Any of yall got narcissistic family members?

[Pazzy]

Just had to post again in this thread so i can better explain and vent my frustrations better.

Today, once again, the same suspected narcissist was ready to do their antics again. The said person walked inside frantically stomping, yelling my name at the top of their lungs. They made all this commotions and hollering for my attention. I rush to them thinking its an emergency only for this person to be crying about a bug bite and that they needed rubbing alcohol. Yes, a bug bite. The way they were acting was as if they cut off a finger. This is a grown ass man too. They were outside doing whatever. Pretty soon. They go from acting like that into them asking me to do something for them that i had no intentions of doing. Talking about this gives me flashbacks about past incidents where theyve done this to other family members. Act like they are in a predictment. Ask for help. Then turn around and taking advantage of people. Then when you call them out, they will try to attack you, shame you and make you feel like shyt. I have a lot more to get off my chest.

This is why i had to give that person my space because they try to be on some slick already today. Once they pulled that attention seeking shyt earlier. I checked out

 

[Gloxina]

Just had to post again in this thread so i can better explain and vent my frustrations better.

Today, once again, the same suspected narcissist was ready to do their antics again. The said person walked inside frantically stomping, yelling my name at the top of their lungs. They made all this commotions and hollering for my attention. I rush to them thinking its an emergency only for this person to be crying about a bug bite and that they needed rubbing alcohol. Yes, a bug bite. The way they were acting was as if they cut off a finger. This is a grown ass man too. They were outside doing whatever. Pretty soon. They go from acting like that into them asking me to do something for them that i had no intentions of doing. Talking about this gives me flashbacks about past incidents where theyve done this to other family members. Act like they are in a predictment. Ask for help. Then turn around and taking advantage of people. Then when you call them out, they will try to attack you, shame you and make you feel like shyt. I have a lot more to get off my chest.

This is why i had to give that person my space because they try to be on some slick already today. Once they pulled that attention seeking shyt earlier. I checked out

Totally understand.
And I thought you were describing a woman at first

Not that a man can’t be bothered by a bug bite, but LOL


But yea that attention seeking behavior is a problem.

Try being “grey” when dealing with such people

 

[Pazzy]

Totally understand.
And I thought you were describing a woman at first

Not that a man can’t be bothered by a bug bite, but LOL


But yea that attention seeking behavior is a problem.

Try being “grey” when dealing with such people

That person has done way worse than that. In hindsight, if i had to say everything and i have in the past many years years ago, it would be the perfect case study. Its been an ongoing crisis with a codependent involved which is their significant other. Its just sad and obvious both folks dont think they need help. I told their significant other privately and still do about how they need therapy from dealing with this person because they have trauma already prior to them meeting said person which influenced their reason to stay in such a toxic situation. Some people are extremely hardheaded.

I would even go to say that narcissistic person in question MIGHT be a sociopath even. Im trying to gather my thoughts because Ive been wanting to vent about this for a minute. The way ive been managing this is by internalizing it. They have made me feel so uncomfortable because theyre fukking creepy too. Wanting to know everybody business but yet nobody can know theirs.

Okay. This person intentionally creates a financial hardship for themselves as an excuse to control the codepedent/their s.o. basically take care of all their financial responsibilities for their family. Not only that, the person treats their s.o. terribly, manipulating them, basically drives around their car, and basically is living off the family while not contributing shyt. They also think they are entitled to their s.o. money. They'll act all charming, nice, sociable and etc when they feel like it but its just smoke and mirrors because they act all miserable, in a rage and etc when they cant have their bullshyt way or want to be in control of shyt but cant. They also think they can do no wrong, have no manners-interact with you have no sense, take no accountability for themselves, think theyre better than everybody or entitled to certain things and just a fukking headache. Theyre like a leech and LOVE attention to the point where they will act out for it

 

[Complexion]

Knowing this is all fine and good but so many people (like those in talk therapy for decades) end up with a lot of information but no real solution to the problem and thus no progress. Bench em, keep it moving and be a miser with your attention and they'll mooch on to the next once they realize you're not wetting their beak as the leech needs to feed. No energy = They're hungry.

I said this in the first comment but a strange thing with this paradigm is the Empath often has to get to breaking point themselves before anything happens. That and they are often lifelong victims of emotional manipulation, gaslighting and have a wild sense of dysregulation in which the presence of conflict seems not only natural but is expected. They feel odd without it.

