A. Seales:I want to be with a brotha but a lot of you would rather be by yourselves. Why not commit?

[mbewane]

It's ironic how some women rightfully insist on :

A. Their right to choose who they want to share their life with
B. Their right to NOT share their life with anyone.

Yet when a black man does A ot B here come the criticism.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Also take note & read between the lines

Women who talk like this are certified side chick material.

This the kind of thing I mean when I say women snitch on their body count and don't even know it. Only women who say comments like this have been ran through by at least 20 brehs

That's not necessarily true either. Some chicks see what other women go thru and pull their experiences that way b/c they don't wanna be put in those situations themselves.

In dating a lot of men and women legitimately ain't shyt. People gotta stop expecting the process to be easy. It's not.

 

[ExodusNirvana]

That's all you require? This list is simple--but real, if a woman can't do those 5 basic things, then yes whoever gets with said woman has lawst.

For real though it's not that complicated. Men are fairly simple creatures.

Be in shape, be someone that a breh will WANT to hang out with (have a personality, hobbies, interests, OTHER than church), be able to satisfy the man physically, and yeah be able to cook a meal because if you planning on being someones wife, you might have to cook for their kids or be a host if ya'll have company over.

I hate that these ideas have turned the keys to snagging a good man into some secret mystical shyt...
The movie "What Men Want" should be like 12 minutes long including credits

 

[CarmelBarbie]

A lot, maybe most women don’t have 2 and 4

Damn.... Didn't realize that. It's so simple, I don't get it. But, I'm not a part of that younger generation of woman that grew up on social media, etc. So I suppose there's a large disconnect.

 

[BigMan]

Damn.... Didn't realize that. It's so simple, I don't get it. But, I'm not a part of that younger generation of woman that grew up on social media, etc. So I suppose there's a large disconnect.

It’s very common....and a lot of people but especially women think they’re interesting it have a personality when they simply don’t

Being attractive and traveling is not a personality....lol
People overrate themselves a lot...

The cooking thing annoys me a lot personally....I expect a woman to cook....well.

EDIT: sorry I’m rambling

 

[MajorVitaman]

That's not necessarily true either. Some chicks see what other women go thru and pull their experiences that way b/c they don't wanna be put in those situations themselves.

I disagree, maybe in the older days but definitely not nowadays in the sabotaged no game era

 

[CarmelBarbie]

For real though it's not that complicated. Men are fairly simple creatures.

Be in shape, be someone that a breh will WANT to hang out with (have a personality, hobbies, interests, OTHER than church), be able to satisfy the man physically, and yeah be able to cook a meal because if you planning on being someones wife, you might have to cook for their kids or be a host if ya'll have company over.

I hate that these ideas have turned the keys to snagging a good man into some secret mystical shyt...
The movie "What Men Want" should be like 12 minutes long including credits

I feel you. Maybe it's a generational thing?

I grew up in a different time(feels like), I'm 31, that list is simple asf, I don't even feel like it can be a humble brag to say I have all 5, because it's not a huge feat--but I think that speaks to the generational gap. I feel like people under 26 are sooo different these days. They've grown up in a time where social media is huge. Whereas facebook didn't become "big" for me and my friends until the middle of our freshman year of college. It literally had no impact on our lives during our most impressionable years, and my mother was a SAHM(which I suppose is rare these days), so learning traditionalism from her impacted me too(as well as the friends I had that had moms that worked much less than their dads).

I think that's changed--a lot of women have two working parents, or one, and have grown up impacted by social media.... Things that used to be "stressed" for women that I remember being taught, don't seem to be as important anymore. People order out, don't know how to cook, work all day, then come home and post a lot of selfies or make videos.

 

[Easy-E]

These hot takes on marruage.

How Did Marriage Become a Mark of Privilege?

Fewer Americans are marrying over all, and whether they do so is more tied to socioeconomic status than ever before. In recent years, marriage has sharply declined among people without college degrees, while staying steady among college graduates with higher incomes.

