richaveli83
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Focusing on yourself is supposed to be boring. Getting your stuff together is not glamorous but the rewards are worth it. Balance is the key though.
Adult Woman: “Focusing on yourself and your growth is idiotic and boring.”
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More often than not I tend to take that L.
DDDDDDon DEMARCO
There’s no perfect system but this is one thing arranged marriage societies get right.
Men are guaranteed a wife, you just have to focused on getting an education and a good paying job/career or be an entrepreneur.
It can be tough to balance getting money and getting women at the same time for a young man.
Men are guaranteed a wife, you just have to focused on getting an education and a good paying job/career or be an entrepreneur.
It can be tough to balance getting money and getting women at the same time for a young man.
YES!They're both right
His advice is sound and good advice. I wish I would have done that in my 20s.
Her response has truth in it
When I was broke as a joke driving a hooptie living check to check in a hood adjacent studio in my 20s I was also drowning in p*ssy
How is that possible?
I was outside running the streets up in the club (broke but knew people that got me in and shyt) and bringing broads back to my tiny house studio
Me not having a pot to piss in didn't prevent me from getting my dikk wet
A good, nuanced take.
This is why I say most women are not all about money, and dudes don’t know what it is to be genuinely WANTED. Too many young dudes with no $ who have girlfriends, FWB, etc. Yes being successful is definitely a boost, but waiting until you’ve “made it” to interact with the opposite sex is a recipe for disaster.
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There definitely is a healthy balance to attain when it comes to chasing your goals and women. I don't agree with putting an age limit on it since everyone's journey has a different route. Too many people put an emphasis on 30 when most of our life spans go into the late 80s-90s. A man with alot of resources and zero experience with money will be eaten alive in this modern age. You gotta get some experience in while you're building it helps you increase your discernment so that you know what type of woman you truly want while eliminating some of the superficial things you thought you needed.
yea running around broke AF was so lit...once you get to a certain age thats when everything else like money starts to matter 2 much.....its just not the same
But at least you experienced it! That’s normal. Everything’s easier when we are younger lolyea running around broke AF was so lit...once you get to a certain age thats when everything else like money starts to matter 2 much.....its just not the same
Because money didn't always exist. Money don't mean anything outside of the value ascribed to it
Physical attraction is not arbitrary or something that can be held to modern logical standards. Our base human desires defy logic every day
Our minds and our bodies are in constant conflict over what's logical to each. Our lives are shaped by that constant internal battle
Money itself has no direct value. Money's job is to convey value. The value conveyed is connected to hardwired biological impulses. Physical attraction is connected to the same impulses
This is why broke nikkas get pu55y. It don't make sense to you but there was a time where the idea of money didn't make sense either
We have more toys now but we're not that much more evolved than we'd like to think we are. Our desire to fukk something that looks good to us surpasses the desire for money most times
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Everyone wants to shine, no one wants to grind. Incremental Betterment really is the way to win because it makes you challenge yourself on the reg as that is how you're living. Check:
Identical twins, middle aged. One decides to start going for a walk every day, doing some press ups and reading a handful of pages a day. The other keeps everything as it is. "Hell" he thinks "I work hard, I deserve an extra beer... Maybe some potato chips" he says and turns on the TV set.
Check back in in a month. No difference. A year? Nothing to report. Five? Its getting obvious. A decade? Its self evident:
"So... You two are related? Really?".
Its that easy. Up or down, pick a side.
Incremental Betterment. "Every day, in every way I'm getting better and better".
This half truth should have remained unattended. Women will always be around and there's always a group to appeal to. Just live your life.
"Women should be the last thing on your mind" but the last thing he said is women will always be there anyway. Why even make the prior statement in the first place?
This might be the last 20-50 years of young adults with some got damn sense. Hopefully we all can take action before OG tweet type people run society into the ground
"Women should be the last thing on your mind" but the last thing he said is women will always be there anyway. Why even make the prior statement in the first place?
This might be the last 20-50 years of young adults with some got damn sense. Hopefully we all can take action before OG tweet type people run society into the ground
The thing about this is both are true but it exposed a deep societal(American?) Issue. We tend to over focus on hard goals as opposed to developing competent systems
Focusing on yourself is not bad advice. Focusing on yourself at the expense of social development is an oxymoron funny enough
Humans are social creatures. Even at our most introverted nobody's meant to be in a log cabin secluded from humanity
Focusing on yourself with women being the endgame is the problem. Hell not even just women. Hyper focusing on anything that brings short term happiness is a recipe for disaster and is how addictions are born
The separation makes all the difference in the world. You should do things that put you in an optimal state for living. Doing things with a rigid goal often leaves people feeling empty after they achieve it. If you're working out everyday to keep your body optimized for living you're more fulfilled. If you're working out with the end goal of getting women you're probably gonna have issues
Goals vs systems
Focusing on yourself is not bad advice. Focusing on yourself at the expense of social development is an oxymoron funny enough
Humans are social creatures. Even at our most introverted nobody's meant to be in a log cabin secluded from humanityFocusing on yourself with women being the endgame is the problem. Hell not even just women. Hyper focusing on anything that brings short term happiness is a recipe for disaster and is how addictions are born
The separation makes all the difference in the world. You should do things that put you in an optimal state for living. Doing things with a rigid goal often leaves people feeling empty after they achieve it. If you're working out everyday to keep your body optimized for living you're more fulfilled. If you're working out with the end goal of getting women you're probably gonna have issues
Goals vs systems
Money isn't everything to everyone. I had a fling with a bad ass Hispanic woman married to a white dude with a rich family. I was making 9.50 an hour still staying with the fam, prolly seeing less than 10% of what dude was grossing.
I had a fling with a very americanized African (Nigerian) chick and she was getting ready to marry some cac her homegirl put her on since he had money.
You don't need money to talk a female out her drawls. You just need to know how to talk to her, and from my experiences I would say you could not know how to talk to a woman and still get her out the lace.
Attraction is way deeper than financial status. So much deeper that I'm questioning your intelligence for implying the opposite
Him Duncan
Hugh G Reckshon
You never lose bytches chasing money
You always lose money chasing bytches...
I don't think he's saying don't talk to women until you're 30, but get on your mission improving yourself and they'll come
You always lose money chasing bytches...
I don't think he's saying don't talk to women until you're 30, but get on your mission improving yourself and they'll come
Biscayne
Ocean air
The money men “on their purpose” wives and fiancés were fukkin KBTheKey.
