40 Dating a 21 Year Old

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QuintessentialBM said:
@GhostMan

I'm gonna keep it 1000% with you and everyone who is considering dating a younger woman.

If you're serious about dating, getting married and settling down, then you should entertain it. It's next to impossible for single childless black men beyond the age of 35 to find attractive, childless, mature, not bitter and willing to help build.... so groom a younger chick. Make this a 2-3 year project; the first year for dating, then year two for the engagement, lastly, married in or before year three. Explain to the lady that you want to get married, but overall, it's her decision as to if she wants to give up her youth (the partying, drinking, etc) for marriage. In the dating phase, you need to monitor:

  • Her maturity; does it increase, is it consistent or does it decline?
  • If she has education, career or financial goals, is she on her way or has she achieved those goals?
  • Does she get the wandering eye? Hss she lied to you before? Is she playing games with you?
Take her on cost efficient dates for your budget/income and don't pay any bills or give her money regardless of the reason. That's not your responsibility.... yet.

If all this is good... PUT A RING ON IT!!!! If you're handling business like you should and she has the proper maturity, then she's going to say yes anyways! She's dumb AF if she's turns you down, which does happen. Also, fukk what anyone else has to say except her parent/guardian!

Now if this is just p*ssy, then walk away bruh! Don't fukk up another black man's chance to have a childless, disease-free, non-bitter black woman! What these dumb muthafukkas don't realize is that when you do shyt like this, you fukk up your reputation which makes it harder to get both black women and non-black women alike.
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Skooby said:
I was going to say this.

For most of human history and even today, outside of western civilization, this isn't even a question.
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You cannot do that anywhere here. I was gonna say maybe marry a Muslim and convert but American ones are too secular compared to Europeans/Asian/Arabs.

In other countries with full on patriarchies and strong societal re-enforcement . Nobody cares.
 
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Cold Blooded said:
Ima fukk around and marry her young ass ...she been through alot at her age ...
I went to work she stayed at my crib on her day off ...no lie she cleaned my whole fukkin crib vacuumed cleaned the kitchen the stove had my sh!t smelling like faboloso when I got in....
I think I love her son!!???
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Bookmarked to revisit in 3-6 months :francis:
 
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QuintessentialBM said:
@GhostMan

I'm gonna keep it 1000% with you and everyone who is considering dating a younger woman.

If you're serious about dating, getting married and settling down, then you should entertain it. It's next to impossible for single childless black men beyond the age of 35 to find attractive, childless, mature, not bitter and willing to help build.... so groom a younger chick. Make this a 2-3 year project; the first year for dating, then year two for the engagement, lastly, married in or before year three. Explain to the lady that you want to get married, but overall, it's her decision as to if she wants to give up her youth (the partying, drinking, etc) for marriage. In the dating phase, you need to monitor:

  • Her maturity; does it increase, is it consistent or does it decline?
  • If she has education, career or financial goals, is she on her way or has she achieved those goals?
  • Does she get the wandering eye? Hss she lied to you before? Is she playing games with you?
Take her on cost efficient dates for your budget/income and don't pay any bills or give her money regardless of the reason. That's not your responsibility.... yet.

If all this is good... PUT A RING ON IT!!!! If you're handling business like you should and she has the proper maturity, then she's going to say yes anyways! She's dumb AF if she's turns you down, which does happen. Also, fukk what anyone else has to say except her parent/guardian!

Now if this is just p*ssy, then walk away bruh! Don't fukk up another black man's chance to have a childless, disease-free, non-bitter black woman! What these dumb muthafukkas don't realize is that when you do shyt like this, you fukk up your reputation which makes it harder to get both black women and non-black women alike.
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The truth is he needs to relocate permanently if he wants to stay married.


Marriage is about dynamics, pressures and options.

Dynamics

In the developed world, women can weaponize their vaginas by with holding sex.

They bring their work traits into their relationships (leadership/abrasiveness).


Pressures

Women here are judged by other women for their vacations, bags, clothes, shoes, makeup, houses, bodies etc...

I won't even get into the career shaming of stay at home moms.

Options

Divorce is the best way to keep a mans utility as a provider while destroying his identity as a husband and a father.

There is no risk to her and it's a societal norm.


There are no mitigating factors to prevent an unfavorable outcome if she changes here. Who is she is today , has no bearing on who she'll be 6 years from now.













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i think for me it looks great but on the outside it looks sort of sleazy so i wouldnt do it. i mean scott disick looks sleazy with sofia richie. i dont know i think 25-26 is better.

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There's nothing wrong with being attracted to younger broads.

That said, I wouldn't know what to talk about. Sex is sex but she would need to be unusually mature or have unique tastes for it to work.

Your brain isn't fully developed until age 25, so she's the equivalent of a grown-teenager at this point.
 
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