A. Seales:I want to be with a brotha but a lot of you would rather be by yourselves. Why not commit?

[dj-method-x]

I know y'all hate her but let's keep it real. There's a lot of us who even if we met the perfect woman we would be hesitant to commit and give up the option of what we may perceive as freedom.

And honestly there is nothing wrong with feeling that way as a man. There's some women who feel the same way.

She asked a good question that's being ignored, which is, where does that leave everyone else who are willing to commit?

My answer: Just find someone you like who's willing to commit as much as you are.

The problem here is that the people get stuck on what they cannot have instead of focusing what's in their control.

 

[NO-BadAzz]

There are some good dudes out here, same as for women. IMO, I just think when a person doesn't get that person that they want, then it's nobody wants to do what I want to do.

Keep looking and find somebody who wants the same goals as you. IMO

Busy lifestyle or not, a woman or man would not mind someone else adding to their life, being an addition.

 

[Rawtid]

does it also say something about the economic situation?

Marriage is the ultimate arrangement for stabilizing your finances. You think it’s a coincidence the group with lowest marriage rates are also the poorest?

 

[Gold]

The low rate of black marriages tell you what you need to know about black men and committing.

You do realize that marriage rates are down all across America right? People are getting married later and less. Is this also black mens fault?

 

[DaRealness]

Because we refuse to just settle with any and anybody and **gasp** you actually need to bring something to the plate besides looks too, what's hard to understand?

 

[CouldntBeMeTho]

can we go a day, or a month or so, without blaming black men for something for fukk sake

The low rate of black marriages tell you what you need to know about black men and committing.

 

[ultraflexed]

Nah nikkas getting married literally everyday.

She just cant keep a man

Only 49% of black men are married, of that 78% marry black women, and there is more black women then black men, so its a little tough

 

[you're NOT "n!ggas"]

This sounds like a job for @#PanAfricana

 

[Dolla$]

 

[Sonic Boom of the South]

shyt is literally what women be telling other women they should do


So it's cool for women but not men

 

[The Fade]

Women gonna ignore this but brehs been saying this for a while now.

Men aint that complicated. We are quick to tell you what we see as marriage material. And if we dont see you as marriage material.... we could fukk for a decade and you'll never get a ring.

If you out here engaging in shyt that we deem as unbecoming of a wife, why would expect to get the ring?

When i was visiting my friend in Oakland, we had this long ass convo about why she couldnt get a man and how men were shyt and all that.

Eventually, i just straight up told her, "yo i wouldnt marry or date you, you stay doing shyt thst i wouldnt want my gf doing "


She got offended and pointed out that i was being a hypocrite cuz i was right there with her doing the same shyt


I said nope, difference is im not expecting to get married doing this shyt. Im 100% aware what i need to give up to get a wife. You over here crying about not having a man but refusing to live different



I aint never heard a nikka bringing hoes back from the club crying about not being able to get married or find a good girl.

But yet i always hear women say this shyt. Why is this? Women aren't stupid, they are aware of the disconnect. They just want it all without sacrificing anything.

Not how life works unless u find a big ass simp

Facts, a lot of them get in their own way and they know it. Sex and the City lied to these women smh

 

[Gold]

I know y'all hate her but let's keep it real. There's a lot of us who even if we met the perfect woman we would be hesitant to commit and give up the option of what we may perceive as freedom.

And honestly there is nothing wrong with feeling that way as a man. There's some women who feel the same way.

She asked a good question that's being ignored, which is, where does that leave everyone else who are willing to commit?

My answer: Just find someone you like who's willing to commit as much as you are.

The problem here is that the people get stuck on what they cannot have instead of focusing what's in their control.

I could not dissagree with you more breh (with the bolded, i agree with the rest of the post)

Even the most playinest playas i know will literally find God and change their entire life for a perfect girl.

Ive seen it time and time again. We clown brehs for it all the time till it happens to us.

Men know the worth of a good woman. A good woman will have you house shopping, buying baby cribs, and getting rid of the bachelor pad.

Thats facts. Brehs aint tossin wifeys to the bushes lime that... thots yes but not wifeys

 

[kdslittlebro]

The girl I'm dealing with liked this video on IG

Have fun on Thursday

 

[ReadOneBookAWeek]

That's pretty much me.
And being in this single life I've learned a lot about women and myself.
1. Most women are shallow. They lack personality.
2. Which is kind of a branch to 1: most women think that if they look good and have a p*ssy that that's enough. I been living by myself for 6+years. I can cook, i can clean, i can take care of myself. So that's not enough to say "i can do that, cuff me"
3. Every single woman says "I don't wanna play games dont waste my time, yet all them come with a monopoly game attached to them.
4. Too many single mothers

But here's the thing

I feel like a lot of women are scarred from past men. And i cant blame women for that, cause men carry that baggage too.
We get hurt from broken hearts and it takes forever for ours to heal cause we hurt hard. Cause the women who we loved and rejected us will have a hold on us for awhile.
Cause when a women can fulfill 1-4 up top then any man will be ready to beg like Boyz II Men ft Keith Sweat.

Personality is overrated. I just need her to have discretion, morals, positive productivity, discipline, accountability, loyalty and good looks.

I don't want a life of the party chick constantly leaving my kids with a "baby sitter" because she's a socialite and attention addict. That's 90% of young black women right now.

 

[Marco Zen]

I know y'all hate her but let's keep it real. There's a lot of us who even if we met the perfect woman we would be hesitant to commit and give up the option of what we may perceive as freedom.

And honestly there is nothing wrong with feeling that way as a man. There's some women who feel the same way.

She asked a good question that's being ignored, which is, where does that leave everyone else who are willing to commit?

My answer: Just find someone you like who's willing to commit as much as you are.

The problem here is that the people get stuck on what they cannot have instead of focusing what's in their control.

Yea I thought she made a good point actually..

You can meet a chick that's bad as hell, got her shyt together, she's really feeling you, does things to show you how much she's feeling you, sometimes even completely submitting to what you want in a woman..

And its still not enough to make you commit back on that level