All I ended up getting for Christmas was my heart broken
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aqualung
I wear a crown of curls.
I pity your child. Neither of you parents remembered to marry before procreating.
The girl I spent 7 years of my life with, the girl I almost married, the girl I had a child and started a family with....
In 12 days, it will have been one year since I tried everything I could to rebuild our relationship. I went through a terrible depression, completely loathed myself, and had constant thoughts of suicide....
I don't understand why she didn't abort your son. You are good enough to spawn with, but not good enough to marry? On what does she base these monumental life choices?
After 6-7 years with no marriage, SHE MOVED ON WITH HER LIFE. Did you expect her to hang out forever? Perhaps you will find the next chick who will give you 6-7 more years & another b*stard kid. *shrug*
AND WHY MUST YOU CHANGE YOUR LIFE IN ORDER TO LURE HER BACK? Are you a felon or satanist or serial cheater or some such? What major fault of yours repels this gal? You aren't telling us some substantial thing. -_-
--> aq out
Thanks. Good shyt man
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U share that girl.
Just accept that worse case scenario and mentally go with it so the day you go pick up your son like the other above said, that shyt won't phase you at all.
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No interacting with her apart from things pertaining to your son at all. No asking about life, what she's doing, who's she's with and bringing up the past.
Smokin Rider
I been official
She not like that breh. She said it wasn't even me.. She said it was her. She just needed time to figure some shyt out.
Stop living a lie breh! Just stop, it's only gonna make you feel worse
Rich Spirit
#LeveledUp
I know all about this line. She's straight up lying to you dawg. Charger it to the game.
The two of them being amicable is fine but he needs to move on socially so when he picks up his son and shes with a random dude it doesnt matter, because he's the fukking man and who shes with doesnt matter. (this is just a real situation you should be prepared for breh. When i hear about my ex with another dude i get thefor a nanosecond than i think about how she dropped the ball, how ive bossed up since then, how she wasnt up to par to begin with and how we're better apart because the relationship was average at best)
that is true, he should jsut live his life and not look back but what i mean thats usually how it goes, when you dont care anymore they try and come back it never fails..
thegreatwb
Pro
The girl I spent 7 years of my life with, the girl I almost married, the girl I had a child and started a family with, decided to leave me under the understanding that she was only leaving temporarily, that she just needed time apart and that she had every intention of coming back.
In 12 days, it will have been one year since. I tried everything I could to rebuild our relationship. I went through a terrible depression, completely loathed myself, and had constant thoughts of suicide. I was coming close to making everything work out, completely turned my life around for this girl and our son so we could all be a family again. About a month ago, things greatly started to improve and she was even about to come back and were were going to be together again. Everything I had worked for in the last year was finally about to pay off, but in the end I ended up getting hurt once again.
Today I got my son for christmas eve and she came to pick him up after work. Having us all together made me feel so down, rather than being happy in that moment, all I could think about was how things will never be like this ever again. When they left I completely lost it. In an instant I went from being happy and content to feeling absolutely miserable. We started texting and she asked me what was wrong, so I told her.
She told me that I should start trying to date other people. It completely broke my heart to see that from her. For a year I held out hope that she still wanted to be with me, that she still loved me, that she wanted our family together again. She's pretty much telling me that I should move on at this point. I can't move on. I can't just let go of a 7 year long relationship. Trust me, over the last year I've tried as hard as I could to move on, to accept that she isn't coming back. Even if I wanted to move on, even if I tried, she would always be in the back of my mind. I could never love anyone else the way they deserve to be.
So now I will be spending christmas alone, one week later I will be spending my birthday alone, and then 6 days after that constantly reminded that one year ago that day I lost everything that mattered most to me forever. It was also 3 years ago today that we decided that we were going to get married. So that kind of makes this all sting a little bit extra.
Only thing that pisses me off about your story is the fact that she moved on a year ago while you still been thinking that you had hope. She was throwing you the hints but you took her words too literally. Just move on with your life brother. You can't force her to love you and it's better to move on now rather than to get married and find out one of your friends has been blowing her back out. At this point, the only thing that would give her a change of heart is if you won the lottery.
Oh and btw, there's nothing wrong with you. No need to mold yourself to fit a certain woman. Just live life and be happy.
women follow the same script
" i need space" - as i try and wrap up this new nikka
" its me not you" - i no longer love you, attracted to you your just a friend
"i still care about and love you" i dont want you to hate me so i lie so i dont have to live with this guilt
"who knows maybe we will get back together one day" - yeah right nygga if you were the last person on earth, but let me give you this false hope incase it doesnt work out with one jervavian, tavaris, malik, keyshawn, q'travis, Etwan your teh safe nugga i can come to
and sadly men keep slurping up the lies
not even making fun of op or anything but life is short and time is precious that you can never get back, imagine dying tomorrow and then realizing you wasted the last year of your life holding out hope for some chick, just think of all the women you passed up sings you never picked up because you were so fixated on this chick.
