning new things.
that's good, don't fukk it up

The older you get, the harder this shyt gets because the picking get slim IF you want a happy, peaceful life. Most people just become damaged, and don't try to fix themselves, so they become headaches.

I wish I knew what I know now, I would be way ahead then where I am now. i'm not complaining its good, but I sacrificed for people, and they just held me back. It took me years to realize they just weren't on my level, but I settled, and it slowed me down. I aint doing that shyt again, but its my fault listening to the older people in my life who just gave me advice that just gave me a regular life they lived. My shyt wasn't realistic to them, and I wanted more then they experienced. Thankfully I learned this before it was too late. The sad part is it created a lot of enemies for me, jealousy & envy is real. I'm doing me, so i could give two fukks what anyone thinks now. Peace to you
 

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Have some fun.

I’m 29 and currently talking to a 50 yr old and I love it here
 
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i did this when i was like 19. it was like two dates in and i was like ewwww.... was getting dad vibes

but that was me, i was immature.... had never even had a bf before, barely just lost my virginity, just out there "living life" on my own, and here this near 40 year old man is trying to put his tongue where the sun dont shine :sadcam:

if she suits you and likes a .....distinguished gentleman then maybe she wont be grossed out. to that extent, you gotta wonder why a girl so young would be interested in dating such an older guy, especially if she is able to attract suitable men her own age :jbhmm:
 
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you’ll be raising her, not dating her.


You’ve been forewarned :unimpressed:


IMO if she's 21 and up she's fair game. Yeah 18 is legal but they're basically fresh out of high school and the same at 19. Immature and no life experience. Personally I wouldn't fukk with a girl that young (I'm 36) but do you breh. :yeshrug:

I'm a be honest even if you do find a chick that's 21 that really ain't much of a difference then dealing with somebody 18-19 either. Idk what it is about this new generation of 20 somethings but a lot of them are still mentally stuck in that "fresh out of HS phase" and even then at 21 how much life experience do you expect a girl to have when you 40 or pushing at the door of 40? It's rare and very few women have some serious life experiences and that's because they were raised around very different circumstances that the average girl growing up.

I'm damn near 40 myself and I'm not entertaining anyone old enough to be my kid.
 
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