Admitted to cheating on my GF, where do I go from here?

[DreadBrown]

Op if you dont want to be with her let it go, these things never easy.

But yeah you shouldn’t have told her, rule no1.

 

[Lifejennings]

Don't reach out to her at all? Wait for her to talk to me for how long?

And I thought this confession was gonna go a lot differently. Early in the relationship she cheated and I had to find out on my own, I didn't get angry I just charged it to the game and said it was proof that we weren't supposed to be in a relationship but we can still be friends.

We got past that and got back together, but I always told myself if I cheated I would admit to it because I would never want to have her find out on her own and feel the way I felt.

Oh...that changes things. fukk her. You forgave her for cheating, nut she couldn't do the same? You two are definitely not meant to be together.

 

[Elle Driver]

Fixed.

Its scientifically impossible for us.
Universe's laws don't allow for it

Saying "black men cheat" is like saying the moon is a triangle.

Its just illogical

 

[Jamesmac91]

She just FaceTimed me, there wasn't any yelling. Just venting about how much I hurt her.

Said she talked to her mom, mom told her that she will get through it and to forgive me (her dad cheated on her mom and left them to start another family). Her best friend comforted her and told her she never expected this from her.

Talked about she feels I did what I did because I knew that she would still want to be with me even after(she would always say I wouldn't leave you even if you cheated, sometimes jokingly sometimes more serious).

Other friend told her I did what I did because I take care of her (not true), and she needs to become more independent.

Said I violated her by fukking the other woman in my house in the bed, and I allowed her to lay in the bed afterwards.

Convo didn't really accomplish anything but I felt I owed her that vent.

 

[FLATOP]

Don't reach out to her at all? Wait for her to talk to me for how long?

And I thought this confession was gonna go a lot differently. Early in the relationship she cheated and I had to find out on my own, I didn't get angry I just charged it to the game and said it was proof that we weren't supposed to be in a relationship but we can still be friends.

We got past that and got back together, but I always told myself if I cheated I would admit to it because I would never want to have her find out on her own and feel the way I felt.

I was bout to say I respect you for being honest with her. But cant do that no more after this

 

[Brolic Scholar]

So on some real shyt OP, are you going to address the fact that she cheated and that you’re supporting her financially? You brought it up for a reason. Time to talk about it.

 

[Jamesmac91]

All my friends I told asked me why I confessed, and said I shouldn't have done that.

My dad just told me the same, that I shouldn't have confessed and just stopped doing it. But said I wasn't wrong for telling the truth.

I really thought I was doing the right thing, felt like a coward hiding the truth. Wish I had asked these things before I went over there.

 

[Jamesmac91]

So on some real shyt OP, are you going to address the fact that she cheated and that you’re supporting her financially? You brought it up for a reason. Time to talk about it.

I have a thread talking about our relationship in detail in the Salon.

But I got over that a long time ago, we moved forward and grew together. This was the woman I saw being my wife eventually, so yes I invested into her.

I know this is frowned upon on here but people build lives together after cheating all the time in the real world.

 

[Fatboi1]

And I thought this confession was gonna go a lot differently. Early in the relationship she cheated and I had to find out on my own,.

stopped reading here

That relationship was already on the train to fukkery City long time ago!

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

All my friends I told asked me why I confessed, and said I shouldn't have done that.

My dad just told me the same, that I shouldn't have confessed and just stopped doing it. But said I wasn't wrong for telling the truth.

I really thought I was doing the right thing, felt like a coward hiding the truth. Wish I had asked these things before I went over there.

What's her Instagram?

Fred

 

[ignorethis]

All my friends I told asked me why I confessed, and said I shouldn't have done that.

My dad just told me the same, that I shouldn't have confessed and just stopped doing it. But said I wasn't wrong for telling the truth.

I really thought I was doing the right thing, felt like a coward hiding the truth. Wish I had asked these things before I went over there.

You fukked up letting strangers on the internet shame you for doing something. Both when they shamed you in Salon for cheating, and in this thread for confessing.

But like somebody said earlier, based on your thread in the Salon it seemed like you were miserable in that relationship.

You might really love her but that dysfunction would have continued to drain you.

 

[karim]

So I shouldn't have told her

You shouldn't have cheated. The Moment you cheated, there was nothing you could've done to repair the damage done.

 

[Kane1]

And then on top of that feel bad about cheating after she cheated on him first

Op u sound soft as fukk:Denzelcrackinup:

Where they do that at




hoe should have BEEN CANCELLED

 

[Ashley Banks]

Wait, she cheated first?? She better stop crying and call it even

 

[JQ Legend]

All that apologizing shyt just make u look like a simp

She prolly more @ that then the actual cheating

And she cheated on u first?

You literally had every right to keep it to yourself