Interestingly some people do break away or the N dies and leaves them in a strange place. I noticed in that case some people tend to go out and find another one so they can keep the Pattern spinning and thats a whole nother thread in itself because they sure do pick em. Its almost scripted in some respect and the implications of that are quite something.

 

[Gloxina]

That person has done way worse than that. In hindsight, if i had to say everything and i have in the past many years years ago, it would be the perfect case study. Its been an ongoing crisis with a codependent involved which is their significant other. Its just sad and obvious both folks dont think they need help. I told their significant other privately and still do about how they need therapy from dealing with this person because they have trauma already prior to them meeting said person which influenced their reason to stay in such a toxic situation. Some people are extremely hardheaded.

I would even go to say that narcissistic person in question MIGHT be a sociopath even. Im trying to gather my thoughts because Ive been wanting to vent about this for a minute. The way ive been managing this is by internalizing it. They have made me feel so uncomfortable because theyre fukking creepy too. Wanting to know everybody business but yet nobody can know theirs.

Okay. This person intentionally creates a financial hardship for themselves as an excuse to control the codepedent/their s.o. basically take care of all their financial responsibilities for their family. Not only that, the person treats their s.o. terribly, manipulating them, basically drives around their car, and basically is living off the family while not contributing shyt. They also think they are entitled to their s.o. money. They'll act all charming, nice, sociable and etc when they feel like it but its just smoke and mirrors because they act all miserable, in a rage and etc when they cant have their bullshyt way or want to be in control of shyt but cant. They also think they can do no wrong, have no manners-interact with you have no sense, take no accountability for themselves, think theyre better than everybody or entitled to certain things and just a fukking headache. Theyre like a leech and LOVE attention to the point where they will act out for it

So much of this sounds like my mother lmao


Yea definitely pull away and you’ll see how quickly they will latch onto someone else for attention, monetary assistance, etc.

 

[Complexion]

That really is it, isn't it? Once you've seen them shapeshift and repeat the process on another then its a straight up lightbulb moment because each performance is pitch perfect and tailored for the prospect. Was talking about this point to a lady one day and she said "Do you think they use their brain to do this? It must be exhausting" and my reply was that its all freestyled with virtually no input from them as they know just how to present themselves to get the most attention.

Thats why I suspect they're truly NPCs because the brainpower needed by a regular Soul to do this isn't worth the investment for what they get but they're working on some type of algorithm and often have zero self awareness as well.

 

[desjardins]

Is there a way to tell if you’re a narcissist or not?
What about a flying monkey?

 

[KidJSoul]

Part of me is literally numb because of her BS.

I recognize she has her own traumas that were never dealt with because she probably didn’t have the tools and emotional space/vulnerability to release it (which is the case for many of our elders) but at some point you have to choose yourself. This is how generational curses develop

Ditto.


I learned all the negative traits and see how easily other people can be manipulated.
I use that knowledge to protect myself from the actual sociopaths and narcs and point out signs to other people.

In short: as much as it sucked being raised by narcs, I literally developed an emotional wall and instincts that keep me safe and allow me to move in literally every fukking environment. No one sees me coming. And as long as they don’t try to harm me, it’s all Gucci I use my powers for good

This is why although I had to distance myself, I’m not hateful. I know some wild shyt must’ve happened and it was never dealt with.


But, that still affected my upbringing and crippled me emotionally so I can’t be around anymore.

How has this affected your romantic relationships? Honest question

 

[MMS]

Just had to post again in this thread so i can better explain and vent my frustrations better.

Today, once again, the same suspected narcissist was ready to do their antics again. The said person walked inside frantically stomping, yelling my name at the top of their lungs. They made all this commotions and hollering for my attention. I rush to them thinking its an emergency only for this person to be crying about a bug bite and that they needed rubbing alcohol. Yes, a bug bite. The way they were acting was as if they cut off a finger. This is a grown ass man too. They were outside doing whatever. Pretty soon. They go from acting like that into them asking me to do something for them that i had no intentions of doing. Talking about this gives me flashbacks about past incidents where theyve done this to other family members. Act like they are in a predictment. Ask for help. Then turn around and taking advantage of people. Then when you call them out, they will try to attack you, shame you and make you feel like shyt. I have a lot more to get off my chest.

