Admitted to cheating on my GF, where do I go from here?

[AsTheWorldBurns]

When it happened we were only a few months into the relationship, we broke up but I honestly didn't have a "fukk her forever" mentality, I just took it as a sign of immaturity and us trying something that wasn't meant to be.

At that point she was already my best friend of 5 years, since high school. The fact our friendship was so strong made it possible for me to forgive her, understand why she did it and rebuild from there.

I thought she would react to me cheating the same way I reacted to her cheating, especially since I got in front of it and confessed. But I guess I was wrong.

fukk what most of these nikkas saying in here. They don't understand these kind of relationships.

Y'all watched each other grow up. You got soul ties. Might even be your soul mate. But it's hard finding the love of your life so young because you don't get to explore young adulthood single.

If y'all was the type to spend everyday together, it's probably feeling like she lost her twin right now. In most situations I don't advocate this, but send her a text and let her know that if she wants to talk, the y'all can, but you'll leave the ball in her court.

When you been fukking with someone for a decade that's like yo family now, for better or worse.

 

[Jamesmac91]

Good you still got a chance then...



What good with shorty you cheated with tho?

I had planned to tell her everything too, but the way this went kinda makes me hesitant.

 

[Lweezy]

We're broken up now.
I feel sick to my stomach.

This has been my girlfriend of 4 years and best friend of 9 years.

I didn't get caught and I doubt I would have gotten caught, but I kept telling myself that I was a coward for not telling her.

Thought I was doing the right thing but now I feel like I made the wrong decision and did serious emotion damage to her for no reason. I could have just broken up with her and let her have that peace of mind.

Never cheated before and don't know what happens from here, really want input from other people that have gone through similar situations.

We haven't talked since I confessed last night, I see that she's erased me off all her social media. I really want to talk to her again and continue to tell her how sorry I am, not because I want her back but I just want to do whatever make her hurt less.

Or do I need to just let her have her space?

Dumb ass nikka

 

[NkrumahWasRight Is Wrong]

It's crazy because I was literally about to cross the finish line.

We've were having an open and emotional convo about our issues; the overall tone was sad but understanding. It seemed like we both came to terms with the fact we would have to break up.

I told myself I was gonna confess days ago, but deep into the conversation I still hadn't done it.

She started talking about how she felt like somebody was playing a sick joke for her to get the love of her life and then lose me because she's "broken". She was gushing about how amazing and perfect I am. I didn't want her thinking that I was perfect and the failings of the relationship were all on her.

I had to mentally prepare myself to say it for 15-20 mins because every time I would try it's like I couldn't open my mouth. Then I finally got it out and things went left.

Don't initiate contact with her ever again

It's over

 

[ignorethis]

When it happened we were only a few months into the relationship, we broke up but I honestly didn't have a "fukk her forever" mentality, I just took it as a sign of immaturity and us trying something that wasn't meant to be.

At that point she was already my best friend of 5 years, since high school. The fact our friendship was so strong made it possible for me to forgive her, understand why she did it and rebuild from there.

I thought she would react to me cheating the same way I reacted to her cheating, especially since I got in front of it and confessed. But I guess I was wrong.

Honestly why were you so calm when you found out she was cheating?

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Her cheating first changes the energy and negates ur cheating. Two cheats cancel each other out. Solve for y.

She has no higher moral ground to stand on and is a hypocrite for even getting mad.

You don't owe her anything. If she values the friendship, she will come around. But even if she don't, move on and love ur life.

 

[OGBIGBOY187]

You ain't a man OP, you a bytch that folded under pressure

 

[MaxPain]

I felt bad for her for a while until u said she cheated first....and u had to find out she didn’t even tell you.

fukk that bytch. U got ur lick in at the perfect time. Prolly damaged her for life:DenzelisDone:


Good job OP. This is good shyt.

Also remember, men can’t cheat.

 

[Nintendough]

You did something most dudes will never do, you admitted to a mistake without a motive. You didn't get caught, you felt it was the right thing and felt wrong for an error. While he has a right to be upset, she has to be an adult and exam two things.....A. it showed a lot or character on your part to speak up, B. What did she do or not do to make your eyes wander?

Charge her to the gae though, her reaction shows she is gonna be nothing but headaches from this point forward.

 

[Kane1]

Back to your mommas crib

Told my son.....'before you even THINK about moving in with a chick, you better have $5000 in a savings account for get-a-way money!' you don't want to be stuck in a bad spot and having to move back home like a bum



If you do dirt.....or if you find her doing dirt then you should be able to move out with the quickness and get your own 1 bedroom spot

 

[Paisley Darts]

Usually my advise is to "Deny, Deny, Deny." But you told on yourself so I'm at a loss of words. I mean, what the hell did you think was going to happen when you snitched? Yall have make-up sex and live happily ever after? This ain't a movie breh

 

[Jamesmac91]

Honestly why were you so calm when you found out she was cheating?

I didn't want to be in a relationship, I felt pressured into it. I saw what she did as my way out.

But I still saw her as my best friend and wanted her in my life. I would just go back to fukking hoes.

We tried being just friends again, but it was impossible to put the intimacy and sex part back in the box after we opened it.

Told my son.....'before you even THINK about moving in with a chick, you better have $5000 in a savings account for get-a-way money!' you don't want to be stuck in a bad spot and having to move back home like a bum



If you do dirt.....or if you find her doing dirt then you should be able to move out with the quickness and get your own 1 bedroom spot

It's actually the opposite, I have my own house and help her with her rent as well. Wondering what she will do, especially since today is the first of the month.

 

[Geek Nasty]

fukk other women and cry about the consequences brehs

 

[BlaqkSpliffin]

nikka if you don't move on

Yo cheated on you and you forgave her. That means you get a free fukk up. The only mistake you made was telling her the truth. In all honesty she should be thanking you for being real and telling her the truth. If she can't deal right now then fukk her. Go about your life and most likely she'll come back after she's done being emotional and shyt.

But if she does come back y'all need to have a conversation and clear shyt up so that she knows ain't no more cheating gonna happen. Y'all gonna have to rebuild trust.

 

[Umoja]