Am I doing the right thing by not dating/smashing/socializing?

[PlainSight]

Cheers for the advice people. Daps and reps (I've been told to slow down so will continue them later!) for all. Guess I was too cautious after all

@hatechall I'd like to learn a martial art too actually. Not sure which one, but been leaning towards JKD. I'm positive it will get better though, just gotta find the right lane.

 

[MikelArteta]

First of enjoy the life you have while you have it. What I mean is if your in the muck moping and crying and feeling bad sint going to change ima roll around in the muck and enjoy it while I'm there while continually to work on myself.

It's like dudes when they go to jail, your serving your sentence regardless you can sit and do nothing or you can read, write,work out change your mindst and come out a better men.

How are you serving your sentence?

Look I live at home, I make enough money I don't have to, I own properties. I'm 30 tomorrow who cares what anyone who is not working in your shoes care about your living situation.

You could be in a shelter or a roach infested apartment, look at what you have not what you don't.


And BTW there is nothing wrong with being alone, I have few friends. But I have hobbies and passions such as photographyand writing. I travel like 4 times a year alone and love it.

Go volunteer, its a easy way to build social skills and network, travel you'll feel at ease immersing yourself in different cultures. Stop comparing your life to others, everyone's life is like a movie you don't see behind the scenes all you see is the cgi and moments they want you to see.

If you want to date then date, a woman that is into you will be into you.

You think these chicks working retail and baristas are talking about when I get my money up and ish?

I can relate. I'm 29, live with my mom and have no social life.
My embarrassment makes me not want to socialize with people too. I dread attending family gatherings because I have little to say when someone asks me, "what have you been up to?"

I don't like clubbing or drinking. Nor do I enjoy making shallow conversation.

I find that, as a I get older, I'm more interested in meaningful relationships than sex. I can attract a handful of women when I dress nicely, but, in all honesty, I've got too many insecurities to be dating.

I don't know where to begin building a social life because I've been a loner for so long. I'd like to travel someday, and maybe learn a martial art.

 

[mortuus est]

 

[KinksandCoils]

In a contemplative mood before I go for a walk - I fukked up my entire social life by being a hermit for a bunch of reasons. Now I'm trying to sort my life out, not just socially but career wise. I'm mid-20s and live at home with mum, and to be honest, it kind of embarrasses me so I purposefully eschew any kind of dating at the moment and instead focus more on myself and getting to where I need to be. I also have yet to reestablish solid, consistent connection with a lot of my old friends because I'm embarrassed about my own indolence.

Problem is, the few people I am actually in regular contact with think it's all a terrible idea and have put doubts in my head

So I wanna get some opinions from you guys - is it the right thing I'm doing?

I'm kinda the female version of you, but I'm more of a hermit because I work from home and I'm broke. Which makes it hard to go out and enjoy things.

 

[KinksandCoils]

First of enjoy the life you have while you have it. What I mean is if your in the muck moping and crying and feeling bad sint going to change ima roll around in the muck and enjoy it while I'm there while continually to work on myself.

It's like dudes when they go to jail, your serving your sentence regardless you can sit and do nothing or you can read, write,work out change your mindst and come out a better men.

How are you serving your sentence?

Look I live at home, I make enough money I don't have to, I own properties. I'm 30 tomorrow who cares what anyone who is not working in your shoes care about your living situation.

You could be in a shelter or a roach infested apartment, look at what you have not what you don't.


And BTW there is nothing wrong with being alone, I have few friends. But I have hobbies and passions such as photographyand writing. I travel like 4 times a year alone and love it.

Go volunteer, its a easy way to build social skills and network, travel you'll feel at ease immersing yourself in different cultures. Stop comparing your life to others, everyone's life is like a movie you don't see behind the scenes all you see is the cgi and moments they want you to see.

If you want to date then date, a woman that is into you will be into you.

You think these chicks working retail and baristas are talking about when I get my money up and ish?

great post. Half the time you suck will the other half you say really good things.

 

[Roid Jones]

In a contemplative mood before I go for a walk - I fukked up my entire social life by being a hermit for a bunch of reasons. Now I'm trying to sort my life out, not just socially but career wise. I'm mid-20s and live at home with mum, and to be honest, it kind of embarrasses me so I purposefully eschew any kind of dating at the moment and instead focus more on myself and getting to where I need to be. I also have yet to reestablish solid, consistent connection with a lot of my old friends because I'm embarrassed about my own indolence.

Problem is, the few people I am actually in regular contact with think it's all a terrible idea and have put doubts in my head

So I wanna get some opinions from you guys - is it the right thing I'm doing?

Yes you are doing the right thing, the best thing you have done is realize that you are the cause of your current condition and are taking steps to improve it. First avoid the people who are telling you it is a terrible idea. Do you have any hobbies? if so find groups that also engage in those same hobbies and interact with them, its 2015 that part should not be hard. Good luck on your quest to betterment.

 

[360dagod]

Take it from me...

The hardest thing to do is start over...

When you lose that young n dumb energy, life becomes full of second guessing...

That young nikka energy had me in p*ssy that I thought wasn't possible

 

[BeeCityRoller]

Gems being dropped in this thread

 

[360dagod]

What's sad is when you look around and realize you really gonna have
To go for dolo because they in the same position you in

Im going to the dominican club this weekend by myself...fukk it..i just need 1 or 2 thots to get the ball rolling..

I gotta do this for the only child and fatherless..

 

[MikelArteta]

What's sad is when you look around and realize you really gonna have
To go for dolo because they in the same position you in

Im going to the dominican club this weekend by myself...fukk it..i just need 1 or 2 thots to get the ball rolling..

I gotta do this for the only child and fatherless..

in life you really only got you and fam, friends will come and go. Just gotta make do with what you have. hell ive been on my last 7 trips by myself, if i waited for freinds or whatever ot ravel with me id have gone nowhere, got one life LIVE IT.

 

[Trapperman Dave]

In a contemplative mood before I go for a walk - I fukked up my entire social life by being a hermit for a bunch of reasons. Now I'm trying to sort my life out, not just socially but career wise. I'm mid-20s and live at home with mum, and to be honest, it kind of embarrasses me so I purposefully eschew any kind of dating at the moment and instead focus more on myself and getting to where I need to be. I also have yet to reestablish solid, consistent connection with a lot of my old friends because I'm embarrassed about my own indolence.

Problem is, the few people I am actually in regular contact with think it's all a terrible idea and have put doubts in my head

So I wanna get some opinions from you guys - is it the right thing I'm doing?

Nah fam we fukking up. I'm the same as you i don't fukk with a lot of ppl cuz they backstab me and lie to me and i'm done with trying to meet people. I like being alone

 

[360dagod]

Nah fam we fukking up. I'm the same as you i don't fukk with a lot of ppl cuz they backstab me and lie to me and i'm done with trying to meet people. I like being alone

Breh...think of it as this..

Keep nikkas at a distance...

Be cool enough with them to keep them honest...

We all need ladders to climb up of

 

[Trapperman Dave]

Breh...think of it as this..

Keep nikkas at a distance...

Be cool enough with them to keep them honest...

We all need ladders to climb up of

I do im not one of those drama nikkas but i cant trust folks anymore

 

[360dagod]

I do im not one of those drama nikkas but i cant trust folks anymore

I understand that..but there are ways to skin the cat

 

[GunRanger]

Take it from me...

The hardest thing to do is start over...

When you lose that young n dumb energy, life becomes full of second guessing...

That young nikka energy had me in p*ssy that I thought wasn't possible

Now imagine second guessing yourself through those young and dumb years