This is why i had to give that person my space because they try to be on some slick already today. Once they pulled that attention seeking shyt earlier. I checked out

you know not all folks fukk with you but you still a classic semi-divine poster to me

In order to forestall these consequences, Zeus tricked Metis into turning herself into a fly and promptly swallowed her.[10] However, she was already pregnant with their first and only child, Athena. Metis crafted armor, a spear, and a shield for her daughter, whom she raised in Zeus' mind.

i still say xbox live ruined gaming

 

[MMS]

That really is it, isn't it? Once you've seen them shapeshift and repeat the process on another then its a straight up lightbulb moment because each performance is pitch perfect and tailored for the prospect. Was talking about this point to a lady one day and she said "Do you think they use their brain to do this? It must be exhausting" and my reply was that its all freestyled with virtually no input from them as they know just how to present themselves to get the most attention.

Thats why I suspect they're truly NPCs because the brainpower needed by a regular Soul to do this isn't worth the investment for what they get but they're working on some type of algorithm and often have zero self awareness as well.

its got to do with crystals

crystals confuse people imo

1. They are at extreme low energy states
2. they deflect light but emit no light
3. they have a definitive and predictable pattern

this is why the hindus are confusing themselves with the worship of this pattern

it appears to be everywhere and it might be, but a substrate isnt an approximation for the living creature. Its very difficult to make people snap out of it

Spoiler

 

[010101]

the most popular religion is based on the spirit of narcissism HA*

 

[2ATMsYouSteppinOrWhat]

I was thibking of this thread a couple hours ago

 

[Gloxina]

I’m sorry, this man’s channel has confirmed so much and has been very helpful. I know some of us have discussed these issues in the past.

 

[The Prince of All Saiyans]

i've played that aire of narcissism my whole life since my grandma died (I was 12), now it's isolated and made me the outcast

yet fvck it, you need someone to be the bad guy?

 

[T.H.E.GOD]

They’re very good at getting ahead in life. They’re at selecting a mark who is to essentially going to play the role of narcissist feed - all you can do to prevent this is excommunicate them. They will feed on you until they are ready to devalue and dispose of you. They will look happy in their next relationship, it is just a mask they can wear temporarily as a narcissist will always find happiness to be a fleeting feeling. As much as they can hurt you they were actually jealous of you at one point and they will build you up, have you stand on their platform until so they can take it out from under you when they are ready to tear you down. They will show you that you mean nothing to them. Everything was fake? Well let’s just say that person that they made themselves to be for you no longer exists

Fear can make you forget everything and run or face everything and rise. The more pain you feel about this, the more healing you can look forward to. Some people would not even be able to be perceptive of this type of abuse but you are and that is the first steps in your path toward healing. All of that pain that you feel will be transmuted into your strengths. Have faith in something, especially yourself and move forward with your life as best as you can

It took me a year to heal from a five year cycle of this and this person was the only person that made the arguments I had growing up with my father seem reasonable

They are the human snake in your life. After the damage and the dust has settled they take some amount of satisfaction in being a “destroyer of worlds” - a destroyer of everything you built together, your entire relationship culture. For me I had the delight of helping to raise one during her first years of adulthood. When I met her she had no goals, no interests, no passions. She could play two notes on a guitar over and over again despite all of her practice. By the end she was using me to mirror some semblance of personality. She had a very limited frame of reference to relate to and adopted my interests and would follow me around in all of my activities but would usually have the energy of a child being dragged along somewhere - but at that she would assert herself within these things to show how capable she was and usually remove me from the process. I couldn’t cook in the kitchen, I couldn’t clean my house. I’m highly enthusiastic about pizza, she learned the craft and took over the home pizza making. I make songs, I bought music production equipment, she took over and never let me touch the stuff

She eventually used my interests and knowledge as her opener in the guy she moved on with

After 5 years of putting up with the cycle, tending to it and repairing it on a monthly basis (yes, that was an issue) she blamed me for everything and showed me that she completely devalued me. I had enough of all of this at one point and a beloved pet of mine had died so I stopped engaging with her physically. I always told her if it wasn’t for me tending to the repair of this relationship it would be less than a month before she moved on. About a month later she changes her Instagram profile picture to one with her new victim. Right when I found out she moved on like this after 5 years with her, she said she was worried that her talking to me would hurt her new guy’s feelings

That took me aback and I didn’t even respond to it

She stalked my Instagram profile stories for awhile after before I blocked her

crazy cuz when you do this, they them say you are the narcissist. You are the one that changed on them….