AN ESSAY: WHY REAL MEN AVOID SINGLE MOTHERS

[Will Ross]

How nice. Didnt read. Would be far more interested in a piece that attempted to examine why "real men" avoid being fathers to the children they create.

Why do you act as if people give men that don't take care of thier kids a pass?

 

[Will Ross]

Oh lordt. Don't get them started. This will just devolve into some "Big government daddy" and "you can have an abortion when *I* want you to" type of conversation where it's still always and only the woman's fault.

Just stop in the real world all the blame is on the man.
To the point a man with out Kids is shamed into dating a woman with kids.

 

[Deutsche Bank]

Ain't nobody trying to be with no damn single mothers in this new world order. That's some simp ass loser ass shyt.

 

[Gonzo]

Single mothers maybe the solution to the brehs who are struggling to get women. Single mothers will give you a chance before other women.

In reality I agree, if you are childless dont date single mothers, its a headache, but the writer of the article is very bitter lol. Single mothers are still people too, its unfortunate they ended in those circumastances but they aint bad people

Not necessarily bad but bad decision makers for sure unless the outlier cases of her being widowed. You should avoid a single mother just for the simple fact she made the ultimate step with someone that SHE KNEW wasn't going to amount to anything stable for a child to be introduced. I don't care about accidents because there are condoms birth control and abortion for that. So all in all being in a serious relationship with someone that is a horrendous decision maker is definitely not beneficial.

 

[New Username]

from a social POV single fathers are always treated better. I don't understand it

 

[Diondon]

My biggest issue is usually the bytch ass baby daddy
But if she got her shyt together

 

[ultraflexed]

It's cool to date/marry a single mother if..

Baby daddy is totally out the pic.

If the mom is a hard worker.

If the mom is faithful.

If the mom has a great job with benifits and doesn't need you for your income.

If she is a great mother, and can cook.

If she's fine, with a really nice azz

 

[FreddyCalhoun]

I married a single mother,
I would say this is about 65% right.
You never get put first/check
Cancel dates at the last minute/check
Kid works against you/capital CHECK
Dr. Jekkell/mr.hyde/ half way check

My wife was always been honest from Day 1
Never felt entitled
Never felt like I owed her anything.
Baby daddy got departed when the was 2 so never had to deal with that.

Yeah, 65% is right....the rest is just bitter nikka talk...

 

[International Playa]

Easiest p*ssy on the planet,

 

[MarloStanTrill]

In a perfect world people with children should only date other people with children. Let the rest of society who were sexually responsible (or lucky) create families out of planning, love and care instead. This dude sounds bitter and like one of my single homegirls who repeatedly dates ain't shyt dudes.

And single moms being damage goods is a misnomer. Seems like society rewards this type of behavior. Know of a person who was a mother 3x by different fathers and she found a childless, educated, home owning man who raised the kids as his since they were like 4 or 5. She also left him as soon as the youngest graduated highschool because she felt tied down and wanted to "do her" since she was a teen mom and she was still in her 30s and able to live life free. Feel sorry for the next woman who has to take on his bitterness and baggage from the years (time and money) he spent wasting with this chick.

 

[audemarzz]

I should change this to say, I can't shake the feeling shes with me not because of attraction but because of circumstances as if I'm the runner up prize this is more so due to personal experiences and doubts I have.

Don't get me wrong you have single mothers who become more strict with their choices but you have just as many who will mess with a dude they typically wouldn't had circumstances remained as they were before.

 

[Verbal Kint]

This dude sounds mad. Like he got his heart broke by some struggling single mom and is on some Kermit stuff. There are plenty of legit reasons not to date single moms but this nikka on some emotional stuff

 

[MikelArteta]

Yuck

I'm jealous and greedy, and don't need a woman I'm dating still associating with a nikka who skeeted in her raw and bore his first born kid the connection will always be there.

 

[Reginald Noble]

Agreed.

This is one thing about the Coli i just don't get. People always talking about how to strengthen the community, How we should support Black business. Constantly calling people c00ns and bedwenches for dating white or Non Black people.

But one of the biggest issues facing our community, One that would undoubtablty strengthen it if a change was mad. Is COMPLETLY overlooked and given excuses for.

Not only that but the women are damn near 100% blamed for the situation.

IT'S COMPLETELY IRONIC HOW THE COLI BLAMES FATHERLESSNESS FOR EVERYTHING BUT NEVER BLAMES FATHERS

The white man wants the black woman to believe that blaming poor quality no good black men for their probs (and instead focus on their own accountability in choosing these men) is somehow helping.

My Unc on my mother's side a deadbeat and always will be. He stay making excuses

My pops talk to him at least once a year about forming a relationship with his daughter (my cuz i rarely seen ) and getting his life together.

I think Black Women and the media expect the productive good BM to somehow "fix" these Men but the fact is the White man continues the cycle and makes it comfortable for the various hoes he leeches off of to maintain their lifestyle and be romantically involved with deadbeat males thanks to welfare, SNAP, section 8, etc. all funded by the tax payer.

 

[Terrance Curtis Beasley]