7 Things We Truly Miss About Old-School Dating

[LEEeveryday]

No we're not and adults make their own decisions.
Women can think. They should stop using their emotions to color every thought about the opposite sex, though..much like I ignore attractive women until they have something to offer me that won't be reciprocated.

Women CAN think. That's why some are making the choice to be cold, to be standoffish, to keep that wall up. They don't want to be taken advantage of. It's counterproductive in the end of the day.

We all can benefit from getting in tune with our emotions more. Mind is whats separating everyone.

 

[LadySimone]

If women rewarded men for doing the things on that list, men would do the things on that list.

Reward them with what?

 

[LadySimone]

Different circumstances. I can break it down why things aren't the way they are, Men are just adjusting to women, that's all.

1. There were no sexpectations.

I don't understand this one.

2. Men were expected to be chivalrous.

I don't know what kind of boys, not men she's messing with.

3. Men put effort into their appearance.

Same as #2

4. You could expect flowers.

Women consider this creepy especially on the first date.

5. Your date paid attention to you, not to his/her phone.

I found women to be more obsessed with their phones, with the rampant narcissism of the instagram and snapchat generation, I guess it's just me.

6. Men always insisted on picking up the tab.

I would not pay for anything expensive on the first date, for the second yes. Why? Women have admitted to using men for free meals I can draw up links for that.

7. There was no talk about your sexual history.

Because if you gave someone head and I never got head I'm gonna think something's up.

Are you a woman? How do you know what we consider creepy? If you like giving flowers try dating someone who won't consider it creepy. Why do you allow fickle women to control your behaviour and customs?

I don't date men with earrings. I'm not going to go on a date with one and tell him to take it off. Simple, innit?

 

[LadySimone]

In an alternate universe, where I weren't a jaded fukk, I'd probably do a lot of those things. But this isn't that. It's 2015. Vapid bytches are gonna be vapid. But as long as I have a library card and HBO Go, I won't sweat it. It's too easy for men to win in this day and age. All we have to do is focus on bettering ourselves and bide our time while these two-bit hoes fall by the wayside, scorned, alone, and resentful. If I don't accomplish shyt else in this life, I'll die a Hard on Hoes hall of famer.

Put that on my tombstone

I'm sorry but most you dudes In here don't sound like you're winning. You sound pressed depressed paranoid with high blood pressure. Admit you dudes are damaged as hell.

 

[LadySimone]

unworthy chicks clamouring for tthings they don't deserve

Point out the men in here you'd date if you were a woman? Probably none because if you were honest you admit dudes in here just sound like PTSD.

 

[LadySimone]

it's easy. all they gotta do is only go for dudes who will treat them that way. at the end of the day, they are choosing.

I can agree with this. Men need to do the same.

 

[MAGNETO.]

LOL! These chicks want it all.

I long for the old days, too, when most women had class.

@kevm3
@Emperor_ReinScarf

 

[MAGNETO.]

Male: Check please sir

Female: Separate checks please.

M: Please, allow me to pay.

F: What? You don't think I can pay for it?

M: No I'm just...

F: What? You think I need a man to take care of me?

M: No no...

F: I'm an independent woman who can make it on her own without a man thank you. I can pay for my own thank you!

M:

F:

Waiter:

Tell em

 

[Elle]

Chicks were a lot more modest 50 years ago, and primarily looked for men who showed the classic traits of a provider.

Not the case anymore.

Social norms change.

Men don't want to be providers anymore. I see dudes on here all the time talking about spiting the rent and bills 50/50 with their live in gf/wives.

 

[RiffRaff]

Y'all indirectly set the standard for courtship so.....

And like another poster said, people, not only men are going to put in the least amount of effort to attain something.

"If she's worth it I'll go the extra mile"

But I've seen it first hand the actions listed above has gotten a nikka no play while I ate by literally doing nothing. Back when I was in college there was this fine slim athletic chocolate chick that went to my high school. She had this dude that was pursuing her for the longest. Always calling her beautiful and stuff on her IG pics, always walking her to class, using his meal card for her at the cafe. He wasn't ugly or anything (no homo) and was a legitimately good dude. Now here comes me on the other hand and I don't consider myself a bad dude, but I am the type of nikka who will put in the least effort possible to get in some draws if I can. So I've casually talked to this girl a few times, she's a friend of a friend and went to my high school, I always tease her about shyt yadda yadda I can tell she's feeling me.

So one night she ask me out the blue if I wanted to get anything to eat and she would buy. That night I didn't feel like going out because I had already made plans for another girl to come through the spot, but she said she would pick up Chinese food for carryout. She got dressed all nice under the presumption that we would be eating together in my room, but at this point the other girl had already arrived and we were watching TV on the couch. Her face just dropped to complete disappointment. She flashed a fake smile dropped off the food and left. Despite all that she was still fukking with the boy and a few weeks later I smashed

One day I asked her about the other dude basically telling her, you know he really likes you and she just said she wasn't interested and he was doing too much .

Moral of the story. I'm not saying she was obliged to fukk with that other dude just because he gave her attention, but as a proud red-blooded heterosexual male, I'm looking at this situation like I never want to be that guy. Especially since I was able to attain everything he pined for with little to no effort. This wasn't a bum bytch either, this was beautiful college educated girl who got a degree in Petroleum Engineering. This is just my example, but I'm sure most brehs on the Coli have been on one side of a story similar to this and realize that a lot of things in the OP are simply unnecessary.

 

[LadySimone]

O think a lot of brehs go by the why buy the cow when you can drink the milk for free philosophy. Bc while there's a nikka doing all the shyt the list is telling them to another nikka is breaking her back as soon as she get off that date. Now tell me why would any smart nikka do any of the shyt on the list

That's what you tell yourself to justify not doing something you didn't want to do in the first place, this whole instant gratification that permeates black culture exists in the dating game too. The same mentality that will make you run up on someone for Jordan's. Ego, brokenness, lazy, entitlement and dysfunction writ large.

 

[Ziggiy]

I don't have a problem picking up the tab on the first date. But, if a chick thinks I'm going to pick up all the tabs without her ever picking up one or balancing it out with some home-cooked meals, she's out her mind.

I generally have no issues paying for dates, especially if I'm the one who initiated it. It's part of courtship. But like you said, if there's no balance then it just becomes simpering

 

[thirdeye]

Men don't want to be providers anymore. I see dudes on here all the time talking about spiting the rent and bills 50/50 with their live in gf/wives.

Well they say that feminism is the reason for that so....

 

[LadySimone]

i'm not saying women dont deserve equal pay, but men earning the lions share is what conditioned older generations of men to provide for women. if women are equal to men now, why do y'all expect men to bend over backwards to placate you

White women talk this shyt. Please reserve that for your pawgs please.

 

[LadySimone]

And why are they suddenly looking for this again








Look in the mirror bytch

Suddenly look for it? Really? Given the state of black relationships from the time blacks start puberty we aren't collectively looking for anything.