This kind of makes my point. If 3 months isn't long enough, then how long is long enough and why? How do people measure this sort of thing? People are quick to blame this mother but there's probably thousands of times where people introduce their children this early and everything is fine. There's no planning against crazy/evil people.
Because the point is there is a difference between dealing with a predator in the family that no one knew of, and INVITING ONE IN YOUR HOME AFTER 3 MONTHS.
If your blood relative who was born into your family and is someone you have known for years does something inappropriate— it’s horrible and must be dealt with. Yes.
However if your mom meets a new man and brings him in the house MONTH THREE she’s a bird because the point is PEOPLE WEAR MASKS AND HIDE THEIR INTENTIONS. That’s why it’s called VETTING a person.
It’s not about waiting to catch someone literally harming your child. It’s about looking out for weird personality traits and ticks. Introducing this man to family and friends and watching how he interacts with everyone over an extended period of time.
Letting other men get a sense of who he is and letting them see how he behaves around kids.
You meeting his family and friends and seeing how he is around his ppl. What type of ppl is he around? Who raised him? How are their children being raised? How do they behave? These are all indications. They don’t tell the WHOLE STORY but they tell you a lot.
People really are food out here. Men need to
EARN YOUR TRUST. Especially if you have children. How is it not common knowledge that men target single mothers? How is it not understood that a man has less patience for children that are not his?
Maybe I approach the world with a certain amount of fear and caution because of the masculine influences in my life.
The men in my life would laugh me out the room if I let a man into my house within 3 months let alone give birth to one man’s child and be dating a new man 2 months later.
And the women in my life would say that the body needs to heal and I need to bond with the baby. So how you have time to find a new man 2 months later?
We might be losing recipes for real.

Nikka wouldn’t even know my real middle name within 3 months of meeting, let alone
moving into my home?

TF