Am I doing the right thing by not dating/smashing/socializing?

[BodeineBrazy]

In a contemplative mood before I go for a walk - I fukked up my entire social life by being a hermit for a bunch of reasons. Now I'm trying to sort my life out, not just socially but career wise. I'm mid-20s and live at home with mum, and to be honest, it kind of embarrasses me so I purposefully eschew any kind of dating at the moment and instead focus more on myself and getting to where I need to be. I also have yet to reestablish solid, consistent connection with a lot of my old friends because I'm embarrassed about my own indolence.

Problem is, the few people I am actually in regular contact with think it's all a terrible idea and have put doubts in my head

So I wanna get some opinions from you guys - is it the right thing I'm doing?

nikka dont let ANYTHING stop you from living your life. Have goals, but stop being embarrassed that you havent reached them. You'll never be a real man if you care for one second what others think. Once you get your own spot, money right, etc. You will still be a chump (no offense) Destroy this version of your self and rebuild a new one. Everyone grows at their own pace.

fukk these hoes, you live with moms? So what, just dont tell them, "You have a roomate, and ya'll house not up to snuff." U seen coming to america right? Make some shyt up, take her to a telly, or hopefully got to her spot and splash them guts. My nikka was in a shelter fukking bad bytches, he lost his job, fell off, still dressed nice and had hoes, he got himself together and nobody ever knew he was down.

You define your reality. But lesson A, stop being embarrassed. Nobody is without fault, fukk these people. Boss up.

 

[BodeineBrazy]

Nothing is going to magically change when you move outta your mommas house. You need to start cultivating a social life now. Or things will just get worse.

Nobody cares if you live with your parents breh. Everyone has their flaws. Your biggest critic is yourself. Learn to stop caring about what people think. Cuz truth is everyones too busy worrying about their own problems to make fun of yours.

One of the most popular kids i know lived with his mom till he was 28. He just moved out last year. This dude has been bummy in every facet of life since i met him. But he has SOOO many connects, some of them rich. And he has a whole stable of females on his dikk. Cuz hes sociable. Honest. Fun to be around. So nobody judges him for being a total loser who barely makes moves. Get like him.

ha we basically said the same thing.

 

[the cac mamba]

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

Started not to give a fukk and stopped fearing the consequence

 

[Audemar]

I get that a lot - I use a lot of words like that and got clowned a lot for it when I was younger. I still do it though

There's nothing wrong with using words like that and you shouldn't feel bad for people who clown you. The thing is though, using those words in casual settings makes you less relatable to people, meaning they won't feel comfortable around you i.e a chick is not giving you the box. You'll learn through your mistakes. We all have .

 

[Marci-Senpai]

In a contemplative mood before I go for a walk - I fukked up my entire social life by being a hermit for a bunch of reasons. Now I'm trying to sort my life out, not just socially but career wise. I'm mid-20s and live at home with mum, and to be honest, it kind of embarrasses me so I purposefully eschew any kind of dating at the moment and instead focus more on myself and getting to where I need to be. I also have yet to reestablish solid, consistent connection with a lot of my old friends because I'm embarrassed about my own indolence.

Problem is, the few people I am actually in regular contact with think it's all a terrible idea and have put doubts in my head

So I wanna get some opinions from you guys - is it the right thing I'm doing?

fukk is a "eschew"? do u need a tissue my nikka?

 

[old_timer]

i'd say being a recluse is the wrong approach
there might be certain circumstances-
like if you are contagious a wanted fugitive or trying to escape a Jigsaw trap
but almost always it is better to be socializing

but seriously-
most of the value you can provide to a woman
is what you say, what you do, how you make her feel
your value to her has relatively little to do with financial resources, physical security, employment status, or overall stability

now i am not saying you should settle for being a bum
part of being an adult is holding yourself accountable for basic sufficiency
but.. that is an ever shifting goal post
things like intimacy, etc , the shared moments building to a history
that is how we actually connect as human beings
meanwhile , the sufficiency bar continues to rise as you age

i know what it is like to be poor and pressed for time
up to 25 or so was status
personally i would make a budget
a certain number of dollars, so many hours (per week) dedicated to dating/socializing
then put the rest of your resources into yourself

 

[Prynce]

nikka dont let ANYTHING stop you from living your life. Have goals, but stop being embarrassed that you havent reached them. You'll never be a real man if you care for one second what others think. Once you get your own spot, money right, etc. You will still be a chump (no offense) Destroy this version of your self and rebuild a new one. Everyone grows at their own pace.

fukk these hoes, you live with moms? So what, just dont tell them, "You have a roomate, and ya'll house not up to snuff." U seen coming to america right? Make some shyt up, take her to a telly, or hopefully got to her spot and splash them guts. My nikka was in a shelter fukking bad bytches, he lost his job, fell off, still dressed nice and had hoes, he got himself together and nobody ever knew he was down.

