Anybody ever let "The One" go?

[DaPresident]

Okay, I read your story and a few of the responses but Ima keep it 100 with you.

This is my opinion, but I feel like you need to be true to yourself.

You know what you want deep down inside, be real, it's only one of two things. You either want to keep a "good girl" or you want to smash other chicks.

Trying to do both is majorly selfish and vain. You say you know you have a good woman, keep her. Those don't come around often friend. If she's for you, best friends or whatever....hold on to that bruh. OR go play the field guilt free. All I'm saying is stay true to yourself and the "good" young lady you got. Be real if you gon chase tail, and tell her...or man up and lock her down. Either way, karmas a trip, plus that's juvenile to play with people's emotions.

Good luck in your quest my brotha. Hope you follow your mind, but most importantly, your heart. Find what makes you happy and roll with it, life's easier that way.

Just my thoughts.



Peace...

 

[Sonic Boom of the South]

cut her loose
fukk a gang of hoes
be single
enjoy life
travel


stay in good physical shape
dont get no broads preg

when u hit 43 or some shyt
u can wife up someone then

 

[PimpHandStrong]

Fall in love brehettes

He bout to crush this chick. It ain't on the same level but my one and only love put it on me bad. I'm out here disrespectful
and never trust chicks, and it takes a mountain of effort to go against my instincts and let them in now.

He bout to fukk around and have her jaded. EVERYTHING he enjoys about her will be gone overnight, and the next dude
will catch hell. This shyt bout to have me heated.

None of that matters though...

He is fulfilling his quest ... to... Uhm....I guess be wishy washy and noncommittal

I guess it's a fair trade off for him...

So long as he is happy at the end of the day then It's all worth it....

ABSOLUTELY! No reason to let her know his feelings so she can have a choice before he acts up. Nope, gotta hold it all in
and do erratic shyt that is going to push her away.

I hear what yall saying and slow down. 1. She already asked if I ever thought about dating other chicks since I haven't had that normal dating experience so so already had that in here head. Its just that now its all coming to ahead finally.

 

[JordanwiththeWiz]

When that niqqa @Michael9100 see flaw in your logic its time to change

 

[meth68]

Only our shoes can consul us bruh

Its just a temporary bandaid... I was with my ex yesterday (we are still good friends) that i fukked up a while ago, id trade all my sneakers in a second to change some things

 

[DarlingNikki]

Fall in love brehettes

be a good woman, brehettes

 

[Swirv]

You should be completely honest with her and yourself. I took a break from a good woman to fukk off many women. In hindsight it was a dumb move because I had a child with her. When I was ready to commit to her she had already had enough from me. She changed and I thought she wouldnt. Now I ride the carousel of misery because I cant have her when I want her and i continue fukk with multiple women who i know there is no future with. Even if I stopped fukking with other women I still couldnt have her.

 

[DaPresident]

You should be completely honest with her and yourself. I took a break from a good woman to fukk off many women. In hindsight it was a dumb move because I had a child with her. When I was ready to commit to her she had already had enough from me. She changed and I thought she wouldnt. Now I ride the carousel of misery because I cant have her when I want her and i continue fukk with multiple women who i know there is no future with. Even if I stopped fukking with other women I still couldnt have her.

That's that ish dat hurt.

Told y'all brehs...When you find em, keep em. Cuz I promise, you'll NEVER forget em.


All women aren't bad/evil as some may think...When you got yourself a true winner, don't be a loser...


No disrespect to you at all brotha, I was speaking generally. I feel for your situation, hope time can heal those wounds for you family.

 

[PimpHandStrong]

You should be completely honest with her and yourself. I took a break from a good woman to fukk off many women. In hindsight it was a dumb move because I had a child with her. When I was ready to commit to her she had already had enough from me. She changed and I thought she wouldnt. Now I ride the carousel of misery because I cant have her when I want her and i continue fukk with multiple women who i know there is no future with. Even if I stopped fukking with other women I still couldnt have her.

How long was the break? We've been talking and that is what we're going to do probably. This just doesn't feel good.

 

[PimpHandStrong]

That's that ish dat hurt.

Told y'all brehs...When you find em, keep em. Cuz I promise, you'll NEVER forget em.


All women aren't bad/evil as some may think...When you got yourself a true winner, don't be a loser...


No disrespect to you at all brotha, I was speaking generally. I feel for your situation, hope time can heal those wounds for you family.

Do you think its possible to know beyond a shadow of a doubt you have a good woman, without experiencing the bad? Sometimes I feel like since I haven't really had a serious relationship with anyone else I can't really appreciate her like I should.

 

[PimpHandStrong]

Nobody here can really tell you how to proceed. I would be totally transparent with her and see where it goes. She sounds like a very understanding person, much like my wife. Both of us have found that putting everything out on the table really keeps our relationship fresh and guilt free.

