Admitted to cheating on my GF, where do I go from here?

[African Peasant]

I assume that she loves you.

3 possibilities :

1) If she's a feminist :

She won't come back or she will come back with a revenge plot.

2) If she's a thot :

She will come back if you beg her but she will try to cheat on you

3) If she's not a thot/feminist :

She may come back and forget about it if you apologize and make the right moves. You'll need to humble yourself, but don't turn into a giga simp either.

Edit; she cheated first


Unless the both of you make a huge transformation in your life, your relationship has a lot of chance to turn into these cheating marathons relationship where you're both constantly fighting and cheating on each other.

Think about it.

 

[Jamesmac91]

Bruh if she cheated on you first like you saying, why you sweatin this skeez? Like @KaiserRexTheCzar said above, “ you reap what you sow.”


You shouldn’t have even taken her back honestly bruh. And if you had to catch her cheating what makes you think she just didn’t get smarter with her cheating?

Relationship shouldn’t have even got this far. Respect yourself enough to chunk the deuces when somebody violates you like that.

When it happened we were only a few months into the relationship, we broke up but I honestly didn't have a "fukk her forever" mentality, I just took it as a sign of immaturity and us trying something that wasn't meant to be.

At that point she was already my best friend of 5 years, since high school. The fact our friendship was so strong made it possible for me to forgive her, understand why she did it and rebuild from there.

I thought she would react to me cheating the same way I reacted to her cheating, especially since I got in front of it and confessed. But I guess I was wrong.

 

[Nemesis]

We're broken up now.
I feel sick to my stomach.

This has been my girlfriend of 4 years and best friend of 9 years.

I didn't get caught and I doubt I would have gotten caught, but I kept telling myself that I was a coward for not telling her.

Thought I was doing the right thing but now I feel like I made the wrong decision and did serious emotion damage to her for no reason. I could have just broken up with her and let her have that peace of mind.

Never cheated before and don't know what happens from here, really want input from other people that have gone through similar situations.

We haven't talked since I confessed last night, I see that she's erased me off all her social media. I really want to talk to her again and continue to tell her how sorry I am, not because I want her back but I just want to do whatever make her hurt less.

Or do I need to just let her have her space?

You must be the dumbest motherfukker on the planet .... I hope you suffer ..... not because you cheated .... it is what it is , but because of your stupidity

Keep it fukking 100 .... you didnt confess for her ..... you confessed for you, you couldnt handle the fukking guilt of your actions so you decided to be completely selfish and shyt all over her just to ease your conscience ....

you despicable my dude, not because you cheated ..... but because you werent man enough to deal with the consequences of your actions by yourself.... instead you decide to fukk up someone elses life

What the fukk did you think would happen????

now all of a sudden your dumbass wants to make it better??? what the fukk could you possibly tell her for her to feel better .... please tell me, because in all my former years of being a scumbag i cant think of one thing you can tell someone you cheated on something that would ease the pain....

Put yourself in her shoes for fukking once.... she tells you she cheated, what the fukk could she tell you to ease the pain??

Your lucky..... if the chick does get back with you, trust me on this , shes gonna be totally different, hell hath no fury like a woman scorned...

If she just makes your life a living hell youre getting off lightly ..... chances are she might fukk one of your boys , or her best male friend .

leave the chick alone , if you genuinely feel bad about it then respect her wishes and stay out of her life....


learn from this ..... its obvious you aint cut out to be a cheater (which is a good thing) next relationship keep your fukking dikk in your pants

 

[YeLovesBoston]

Just remember that you don't deserve a second chance so don't try to keep hitting her up. You've already proven what you're capable of and there's no reason for her to believe that you won't do it, again.

At least you feel sorry about it, but the best thing you can do is give her space and give her the opportunity to move on from you. If she ever comes back to you, hopefully things go better the second time around.

 

[KneeGrow.]

Post pics of her.