You define your reality. But lesson A, stop being embarrassed. Nobody is without fault, fukk these people. Boss up.

real nikka

 

[semtex]

I ain't been in the mood to date either. But that's because I jack off too much.

Mark Cuban says live as cheaply as possible when you're young

 

[hatechall]

In a contemplative mood before I go for a walk - I fukked up my entire social life by being a hermit for a bunch of reasons. Now I'm trying to sort my life out, not just socially but career wise. I'm mid-20s and live at home with mum, and to be honest, it kind of embarrasses me so I purposefully eschew any kind of dating at the moment and instead focus more on myself and getting to where I need to be. I also have yet to reestablish solid, consistent connection with a lot of my old friends because I'm embarrassed about my own indolence.

Problem is, the few people I am actually in regular contact with think it's all a terrible idea and have put doubts in my head

So I wanna get some opinions from you guys - is it the right thing I'm doing?

I can relate. I'm 29, live with my mom and have no social life.
My embarrassment makes me not want to socialize with people too. I dread attending family gatherings because I have little to say when someone asks me, "what have you been up to?"

I don't like clubbing or drinking. Nor do I enjoy making shallow conversation.

I find that, as a I get older, I'm more interested in meaningful relationships than sex. I can attract a handful of women when I dress nicely, but, in all honesty, I've got too many insecurities to be dating.

I don't know where to begin building a social life because I've been a loner for so long. I'd like to travel someday, and maybe learn a martial art.

 

[HoloGraphic]

In a contemplative mood before I go for a walk - I fukked up my entire social life by being a hermit for a bunch of reasons. Now I'm trying to sort my life out, not just socially but career wise. I'm mid-20s and live at home with mum, and to be honest, it kind of embarrasses me so I purposefully eschew any kind of dating at the moment and instead focus more on myself and getting to where I need to be. I also have yet to reestablish solid, consistent connection with a lot of my old friends because I'm embarrassed about my own indolence.

Problem is, the few people I am actually in regular contact with think it's all a terrible idea and have put doubts in my head

So I wanna get some opinions from you guys - is it the right thing I'm doing?

Your in a transition stage.

Your at the age where you're looking at life and thinking what you can make of it for yourself.

These times of development are crucial and should be enjoyed. Trust me, you can tell which of your friends are making their own progress vs the ones who are just taking life as it comes.

I'm 24 and have lived on my own for a year and a half now. I didn't leave home on the best of terms, financially, but I'm in the process of putting together a routine that works for me.

It's the right thing to do.
You have to put in the work upfront if you want to enjoy it later. You can look to your past preparations, or lack there of, as evidence of this.

Get on your own two feet while living at home. Save up and plan for the next step of your life. People wait until they hit 30 then they start thinking about what they want and look back at the water years of their twenties wishing they started working towards their goals earlier.

Like a manual car, your twenties are your second gear accelerating you into the third gear, your thirties.

Young dude, late teens to early twenties usually rush this period, I'd tell them to slow down and plan and let it all come to you. Mid-twenties, you should be working towards the ability to make good decisions at thirty if you don't already know where you're going.

In the mean time just be able to stand on your own two without your parents help. By the time you manage this, you will already start formulating the next step beyond. Good luck breh.

 

[GunRanger]

op I know exactly how you feel. I've missed out on so much, and feel like i'm behind the curve as well.


Nothing you can do about it though. Start traveling a bit, and get a hobby.

 

[Freedman]

Just don't shoot up any schools Brogod

 

[NSSVO]

Breh to have change you have to make a change. Whatever you want your life to be, you have to make the proper steps for that. It's ok to be in oneself for a little bit. Being social is a crucial part for human life, but being better mentally/finacially is way more important. Keep your head up, and don't do drugs.

 

[The Devil's Advocate]

In a contemplative mood before I go for a walk - I fukked up my entire social life by being a hermit for a bunch of reasons. Now I'm trying to sort my life out, not just socially but career wise. I'm mid-20s and live at home with mum, and to be honest, it kind of embarrasses me so I purposefully eschew any kind of dating at the moment and instead focus more on myself and getting to where I need to be. I also have yet to reestablish solid, consistent connection with a lot of my old friends because I'm embarrassed about my own indolence.

Problem is, the few people I am actually in regular contact with think it's all a terrible idea and have put doubts in my head

So I wanna get some opinions from you guys - is it the right thing I'm doing?

look at your bank account... is there money in it? you're doing the right thing


now if not... then you are just saving yourself from fun for absolutely nothing... at least be doing something productive with your time