Admitted to cheating on my GF, where do I go from here?

[kevin arnold]

Don't reach out to her at all? Wait for her to talk to me for how long?

And I thought this confession was gonna go a lot differently. Early in the relationship she cheated and I had to find out on my own, I didn't get angry I just charged it to the game and said it was proof that we weren't supposed to be in a relationship but we can still be friends.

We got past that and got back together, but I always told myself if I cheated I would admit to it because I would never want to have her find out on her own and feel the way I felt.

Should’ve tossed her right there

 

[Jamesmac91]

Why you cheated breh?

There's no good reason for cheating, but we had a dysfunctional sex life, I had made a thread in the salon about it in detail.

It's crazy reading threads like this cause every last one of my friends cheat with no remorse

nikkas getting engaged and still cheating
One is married and still cheating
One homie JUST got a new girl. Already cheating

Then I read remorseful shyt like this and it's weird cause I'm not use to seeing it. Good in you though but that relationship is dead in the dirt! Should've kept it to yourself and just stopped cheating if you felt that bad.

That's the same situation as me, every one of my male friends cheat.

But I always told myself that I would never cheat.

I feel like even some of my friends that cheat looked down on me for cheating when I told them because they didn't think it was in my character.

 

[Buckeye Fever]

You NEVER tell

 

[lespaulultra3]

I would have took that to the grave. It's too late now and the ball is in her court. Just lay low and let her reach out to you. Blowing up her phone and telling her you're sorry will just make things worse.

 

[AceMan]

It’s over, OP. Just move on and let be

 

[Black Nate Grey]

You fukked up by cheating. Telling her was the right thing to do, accepting responsibility, accountability (provided you stopped before you told her) and dealing with the consequences of a fukkup is a basic requirement of adulthood-

-Wait, so SHE cheated first and didn't tell you? fukk her then and fukk her feelings too. Don't even feel guilty, in fact that's a good way to breakup with a cheater, reap what you sow.

Don't even worry about her, if it is like you said it is and you have no desire to get back together than its all good, cut off all contact.

You did unto her what she did to you (kinda), at least you were adult enough to inform her.

 

[Dad]

So I shouldn't have told her

Hell no you shouldn’t have told her, stupid.

You live with regrets, learn from your mistake & vow not to do it again.

 

[Coco Loco]

So I shouldn't have told her

You shouldn’t have cheated

 

[Diondon]

You left out that "she cheated first part", playa

 

[The Intergalactic Koala]

Breh, if I were you I would move on. Trust, it's not worth the stress of trying to explain your stance or even trying to get back together because the damage is already done. As somebody who constantly cheated on my ex which haunted me for a while, I had to come in terms with the fact that I had to let her go because she constantly kept bringing my scummy ass back into her life because of vices. What's the point of even trying to make it work when the memories remain:

• The constant reminders of how you cheated
• The thin ice approach to some topics
• The lack of trust and so forth

Bottom line, I would just let it be in the past. Focus on bettering yourself and use your mistakes as a lesson learned for the next woman that you could possibly treat right.

 

[Jamesmac91]

You left out that "she cheated first part", playa

Because it honestly had nothing to do with what I did. It was 3+ years ago and I was completely over it.

 

[The Intergalactic Koala]

You left out that "she cheated first part", playa

Well damn. When I was going for a moment. Welp OP, why?!?

 

[Diondon]

Because it honestly had nothing to do with what I did. It was 3+ years ago and I was completely over it.

I see

 

[YaThreadFloppedB!]

Bruh if she cheated on you first like you saying, why you sweatin this skeez? Like @KaiserRexTheCzar said above, “ you reap what you sow.”


You shouldn’t have even taken her back honestly bruh. And if you had to catch her cheating what makes you think she just didn’t get smarter with her cheating?

Relationship shouldn’t have even got this far. Respect yourself enough to chunk the deuces when somebody violates you like that.

 

[Moody]

Sounds like u told her to assuage ur own guilt. Now she'll have to deal w the pain, insecurity, resentment and everything else that will follow while u feel a sense of relief for telling her If u get back together that trust is gone. U should've either moved on or if u wanted to stay then stop cheating.

You seem to be insinuating that dishonesty is almost noble in this instance.

Agreed with the rest tho.