malbaker86
Gators
Bruh move on man....please move on. Keep ya head up tho
All I ended up getting for Christmas was my heart broken
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Best advice I can give is,
find things to occupy your time:
Workout, it releases endorphins(esp. cardio) and helps your mood
Find a spiritual base, doesnt have to be religious just find a form of meditation
Take Rhodiola, it is an adaptogenic herb that helps the body adapt to stress
Eat healthy, a poor diet alters your mood and makes you feel like shyt
Find a way to volunteer, helping others takes your mind off your situation
I hope you feel better and things workout for you and your family
find things to occupy your time:
Workout, it releases endorphins(esp. cardio) and helps your mood
Find a spiritual base, doesnt have to be religious just find a form of meditation
Take Rhodiola, it is an adaptogenic herb that helps the body adapt to stress
Eat healthy, a poor diet alters your mood and makes you feel like shyt
Find a way to volunteer, helping others takes your mind off your situation
I hope you feel better and things workout for you and your family
MBwithadream
All Star
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prophecypro
Hollywood North
She wrong for leaving you when you had a kid and all.
Yuzo Lightheart
Rookie
you have to understand that you can love someone without being with them
people with borderline personality disorder (i dont think you have that) have a problem with not being able to understand that other people exist independently of them. they think that other people are just extensions of them instead of seperate individuals, which is why they get so possessive - they think other people in the world basically belong to them and are disobeying them when they see them doing what they want to do instead of what the borderline wants them to do. borderlines never really fall in love as a result because instead of loving a person as they are they just use them as ways to help create a better self image of themselves. for example a borderline wont love you because of you, they'll "love" you because you help them feel like theyre a good person, or sexy, or powerful, or smart etc. they basically just use people like toys to play an imaginary game where they are the starring role
i use that example not because i think thats what you are but because when i had to learn about borderlines and how terrible they are it helped me understand that i never want to be like them. you DONT have to be with someone to love them. if you love someone, understand that they dont have to reciprocate that feeling back to you for it to be ok to love them anyway. it doesnt matter what that person thinks about you (if they laugh at your jokes, tell you how great, or how smart you are etc) for you to have an ability to love them. you DONT have to own someone to love them. love at its core is a selfless act. it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with a selfless appreciation of the other person. if you really love that girl like you said you do, then you dont have to own her to prove it.
let that girl go and move on with her life on her own and learn to love her without owning her. keep that love for her in your heart and move on with your life while you let her move on with hers on her own.
people with borderline personality disorder (i dont think you have that) have a problem with not being able to understand that other people exist independently of them. they think that other people are just extensions of them instead of seperate individuals, which is why they get so possessive - they think other people in the world basically belong to them and are disobeying them when they see them doing what they want to do instead of what the borderline wants them to do. borderlines never really fall in love as a result because instead of loving a person as they are they just use them as ways to help create a better self image of themselves. for example a borderline wont love you because of you, they'll "love" you because you help them feel like theyre a good person, or sexy, or powerful, or smart etc. they basically just use people like toys to play an imaginary game where they are the starring role
i use that example not because i think thats what you are but because when i had to learn about borderlines and how terrible they are it helped me understand that i never want to be like them. you DONT have to be with someone to love them. if you love someone, understand that they dont have to reciprocate that feeling back to you for it to be ok to love them anyway. it doesnt matter what that person thinks about you (if they laugh at your jokes, tell you how great, or how smart you are etc) for you to have an ability to love them. you DONT have to own someone to love them. love at its core is a selfless act. it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with a selfless appreciation of the other person. if you really love that girl like you said you do, then you dont have to own her to prove it.
let that girl go and move on with her life on her own and learn to love her without owning her. keep that love for her in your heart and move on with your life while you let her move on with hers on her own.
triplehate
Superstar
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don't invest emotionally
MadameMoreaux
Pro
she sounds extremely selfish. Instead of doing what's best for her child, she is satiating her own lustful desires.
I cannot stand women who set their children up to grow up without fathers present. Not that the original poster won't try to be with his kid, but you cannot substitute the presence of a father in the same household and seeing his kid everyday.
↓R↑LYB
I trained Sheng Long and Shonuff
Breh, your old broad told you to go see other people. Think about that. She's saying it'd be best if you start fukking other bytches.
I get dirty looks from broads I didn't even fukk yet if they see me dancing with a chick at the club. It's over breh, move on.
↓R↑LYB
I trained Sheng Long and Shonuff
This. Also it might be a good idea to go head and kill the baby. You can never be too safe.
↓R↑LYB
I trained Sheng Long and Shonuff
nikka you can't be this damn gullible.
IPunchFaces
Pro
There will be alot of young people and people who haven't truly been in love tell you to move on, stop being a bytch, etc, etc. But we all know, at least people
who have dealt with this before that it sucks. You get depressed at times, life sucks, sometimes when your busy its off your mind, but eventually it does come
back. The only thing thats going to heal it is time and finding another girl whose better than that one. Easier said then done. I try not to talk to my ex...there's
nobody I hate more than her...but theres also nobody I love more than her. It sucks. Its still hard to deal with...you put so much trust into somebody
and they break it like it's nothing...its devastating. Stay strong...as time goes on it helps the best, but as the saying goes. Time forgets, but not as
easily the mind forgets.
who have dealt with this before that it sucks. You get depressed at times, life sucks, sometimes when your busy its off your mind, but eventually it does come
back. The only thing thats going to heal it is time and finding another girl whose better than that one. Easier said then done. I try not to talk to my ex...there's
nobody I hate more than her...but theres also nobody I love more than her. It sucks. Its still hard to deal with...you put so much trust into somebody
and they break it like it's nothing...its devastating. Stay strong...as time goes on it helps the best, but as the saying goes. Time forgets, but not as
easily the mind forgets.
AZBeauty
Stop lyin' nicca.
Did he mention why they broke up?
Just focus on improving yourself and your son.
Drag your pitiful ass to the gym or if the weather is still decent where you are, start a jogging routine. How old is your son? If he's older than 2, find him some activities you and him and go do. The Y has a lot of activities for kids or check your local rec centers.
If you've been thinking of going back to school or just expanding your education period, this is also a good time to start researching that. You have to keep yourself busy because if you dwell on the relationship, it just gets worse. My core was rocked over a 1 year stint so I can only imagine how tough ending something over 7 years can be but you will get over it. Just make sure you take the steps to improve yourself now so that when you're finally over it, you're not flabby and sick. You can join the dating pool with a whole new "swag" about yourself. Keep your head up.
Drag your pitiful ass to the gym or if the weather is still decent where you are, start a jogging routine. How old is your son? If he's older than 2, find him some activities you and him and go do. The Y has a lot of activities for kids or check your local rec centers.
If you've been thinking of going back to school or just expanding your education period, this is also a good time to start researching that. You have to keep yourself busy because if you dwell on the relationship, it just gets worse. My core was rocked over a 1 year stint so I can only imagine how tough ending something over 7 years can be but you will get over it. Just make sure you take the steps to improve yourself now so that when you're finally over it, you're not flabby and sick. You can join the dating pool with a whole new "swag" about yourself. Keep your head up.
Tone double b z
Rookie
So let me get this right, you probably went a year witout pokin nuttin, you ole faithful as$ fag9ot you!