JasonSJackson
Jah Sun Ma'at Ra
Squirtle
Supreme Chancellor
The girl I spent 7 years of my life with, the girl I almost married, the girl I had a child and started a family with, decided to leave me under the understanding that she was only leaving temporarily, that she just needed time apart and that she had every intention of coming back.
In 12 days, it will have been one year since. I tried everything I could to rebuild our relationship. I went through a terrible depression, completely loathed myself, and had constant thoughts of suicide. I was coming close to making everything work out, completely turned my life around for this girl and our son so we could all be a family again. About a month ago, things greatly started to improve and she was even about to come back and were were going to be together again. Everything I had worked for in the last year was finally about to pay off, but in the end I ended up getting hurt once again.
Today I got my son for christmas eve and she came to pick him up after work. Having us all together made me feel so down, rather than being happy in that moment, all I could think about was how things will never be like this ever again. When they left I completely lost it. In an instant I went from being happy and content to feeling absolutely miserable. We started texting and she asked me what was wrong, so I told her.
She told me that I should start trying to date other people. It completely broke my heart to see that from her. For a year I held out hope that she still wanted to be with me, that she still loved me, that she wanted our family together again. She's pretty much telling me that I should move on at this point. I can't move on. I can't just let go of a 7 year long relationship. Trust me, over the last year I've tried as hard as I could to move on, to accept that she isn't coming back. Even if I wanted to move on, even if I tried, she would always be in the back of my mind. I could never love anyone else the way they deserve to be.
So now I will be spending christmas alone, one week later I will be spending my birthday alone, and then 6 days after that constantly reminded that one year ago that day I lost everything that mattered most to me forever. It was also 3 years ago today that we decided that we were going to get married. So that kind of makes this all sting a little bit extra.
Read the first paragraph, the skipped to the end hoping to see "You're moving with your aunty and uncle in Bel-Air" But it didn't come, it just didn't come. This shyt is too sad brehs
Sweet James
Pro
The girl I spent 7 years of my life with, the girl I almost married, the girl I had a child and started a family with, decided to leave me under the understanding that she was only leaving temporarily, that she just needed time apart and that she had every intention of coming back.
In 12 days, it will have been one year since. I tried everything I could to rebuild our relationship. I went through a terrible depression, completely loathed myself, and had constant thoughts of suicide. I was coming close to making everything work out, completely turned my life around for this girl and our son so we could all be a family again. About a month ago, things greatly started to improve and she was even about to come back and were were going to be together again. Everything I had worked for in the last year was finally about to pay off, but in the end I ended up getting hurt once again.
Today I got my son for christmas eve and she came to pick him up after work. Having us all together made me feel so down, rather than being happy in that moment, all I could think about was how things will never be like this ever again. When they left I completely lost it. In an instant I went from being happy and content to feeling absolutely miserable. We started texting and she asked me what was wrong, so I told her.
She told me that I should start trying to date other people. It completely broke my heart to see that from her. For a year I held out hope that she still wanted to be with me, that she still loved me, that she wanted our family together again. She's pretty much telling me that I should move on at this point. I can't move on. I can't just let go of a 7 year long relationship. Trust me, over the last year I've tried as hard as I could to move on, to accept that she isn't coming back. Even if I wanted to move on, even if I tried, she would always be in the back of my mind. I could never love anyone else the way they deserve to be.
So now I will be spending christmas alone, one week later I will be spending my birthday alone, and then 6 days after that constantly reminded that one year ago that day I lost everything that mattered most to me forever. It was also 3 years ago today that we decided that we were going to get married. So that kind of makes this all sting a little bit extra.
My older brother is going through the same situation. He and his babymama been having problems as of late but he thought they had worked them out. About two weeks ago he finds out she been creepin with a dude. They stayed seperated for a few days but then she came back crying, talking about it was a mistake.
Last night she runs off in the middle of a famil dinner at her mama's crib, my brother drives home and finds out it is one of the neighbors (he don't really know his neighbors like that). Of all days the foul chick gonna pull this ish on Christmas eve. My bro came to my crib crying, first time i have seen him cry as a grown man.
I swear if I wasn't on the side of law and order I would go put the beats on ol boy. My brother about twice my size, and dude is a lil scrawny punk, so I know my bro would rip his head off, but he not trying to catch a charge.
Worse yet, my brother used to be in the game, but went legit and started a business with his baby mama, and will still have to see her everyday.
Last night she runs off in the middle of a famil dinner at her mama's crib, my brother drives home and finds out it is one of the neighbors (he don't really know his neighbors like that). Of all days the foul chick gonna pull this ish on Christmas eve. My bro came to my crib crying, first time i have seen him cry as a grown man.
I swear if I wasn't on the side of law and order I would go put the beats on ol boy. My brother about twice my size, and dude is a lil scrawny punk, so I know my bro would rip his head off, but he not trying to catch a charge.
Worse yet, my brother used to be in the game, but went legit and started a business with his baby mama, and will still have to see her everyday.
