5 Signs You’re About to Be Racially Fetishized

[TEH]

I was about to say something reckless but ... never mind ...

 

[Arc]

Some people’s “types” have more to do with racial fantasies.

5 Signs You’re About to Be Racially Fetishized

1. The Celebrity “Double”

“You’re really hot. You remind me of ... [insert random celeb I bear little or no resemblance to—outside of race—here]”

Clearly, this is meant to be complimentary, but it’s suspect. First, it implies a very limited scope of “acceptable” black beauty. Basically, it’s the romantic equivalent of the “paper bag” test.

Second, if the scope of beauty is that specific, it begs a question of exposure: Exactly how many black people has this person encountered—let alone found attractive?

2. The Same-Girl Game

They’re open about having a type (fair enough), but a roundup of their exes resembles a lookalike contest—on paper and off.

Case in point: a dude who, upon learning of my modeling career, casually prattled off the names of several other models he’d dated.

Fun fact: Not only were we all the same physical type, but we also worked with the same agency. Apparently he liked one-stop shopping—and his women interchangeable?

Way to take a “type” to the extreme ... right into fetishism.

3. The Bonding Fail

It’s that awkward moment when an attempt at bonding becomes fetishistic, usually through unsolicited but enthusiastic declarations of interest in “urban culture”—which, of course, I share because I’m ... “urban”?

“Don’t you love that new Kanye?”

Umm ... no. But of course I’m up on the latest hip hop/R&B/reggae/trap music/line dance/episode ofLove & Hip Hop: Whatever: I’m black!

4. The First-Timer

“You know, I’ve never been attracted to black men/women before, but ... ”

Well, please don’t make an exception on my account, because I’m not attracted to anyone who has previously disqualified an entire race from consideration.

In an atmosphere that’s often overwhelmingly white (*cough* online dating), making me a concession isn’t complimentary. So, no, your interest does not make me feel special. And no, I’m not interested in confirming or dispelling myths about “my people.”

Please. Take your race-curious ass on somewhere.

5. The “Down-for-the-Cause” Fetish

“You marched with BLM—and your parents were Freedom Riders? Great. Oh, you minored in African-American studies? Cool! You’re rereading Between the World and Me? Awesome!”

We just met, and already I’m exhausted, because the idea of becoming an accessory in someone else’s activism sounds like a full-time job: fetish enabler.

All the girls into me have been fetishized. You think there's equality? Nope it's a prison without bars. 90% of ca. Chicks don't fukk you in their prime and the ones that do are into fetish and the ones that do when they are older and less desirable are experimenting

 

[Taadow]

bump

Hey, since you bumped this up...you gonna answer my question?

Why is it considered a "fetish" for a person to be really into one particular thing,
but it isn't considered a "fetish" if that one particular thing happens to be ones' same race?

 

[Dank Hill]

Real talk i fukk with all women except white girls. Just dnt find em attractive

 

[feelosofer]

For some of these cats this is more like PAWG spotting tool.

 

[Black Magisterialness]

Don't need these signs if you're dating Black only

that's a lie. Black folks fetishize all the time based on color, "hair-grade", being mixed race or "exotical", height, etc..



Human beings fetishize all the time....

 

[Poitier]

that's a lie. Black folks fetishize all the time based on color, "hair-grade", being mixed race or "exotical", height, etc..

Featurism and Fetishism are not the same things.

 

[Taadow]

Featurism and Fetishism are not the same things.

This is my first hearing of "featurism", can you tell me what this is?

 

[Poitier]

This is my first hearing of "featurism", can you tell me what this is?

Well something is a "fetish" if its something taboo or unobtainable by an in-group i.e. Whites desiring someone with brown skin or kinky hair. Featurism would be blue eyes, blonde hair being desired by those same Whites.

 

[YouMadd?]

Good thread...

 

[Taadow]

Well something is a "fetish" if its something taboo or unobtainable by an in-group i.e. Whites desiring someone with brown skin or kinky hair. Featurism would be blue eyes, blonde hair being desired by those same Whites.

So let me see if I understand: is it "featurism" if blue-eyed blonde white people only want blue-eyed blondes?

 

[Poitier]

So let me see if I understand: is it "featurism" if blue-eyed blonde white people only want blue-eyed blondes?

Yes.

 

[Taadow]

Yes.

Okay...so it is "featurism" if brown-eyed brunette people only want blue-eyed blondes?

 

[Poitier]

Okay...so it is "featurism" if brown-eyed brunette people only want blue-eyed blondes?

Is this a White person? If so then yeah since they probably have relatives with those features.

 

[Luke Cage]

Okay...so it is "featurism" if brown-eyed brunette people only want blue-eyed blondes?

The main difference I care about between featurism and fetishism is people usually don't want kids with the fetish. They just wanna fukk.

The featurism people wanna marry you have kids with your feature.

So I avoid them because of the high trap rate.