All I ended up getting for Christmas was my heart broken

[Tone double b z]

The girl I spent 7 years of my life with, the girl I almost married, the girl I had a child and started a family with, decided to leave me under the understanding that she was only leaving temporarily, that she just needed time apart and that she had every intention of coming back.

In 12 days, it will have been one year since. I tried everything I could to rebuild our relationship. I went through a terrible depression, completely loathed myself, and had constant thoughts of suicide. I was coming close to making everything work out, completely turned my life around for this girl and our son so we could all be a family again. About a month ago, things greatly started to improve and she was even about to come back and were were going to be together again. Everything I had worked for in the last year was finally about to pay off, but in the end I ended up getting hurt once again.

Today I got my son for christmas eve and she came to pick him up after work. Having us all together made me feel so down, rather than being happy in that moment, all I could think about was how things will never be like this ever again. When they left I completely lost it. In an instant I went from being happy and content to feeling absolutely miserable. We started texting and she asked me what was wrong, so I told her.

She told me that I should start trying to date other people. It completely broke my heart to see that from her. For a year I held out hope that she still wanted to be with me, that she still loved me, that she wanted our family together again. She's pretty much telling me that I should move on at this point. I can't move on. I can't just let go of a 7 year long relationship. Trust me, over the last year I've tried as hard as I could to move on, to accept that she isn't coming back. Even if I wanted to move on, even if I tried, she would always be in the back of my mind. I could never love anyone else the way they deserve to be.

So now I will be spending christmas alone, one week later I will be spending my birthday alone, and then 6 days after that constantly reminded that one year ago that day I lost everything that mattered most to me forever. It was also 3 years ago today that we decided that we were going to get married. So that kind of makes this all sting a little bit extra.

 

[darkmanp]

Ninja I play for the Toronto Argonauts, now what?

U mad?

I'm the UFC Light Heavyweight champion.

See how easy that is?

 

[semtex]

Watch this you should feel better

 

[aqualung]

...My brother been with this chick for over 10 years, put her through nursing school, started up a business for her, purchased a crib and whip...

Why did not they ever marry? Women do not wait around forever. You brother invested time, money, and raw emotion, but failed to put a ring on it?

Grown folk claim what is theirs without equivocation. Make no mistake: she was single for all 10 years.

I don't understand your family's hood culture & traditions, but it sounds like the couple is aaaalllll tangled up with each other. Her guilt leaked out over the Xmas eve ham? He conducted holiday infidelity research online? They'll likely outlast most married couples -- provided nobody kills anyone else in a fit of rage. ( ._.)

--> aq out <--

 

[JBoy]

damn y'all dropped some good advice in this thread
I hope this never happens to me

 

[dynamik]

The girl I spent 7 years of my life with, the girl I almost married, the girl I had a child and started a family with, decided to leave me under the understanding that she was only leaving temporarily, that she just needed time apart and that she had every intention of coming back.

In 12 days, it will have been one year since. I tried everything I could to rebuild our relationship. I went through a terrible depression, completely loathed myself, and had constant thoughts of suicide. I was coming close to making everything work out, completely turned my life around for this girl and our son so we could all be a family again. About a month ago, things greatly started to improve and she was even about to come back and were were going to be together again. Everything I had worked for in the last year was finally about to pay off, but in the end I ended up getting hurt once again.

Today I got my son for christmas eve and she came to pick him up after work. Having us all together made me feel so down, rather than being happy in, that moment, all I could think about was how things will never be like this ever again. When they left I completely lost it. In an instant I went from being happy and content to feeling absolutely miserable. We started texting and she asked me what was wrong, so I told her.

She told me that I should start trying to date other people. It completely broke my heart to see that from her. For a year I held out hope that she still wanted to be with me, that she still loved me, that she wanted our family together again. She's pretty much telling me that I should move on at this point. I can't move on. I can't just let go of a 7 year long relationship. Trust me, over the last year I've tried as hard as I could to move on, to accept that she isn't coming back. Even if I wanted to move on, even if I tried, she would always be in the back of my mind. I could never love anyone else the way they deserve to be.

So now I will be spending christmas alone, one week later I will be spending my birthday alone, and then 6 days after that constantly reminded that one year ago that day I lost everything that mattered most to me forever. It was also 3 years ago today that we decided that we were going to get married. So that kind of makes this all sting a little bit extra.

