Anybody imagine themselves never getting married?

[The M.I.C.]

I don't disagree, but if you place the idea of building your finances at the forefront of your marriage, I think that makes those things a little easier to deal with, imo. A good deal of people are motivated by money, not emotions. It's one thing to cheat on someone with replaceable qualities like sex, cooking, cleaning, etc, but replacing someone you're building your money with or even that is on the same page as you financially is WAY more difficult and you don't want to risk that relationship. And I'm not talking about someone taking care of someone financially, I'm talking two people who are actually putting in financial work...living on a budget, not going out to eat, paying off debt together, etc.

So, if I'm not mistaken, you're saying that the financial aspect of marriage should be focused on primarily?

 

[Malta]

I was in Philly over the weekend getting turnt .

Why? Philly got horrific women for the most part You in Philly when NYC is live over the labor day weekend, you picked poorly.

Columbia is a hidden little treasure for attractive women of color, you missing out.

 

[Rawtid]

So, if I'm not mistaken, you're saying that the financial aspect of marriage should be focused on primarily?

Yes. I think it's better to have serious financial conversations, set goals, or whatever while you're all in love and shyt not AFTER you're near bankruptcy or divorce.

 

[iBrowse]

Why? Philly got horrific women for the most part You in Philly when NYC is live over the labor day weekend, you picked poorly.

Columbia is a hidden little treasure for attractive women of color, you missing out.

It was the Made In America music festival that lasted Saturday and Sunday.

 

[Malta]

It was the Made In America music festival that lasted Saturday and Sunday.

Mostly white women, right

 

[Elle Driver]

yea I don't mind traditional at all. I think my fear is that for a lot of them submissive equals doormat and that's where the whole concept of traditional marriages get abused. I know for a fact that I couldn't be in a healthy relationship with a man who thought like that
How would you say he's calmed down and what do you mean by grew up?

The problem is what they think submissive means. Whenever a man says that ask him what he means, run for the hills if it's doormat.

He calmed down because he was in his 20s at the time with realistic expectations that I wasn't about at the time. I grew up when I was realized his expectations weren't that far fetched and we were good for each other. Mind you, I'm heading in my 30s so it might be a maturity thing idk.

He's only foreign in the sense of having different perspectives.

 

[iBrowse]

Mostly white women, right

not that much more but yeah. Black women came through.

 

[Aceofspades404]

The problem is what they think submissive means. Whenever a man says that ask him what he means, run for the hills if it's doormat.

a lot of dudes think that and have the audacity to call you combative if you think otherwise

 

[Kuwka_Atcha_Ratcha]

Its hard enough trying to find the right woman to date, I couldnt imagine finding someone with all those qualities and want to spend the rest of your days with.
But sometimes I think about what life would be like alone in your 50s or 60s and that shyt scares me.

Any older people that regret not finding a spouse sooner?

ill never marry, theres no sense in it

just because you don't get married doesn't mean you'll be alone. who told you that nonsense?

 

[Tenchi Ryu]

Nah to be honest...

I can see the shyt happening kinda late in life, but I'd be kinda shyt faced if I went my whole life without getting married at all.

 

[Tenchi Ryu]

Nah to be honest...

I can see the shyt happening kinda late in life, but I'd be kinda shyt faced if I went my whole life without getting married at all.

 

[YaFingerDealMe]

Definitely not in my plans, last chick I was with (couple of days ago) kept dropping hints and broke up with me when I told her it ain't happening telling me I got commitment issues. Guess I got to be the nikka with 3 baby mommas

 

[Paradise]

And I can definitely see myself getting married and having a child.
I'm a fan of large weddings plus it gives me an opportunity to wear a Black shawl collar tuxedo for something other than a social black tie event or the orchestra.
I'd marry @Paradise if she agrees to a cathedral wedding and jollof rice as one of the main dishes at the reception.

Lol... Certainly. Ive always been a big fan of large evening weddings myself.

Are you Ghanian or Nigerian? I have a small love affair going on with Nigeria right now. So you can have jollof rice.

 

[EndDomination]

Lol... Certainly. Ive always been a big fan of large evening weddings myself.

Are you Ghanian or Nigerian? I have a small love affair going on with Nigeria right now. So you can have jollof rice.

Haitian, actually. One of my friends has hit her cooking stage in life, and has changed everything about my feelings toward Nigerian food.
And I'll get the invitations started

 

[Bless't]

@ "commitment issues"


I cant stand when a woman says that.