I agree with the appearance. I see dudes walking in public with half done braids, sagging pants, visible dirty draws, face tattoos. And when I go to the unemployment office the women dress the worse, pajamas, house shoes, night caps on, just crazy how people walk outside looking. Even if I'm just running to the store or post office. I iron my clothes and do my hair or put on a hat or scarf if my hair is not done.
Another is people are so dependent. A lot of dudes when you date them, you become a chauffeur,etc for the guy, his friends and family. Its a turn off for me. I had a friends that had to pick up guys for dates, pick up the guys friends from work, dudes asking their gf to let their friends and family use their computers,babysitting the bf kids, cosigning cars and houses, paying bills, giving away their income tax checks,etc. Its becoming to normal to pay boyfriends bills, I don't agree with doing stuff like that without commitment. You shouldn't do stuff like that for temporary relationships.