My take is that if you still feel like you need to sow your oats, then that is something you're going to need to do. However, I would suggest letting your girl know this as well as how you feel about her to balance it out. Just know that times flies and before you know it you'll be . My wife still encourages me to get out with my friends as much as possible and has even given me a hall pass which I have never used. I treat her well and she just wants me to be happy and have no regrets and it sounds as though your relationship is the same way.

That is awesome bruh. Glad you two have that type of relationship thats rare. And you're right we do have that type of relationship as well, she lets me do my thing but I just crossed the line and went out too far on that leash.

I feel like if I had dating around even just a little before we got together I wouldn't be in this situation right now.

 

[Swirv]

How long was the break? We've been talking and that is what we're going to do probably. This just doesn't feel good.

2.5 years. The straw that broke the camel's back was I had smashed this big booty dominicana and the rubber broke. When I went to chill with my ex she was trying to buff me but I kept rebuking it. I couldn't let her suck my dikk and put her at risk. That's when I told her and she broke down. It wasn't the first time I had to deny her sex because a condom broke or I had fukked someone else the same day. I fukked up a good thing & broke her heart. dikk sucks whenever, run to greet me when I came home, p*ssy on demand, cooking on demand and she held me down when I did some dirt. A really do anything for her man kind of woman. Breh I've been single since 08 because I haven't met anyone worth building with. Don't make the same mistake.

 

[DaPresident]

Do you think its possible to know beyond a shadow of a doubt you have a good woman, without experiencing the bad? Sometimes I feel like since I haven't really had a serious relationship with anyone else I can't really appreciate her like I should.

I think it's possible to know, I mean, whether you know, "beyond a shadow of a doubt" is up to you. I mean, NOTHING is 100% sure in life man, no guarantees...I do think you can know, that you know she good. Do you have to know "beyond a shadow of a doubt" that if you came up on $100,000 cash that its a good thing? Females (and male friends for that matter) that are in your life are either helping you or hurting you. You know she good cuz you said shes like your best friend.

Do you have to go through 15 people to know when you have a GOOD friend? Nah, you just feel it, you feel that connection, you know it. Same as that chick. I don't need need to experience that to know when I come across a BAD person. One experience with a bad person let's me know that they aren't good to be around.

You can appreciate her...question is, do you want to? You can give yourself every excuse in the book, but it honestly sounds like you wanna play the field...nothing wrong with that. You don't need an excuse to do that, if that's what makes you happy, do it. All I'm saying is be real with her, and be real with yourself. No need to be out here dogging a good person to do you, just do it....If she ya friend like you say, you wouldn't WANT to do her dirty....

 

[unit321]

So without making this thing too drawn out,

Me and my girl have been together since I was 21, she was 20, met in college. I'm now 28. Half of our relationship has been long distance because I moved to Miami for 4.5 years for my career. Finally moved back home last year. She was really my first real girlfriend (we all had gfs in high school but that shyt don't count). Lost my virginity to (was trying to wait until marriage). We've grown together and have great memories. We don't have nearly the amount of issues most couples have. We also work great as a team. She's calm, understanding, ambitious, loving, spiritual, you think of a good adjective and that's her. She's doesn't have an IG, no twitter, pretty much no social media. Our interests don't line up all the time but we're best friends too. We really enjoy being around each other.

I actually messed up and had sex with 1 other person last year and I'm torn because I don't feel really bad about it but I kind of feel bad because I've always held myself to a high standard and thought of myself as a man of integrity then I go and do this shyt. And she doesn't deserve that. That was the first and only time I cheated. There's lots more to that part of the story but anyway...

The thing is since I've been able to live alone now I feel like in the back of my head I'm still looking for something/someone and I feel the want to go out and experience. Haven't travelled like I want. But I love my girl to death and I KNOW she would be a great mother and wife. We are engaged right now and building a house too. Part of me wants to settle down but I still find myself going out to bars 3-4 nights a week hanging out and she lets me go and doesn't nag me about it since she knows I enjoy going out. Shouldn't I want to stay home with my girl and not be in the streets like that? I feel like I'm not fully committed yet.

She stumbled upon an email exchange with this girl I know and told me she thinks I'm still looking for something too and need time to find what that is. Separation.


I'm torn right now, its hard imagining her not in my life. I know I have a good woman but I'm still looking for something.


Has anyone ever let a person who they knew was "the one" go? And if so what happened afterwards? And is it possible to really appreciate what you have without experiencing the negative?

First off, you are on the coli. This is the no integrity man zone, f'realzz. But I want to say good job for trying.
Your side action ruined that all. You should tell her about that. You might as well. Nothing free-er than not living a life of lies.
Good luck.

 

[Doobie Doo]

I had The One but a friend took it from me. That was one of Jet Li's best US movies