 

[KamikazePilot]

She cheated first!? Should've ended it there

Now you confessed and you're broken up keep it moving

 

[African Peasant]

You must be the dumbest motherfukker on the planet .... I hope you suffer ..... not because you cheated .... it is what it is , but because of your stupidity

Keep it fukking 100 .... you didnt confess for her ..... you confessed for you, you couldnt handle the fukking guilt of your actions so you decided to be completely selfish and shyt all over her just to ease your conscience ....

you despicable my dude, not because you cheated ..... but because you werent man enough to deal with the consequences of your actions by yourself.... instead you decide to fukk up someone elses life

What the fukk did you think would happen????

now all of a sudden your dumbass wants to make it better??? what the fukk could you possibly tell her for her to feel better .... please tell me, because in all my former years of being a scumbag i cant think of one thing you can tell someone you cheated on something that would ease the pain....

Put yourself in her shoes for fukking once.... she tells you she cheated, what the fukk could she tell you to ease the pain??

Your lucky..... if the chick does get back with you, trust me on this , shes gonna be totally different, hell hath no fury like a woman scorned...

If she just makes your life a living hell youre getting off lightly ..... chances are she might fukk one of your boys , or her best male friend .

leave the chick alone , if you genuinely feel bad about it then respect her wishes and stay out of her life....


learn from this ..... its obvious you aint cut out to be a cheater (which is a good thing) next relationship keep your fukking dikk in your pants

 

[Vandelay]

No good will come of this.

 

[☃ ೋ]

she got angry I got angry because I thought "I didn't react like this when you cheated".

Welp, there ya go. I dont feel bad for her anymore, fukk her; and move on

 

[DonRe]

Never admit. Deny deny deny deny.

You fukked up. Trust is shattered. Put yourself in her shoes. Cliche cliche cliche.

Essentially, the only thing on your plate needs to be self-assessment. Why did you cheat and will you change for the better. Cant fix the relationship if you aint right.

 

[African Peasant]

She cheated first!? Should've ended it there

Now you confessed and you're broken up keep it moving

If she cheated first,

You better let her go and find a better one

This is an opportunity for you.

Don't let your judgment be clouded by your guilt or your infatuation. Is she really worth it?

If she really loved you she wouldn't be breaking up with you because you cheated once, especially if she cheated first.

All those things are red flags IMO.

 

[5thbornpowerseed]

These nikkas dont know shyt.
Telling her isn't the bad part... being emotional is. Think about what would have happened if you told her with a straight face, and logically outlined why you cheated and what changes are needed in your relationship in order for you not to cheat again?
Her brain would have been scrambled for week trying to figure out the why and the who and the when and all that.
But the only conclusion she could have come to was to agree to stay on your terms or leave...
Now she dragged you into her emotional stew of fukkery and got you all scrambled...asking the coli what to do....
Logic is your victory/emotion is hers....
So now your only move is to not give fukk

 

[DEAD7]

Honestly yea
Seeing her break down made me cry.

and I know this is wrong but when she got angry I got angry because I thought "I didn't react like this when you cheated".

She then yelled "so that's what this was about", but no I honestly forgave her for that even though I could tell she never really believed that I did. That happened so early on in the relationship, years ago, I would have to be petty to use that as justification.

I'm just trying to register the fact that 9 years of doing everything right has been undone by a month.

Good you still got a chance then...



What good with shorty you cheated with tho?

 

[LauderdaleBoss]

Just from what was going on in the thread you got in the Salon, you should have been bushed her. You was trying to have the best of both worlds even though one of those worlds was lowkey miserable.

Once you knew you had the other chick in the bag, you should have called it off with ya girl and moved on.

Then you said she cheated first a long time ago.

Man, shorty been wasting your time for a hot minute breh. You should be celebrating now.

 

[Jamesmac91]

It's crazy because I was literally about to cross the finish line.

We've were having an open and emotional convo about our issues; the overall tone was sad but understanding. It seemed like we both came to terms with the fact we would have to break up.

I told myself I was gonna confess days ago, but deep into the conversation I still hadn't done it.

She started talking about how she felt like somebody was playing a sick joke for her to get the love of her life and then lose me because she's "broken". She was gushing about how amazing and perfect I am. I didn't want her thinking that I was perfect and the failings of the relationship were all on her.

I had to mentally prepare myself to say it for 15-20 mins because every time I would try it's like I couldn't open my mouth. Then I finally got it out and things went left.