I know this is probably the last thing that you want to hear.... But its over........ For now. Honestly, the best thing you can do is pull a 180. Do you... Exude confidence and it will do wonders for your self esteem and it will attract her. I went through this with my ex of 11 years (18-29 2 kids) and i learned the hard way. The best thing for a man dealing with heartbreak and rejection is to get the smell of new p*ssy in his nose. Its how were wired. We still know we got "it". Stay strong breh.

 

[darkmanp]

Why did not they ever marry? Women do not wait around forever. You brother invested time, money, and raw emotion, but failed to put a ring on it?

Grown folk claim what is theirs without equivocation. Make no mistake: she was single for all 10 years.

I don't understand your family's hood culture & traditions, but it sounds like the couple is aaaalllll tangled up with each other. Her guilt leaked out over the Xmas eve ham? He conducted holiday infidelity research online? They'll likely outlast most married couples -- provided nobody kills anyone else in a fit of rage. ( ._.)

--> aq out <--

They have had their problems over the years. Both have done their dirt in the past. They have broken up over extended periods and got back together. My brother is hurt so much because he didn't see it coming. He thought all was good, plus it being the holiday's was so eager to see his son open Christmas presents together as a family.

And honestly, with infidelity being so rampant today, I don't think marriage would have mattered. I know one chick in my old neighborhood who started having an affair only 2 months after being married. A dude who smashed another chick 3 days after his wedding. Only thing marriage means is in the divorce you leave with only have of what you brung in.

 

[Carter G. Hoodson]

keep ya head up bruh...it happens. The only thing you can do is remain positive and try to occupy your time with something.

Keep it pushing homie

 

[Rawtid]

This. Also it might be a good idea to go head and kill the baby. You can never be too safe.

 

[↓R↑LYB]

She had a child with him, I doubt that's it. Lmao

She told him he needs to fukk other bytches, of course that's the reason she threw his ass in the bushes.

 

[aqualung]

DYNAMIC:
Consider seeing a therapist, bro. Sometimes it helps to talk to an objective professional counselor about your feelings and about your plans for future relationships. ( ._.) Because you are taking this really hard. I can tell, even though I don't know you IRL.

--> aq out <--

 

[AnotherRoute]

Happened to me with a girl I was together with for 7 years as well, no kids she we both graduated undergrad, I had to postpone going to grad school to help my moms out, she went to grad school after she graduated 3 months after she got her MBA she decided to break up for the seconded and final time. Because she was quote unqoute was going places and I haven't accomplish anything the whole time we were together. Dead ass told me I didn't even finish college I was like chick you are in my graduation pictures Long story short she got fired a year ago and hasn't been employed since. I found out through a mutual person we both know she was asking for leads and how I was doing.

Honestly the break up was the best thing to happen to me son. I became a lot more social got into better shape. Come and go as I please no, more being grilled about shyt and you know what no more living like an old man. I miss her from time to time but son, I stopped acting like this 3 months after we break up move the fukk man move on. You crying like a bytch while she is getting fukked by someone else. You may think its just words but if you must find out the hard way ask her about it. And after she tells you she has and right after you start crying look at your self in the mirror and realize how pathetic you look. If you don't move on from that point your hopeless

 

[BellaVenus]

Sometimes a break means a break. Other times it just means she doesn't wanna hurt your feelings and doesnt wanna be with you anymore.

Good luck & remember everything happens for a reason.
As much as you might not want to think about being with someone else... You never know, someone even better can come along.

 

[Two Stacks]

I got fukked like this when i was 21...

same bytch texts me a few weeks ago like:

"Hey, wyd?"

Me: Who's this?

"[First Name]"

Me: Oh. I'm writing a paper for my management class. (I actually was)

"Can u bring me home please"

I never responded.


I've done this to her like once a year since 09. Idk why she thinks im going to run to her.
My sister say she saw her a while back and she looked like she was on crack and her two kids looked dirty.

I was like :hardenwow: because that bytch deserves everything that comes to her, and it aint my problem.

She taught me to be #hardonhoes

 

[TRUEST]

Shut the fukk up you fakkit. I want to beat his ass for hurting my brother. I have met dude before and he is a lame. He disrespect my fam and I can't put my hands on a female. We found out who he was on facebook because she was trying to hide his idenity. Dude knew my brother and his babymama was together. My brother been with this chick for over 10 years, put her through nursing school, started up a business for her, purchased a crib and whip. A weak nikka like you would just chalk it to the game, hell no, both parties need to be put in their place.

start with the female. and if the dude knew ur brother, then deal with him secondly. and fall back on that "i dont put my hands on females" nonsense. makes u look like a b1tch. i'm the boss of all bosses and that statement gets no respect from me.