Any brehs ever had a "Chasing Amy" situation

[semicko82]

She's not really a lesbian in the movie. She has feelings for Ben Affleck's character.

Excuse me I meant bi sexual

 

[Black Steph Curry]

fukked up how Ben Affleck treated her in that movie.

What happened and why?

 

[Thatrogueassdiaz]

What happened and why?

In the movie she friendzones Ben because shes a lesbian. Ben at first is cool with it but then falls in love with her. She gets pissed at first but eventually accepts she has feelings for him too, and they start a relationship. It becomes clear though that the real reason he wanted her was because his ego wanted to sexually satisfy a lesbian. At first he thinks he is special sexually since shes used to fukking females, only to find out she is sexually more advanced and experienced than he is. For whatever reason he rejects her for that and then regrets it. It was clear Ben never really loved her, but loved the idea of pulling a lesbian he wanted to have sexually power over. He treats her like a whore after he finds out that she had a 3 some and then wants her to fukk him and his friend, so he could get over what she had done.

It's pretty fukked up, considering she never wanted to go there with him in the first place. Plus he was asking questions he shouldn't have been asking, especially if he wasnt mentally equipped to handle the answers.

 

[Scustin Bieburr]

Actions have consequences. If you are a man who wasn't about that life--orgies, public sex, drugs, etc. and you weren't throwing dikk like a NFL quarterback, you ain't built to handle a relationship with a woman who was on that wave. He summed it up perfectly when he said it made him feel small and like his life wouldn't be able to compare.

For men(unless you were genetically blessed) getting women is a skill and something that requires effort. We praise each other for having game or feel like it is a skill to negotiate sex or a relationship out of a woman, so we are less likely to judge a man for a past that involves getting a lot of women. Inversely, we see that women can get men easily because they are not the pursuers, they are the recipients. All of this to say that a man percieves a woman with an extensive sexual history as someone who lacks restraint, impulse control, and the ability to say "no".

It then fukks with you because you start wondering on some level whether she really does think you're anything special, or if you worked extra hard to get the attention of a woman the next man smashed and got a relationship with easily. If you aren't a man who has had a similar history, you're wasting your time with women like that because even if they've genuinely changed from what they used to be and don't miss it and 100% want to commit to you, the discrepancy in experience will make it hard for you to move on.

 

[Chico's Bail Bonds]

fukked up how Ben Affleck treated her in that movie.

Movie was based on Kevin Smith’s relationship with Joey Lauren Adams, the actress, which makes it extra fukked up cause instead of IRL asking for a threesome with his homie, he made a film about it.

 

[Diondon]

If something doesn't sit well with your spirit, best to listen to your intuition

 

[BaldingSoHard]

Nah. I'm not one of those "How many guys have you been with? " ass losers.

 

[Umoja]

Feel as though I'm reading the view points of a simp.

 

[number21]

First woman i really dated after 15 years. I learned quick that you could not judge a book by its covers.

She had a good career, 2 houses, smart and sweet.

She'd also probably smashed a good percent of the people in the small town she grew up in, not to mention brehs from NYC (like myself). Did every drug imaginable in her party days ( including crack parties in the burbs), and just generally lived a wild life in her younger years.

I cant fron't, i wasnt prepared for that. I sabotaged that relationship every chance I got because I didnt know how to handle it.

You really wanted to handle being with a "reformed" smut?

 

[Ricky Dunigan]

You really wanted to handle being with a "reformed" smut?

In the long run , i realize now that i wouldn't have worked.

By my standards tho, i handled it wrong. I was looking to have the possibility to cheat and being passive aggresive as a hoe. Neither one of those things are my personality at all.

The fact that I clicked with a woman with a past fukked with my head. After 15 years, I wasnt ready.

 

[Erratic415]

The writing was top notch in this one.

Alyssa shouldn’t have lied to him and told him he was the first guy she was with, however his plan was awful. He’s understandably hurt, but like she said, she wouldn’t want to share him with someone else.

I always say nothing good comes out of asking about your partner’s sexual past so don’t ask. In this one, he doesn’t ask though, his friend just tells him.

Nah the first clerks a classic

If you notice, the themes in this movie are longer drawn out situations of parts of Clerks. The 36 dikks part, and there’s one line where the slacker guy is protective of his friend and talking to the girl about it. She sort of jokingly says something like “what, are you gay for him?”

 

[JOHN.KOOL]

Spoiler

goofy cac finds out his girl has a MMF threesome back in the day. He gets upset and leaves her. Later realizes he loves and misses her so he tries to get back with her by suggesting she has a 3some with him and his homeboy. She rejects it and they separate for good. Later he writes a comic book about their relationship and she cries. The End.

Wait hold on that cant be it. Thats the film a couple nikkas in here are saying is a slept on film?

 

[Morose Polymath]

Wait hold on that cant be it. Thats the film a couple nikkas in here are saying is a slept on film?

Yup.

 

[hex]

Don't ask questions when you aren't prepared for the answers. Especially about some shyt like this. Because a lot of women have done wild, hardcore porn type shyt. I'm saying this as someone that has/had several close female acquaintances that feel open talking to me about shyt nobody else knows.

Fred.

 

[Dog Based Gremlin]

Actions have consequences. If you are a man who wasn't about that life--orgies, public sex, drugs, etc. and you weren't throwing dikk like a NFL quarterback, you ain't built to handle a relationship with a woman who was on that wave. He summed it up perfectly when he said it made him feel small and like his life wouldn't be able to compare.

For men(unless you were genetically blessed) getting women is a skill and something that requires effort. We praise each other for having game or feel like it is a skill to negotiate sex or a relationship out of a woman, so we are less likely to judge a man for a past that involves getting a lot of women. Inversely, we see that women can get men easily because they are not the pursuers, they are the recipients. All of this to say that a man percieves a woman with an extensive sexual history as someone who lacks restraint, impulse control, and the ability to say "no".

It then fukks with you because you start wondering on some level whether she really does think you're anything special, or if you worked extra hard to get the attention of a woman the next man smashed and got a relationship with easily. If you aren't a man who has had a similar history, you're wasting your time with women like that because even if they've genuinely changed from what they used to be and don't miss it and 100% want to commit to you, the discrepancy in experience will make it hard for you to move on.

The Truth got me in my feels