Any brehs ever had a "Chasing Amy" situation

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

 

[Living Bait]

Before i get into a relationship I always casually ask if they've been in a threesome.....

I don't really care how many dikks as such.....but a threesome with 2 blokes?......nah....she's not relationship material......

 

[BaggerofTea]

I should probably point out the purpose of this thread is if the girl had a fukked up past, but in hindsight she was worth keeping.

If she didnt seem like wifey material (while yall were dating) then thats different.

The past is always the future.

 

[BaggerofTea]

Don't ask questions when you aren't prepared for the answers. Especially about some shyt like this. Because a lot of women have done wild, hardcore porn type shyt. I'm saying this as someone that has/had several close female acquaintances that feel open talking to me about shyt nobody else knows.

Fred.

Yep.

Women getting turned out happens far more often than dudes think

 

[Ziploc]

Actions have consequences. If you are a man who wasn't about that life--orgies, public sex, drugs, etc. and you weren't throwing dikk like a NFL quarterback, you ain't built to handle a relationship with a woman who was on that wave. He summed it up perfectly when he said it made him feel small and like his life wouldn't be able to compare.

For men(unless you were genetically blessed) getting women is a skill and something that requires effort. We praise each other for having game or feel like it is a skill to negotiate sex or a relationship out of a woman, so we are less likely to judge a man for a past that involves getting a lot of women. Inversely, we see that women can get men easily because they are not the pursuers, they are the recipients. All of this to say that a man percieves a woman with an extensive sexual history as someone who lacks restraint, impulse control, and the ability to say "no".

It then fukks with you because you start wondering on some level whether she really does think you're anything special, or if you worked extra hard to get the attention of a woman the next man smashed and got a relationship with easily. If you aren't a man who has had a similar history, you're wasting your time with women like that because even if they've genuinely changed from what they used to be and don't miss it and 100% want to commit to you, the discrepancy in experience will make it hard for you to move on.

Know a couple women that were into that lifestyle when they were younger and grew out of it. When we talk about the old days( i was there right along with them) they talk about dudes that just couldn't handle the experiences they had and it made them insanely jealous and/or insecure,i always think about this movie and how some dudes have the same insecurities Ben Affleck had in that movie. Dude convinced himself that he was in love when it was his ego that couldn't accept the fact that her desires weren't based off her being in love with him or anyone for that matter,she had options and nothing a makes a insecure man go off the deep end like a woman that doesn't depend on you for anything but keeps you around cause you are into her.

 

[SwagmundFreud]

Great film. I was always a big fan of Clerks. and most of Kevin Smiths earlier work but when I got older I learned to appreciate Chasing Amy more

 

[Luke Cage]

it's a movie about sexual insecurity. How men can feel inadequate if they find out a woman they are dating has a high body count, or had some freaky sexual experiences they never had.