Currently, 26 percent of poor adults, 39 percent of working-class adults and 56 percent of middle- and upper-class adults ages 18 to 55 are married, according to a research brief published from two think tanks, the American Enterprise Institute and Opportunity America.

 

[you're NOT "n!ggas"]

This is one of the best threads I've seen in a minute good points being made all around. The original video is 3 parts though, and whoever shared that trimmed the end of the 1st part.

1. The 2nd part is some fake deep shyt about planets and satellites orbiting each other
2. She ends the 3rd part with that "Don't be the n***a that says 'not all men and females do it too' -- THAT'S NOT WHAT WE TALKING BOUT RIGHT NOW I'm a woman talking about dating men."

Women like her loooooove tryna pull that second part, "that's not what we talking bout"-- aka 'I don't want an actual conversation about this/I don't want to self reflect'. You're a woman, talking about dating men, who have to date women. We're supposed to just validate everything she's saying without having OUR experience acknowledged, let alone validated

 

[CarmelBarbie]

It’s very common....and a lot of people but especially women think they’re interesting it have a personality when they simply don’t

Being attractive and traveling is not a personality....lol
People overrate themselves a lot...

The cooking thing annoys me a lot personally....I expect a woman to cook....well.

EDIT: sorry I’m rambling

Is this what your seeing from women on social media though? Perhaps getting off social media and interacting with women who aren't as into it, is the key?

I think traveling can be a hobby, but obviously since it's not something you can do as frequently, if you work a regular job, and don't have unlimited PTO, there needs to be more that you're doing, especially if your a single woman with no obligations or responsibilities. But, I understand what your saying. Welcome to the "shallow and easy disposable" hook-up dating culture that all embraced years ago. Once you learn, that it is what it is, you won't be as affected. Trying to sort through the pool of men and women that participate in this culture to find wife or hubby material ? Yeah, okay. You got step out of that world breh.

 

[The ADD]

Sobering ass thread the day before Valentine’s Day

 

[Da_Eggman]

It’s not me it’s you

 

[the bossman]

I live with my fiance

Tried to get it in with wifey.

We haven't had sex in three months.

What in the fukkkkk

 

[Youseenmywork]

1. Get in the fukking gym

2. Get some hobbies other than IG or Church

3. Be fukking/sucking

4. Be able to cook

5. Have a personality


Stop listening to these broken ass celebrities and social media "influencers"...they don't know you, care about you, or live the same lifestyle as you, and chances are they are fukking damaged inside in some way that is being projected via their Instagram.

But go ahead and do you thing "Queens"

Ive often said men only need five things hell Patrice oneal you to preach it back in the day ...and women just don't listen. The things you suggested means a women has to know her place and most women don't want to hear that.

 

[GoldenGlove]

She's right. I see no lies being told in this video.

 

[Artenche]

I like her but she confuses me so much. Wasn't she just on The Breakfast Club talking about how she doesn't want a man and is too focused on her career picking up? This tells me that is bs but in the back of all our minds we know that there is nothing most women want more than a man who can sweep them off their feet and this confirms that. They wake up dreaming of that shyt at times and go to bed dreaming about it, yet you rather chase nikkas who do not really want you and toss away the nikkas that do.

You can be a feminist and still promote healthy women, men, and relationships. Sure they are a lot of ain't shyt dudes out there, but stop acting like good men do not exist. You attract what you are. The greatest gift guys can learn is accountability and self-respect. With both of these things, no woman can ruin you or your life. Guys should behave like they are the catch good dudes are fukking hard to find now and women nowadays are fueling their tanks on social media which can have your running on poison. Maybe Seals should look at herself and see why this is happening instead of this over indulgence in self-love or "loving yourself" that has women thinking they can do no wrong.

Nothing more disgusting than seeing a guy come clean about their wrongs in a relationship while women act like there aren't things they couldn't do better.