Admitted to cheating on my GF, where do I go from here?

[GoAggieGo.]

I didn't want to be in a relationship, I felt pressured into it. I saw what she did as my way out.

But I still saw her as my best friend and wanted her in my life. I would just go back to fukking hoes.

We tried being just friends again, but it was impossible to put the intimacy and sex part back in the box after we opened it.


It's actually the opposite, I have my own house and help her with her rent as well. Wondering what she will do, especially since today is the first of the month.

She'll hit you up tonight or tomorrow then. That rent is usually due by the 3rd or 5th, so you'll be hearing from her soon

 

[Turbulent]

where you go from here?

for one, you take a step back and figure out why you did what you did, and what exactly it is that you felt was wrong in what you did. once you figure that out, you have to take time to forgive yourself. if you want to get back with her, you HAVE to forgive yourself first. if you haven't she will own your soul.

personally i wouldn't get back with her. just start fresh with a new girl. the soup is already spoiled cause it was spat in.

 

[thekingsmen]

I don't think I want to get back with her.
We had problems with sexual chemistry and had no solution in site.

I should have broke up with her before this happened.

I just want to know what I can do now to make this less ugly.

U can't so take the L and move forward.

 

[Figaro]

She probably going to fukk around 10 nikkas before the years end breh

 

[cornercommission2k12]

The 2 of you seem to have a very messy relationship and judging by the fact both of you have done some cheating, and I use some intentionally, you both seem to be settling for one another and internally searching for something you both are not finding in one another.

I'm sure the cheating didn't start with just the sex, I'm sure both of you emotionally cheated, flirted with others, crossed emotional lines with other people that people committed in a relationship don't cross, etc. Played it off as "that's just my friend we cool like that" when in reality you both want more than what your finding in each other.

I would in fact just move on. Decide if you want to be committed right now and if not, be honest with yourself about that and just date. If your going to commit then make sure it's with someone who kills your thirst to want to find something else. Make sure you feel whole with that person.

 

[Umoja]

When it happened we were only a few months into the relationship, we broke up but I honestly didn't have a "fukk her forever" mentality, I just took it as a sign of immaturity and us trying something that wasn't meant to be.

At that point she was already my best friend of 5 years, since high school. The fact our friendship was so strong made it possible for me to forgive her, understand why she did it and rebuild from there.

I thought she would react to me cheating the same way I reacted to her cheating, especially since I got in front of it and confessed. But I guess I was wrong.

You're a simp.

 

[Turbulent]

I thought she would react to me cheating the same way I reacted to her cheating, especially since I got in front of it and confessed. But I guess I was wrong.

aka you wanted props for "cheating the right way". Not trying to shyt on you but you seem to be the type to want to be a "nice guy" so that people can see how much of a nice guy you are. let me tell you something real breh. Nothing wrong with being a good guy and if those are truly your principles, be that guy and continue to admit when you fukk up. But you gotta choose if you want to be a savage or a good guy. right now, seems to me like you want to seem like a nice guy...Never expect anything. the fact you're contemplating if you did the right thing or not based on her reaction is not a good sign breh...

 

[sosaa]

u admitted u fukked up. move on and keep livin your best life. i wouldn't even entertain this chick anymore seeing as she cheated on you as well.

 

[Easy-E]

Sounds like u told her to assuage ur own guilt. Now she'll have to deal w the pain, insecurity, resentment and everything else that will follow while u feel a sense of relief for telling her If u get back together that trust is gone. U should've either moved on or if u wanted to stay then stop cheating.

Seriously...virgins aren't walking around these days.

Why are ppl so puritanical about cheating, but, scoff at the idea of waiting til marriage and having sex with one person for life?

The idea of a supreme being wanting you to have one sex partner to death is ridiculous, but, you think a healthy man never has sexual ogres for women other than you and he may act on it once or twice between the ages of 19 and 79?

Same for us the other way.

I understand being pissed. But, all this emotional breaking down and "insecurity" is madness. Women and men have ridiculous egos.

 

[kuts]

Depends on how much she loves you (aka how good you are at sex LOL)

Additionally, chicks will always forgive a man who improves after wrong doing. But alot of men stay bums.

 

[Neuromancer]

Why did you cheat, Op?

 

[Dog Based Gremlin]

If you aint married...

Spoiler

you single :OBrown1: