Anybody on child support?

[Wild self]

Court ordered child support is a necessary evil. Men talk that shyt about how they'd faithfully pay (x) amount each month until something comes up or they simply don't feel like forking over the money for whatever reason. The money is deducted, the kid (or their needs) are taken care of, and yoh simply learn to budget your life around it.

Men are more pissed off when their beloved seed isn't getting the support that they deserve. If I ever had a son and he doesn't get basic shyt met for him growing up, while the trifiling baby mamma uses it to stunt in the club, Damn right I would act like Chris Dorner. Only people that take their kids to child support are immature folks that can't handle shyt like grown folk. Only the greedy ones that trying to get a 1-Up on the other.

 

[Rawtid]

Yo these are the type of arguments I don't understand from these single mothers. And I'm not trying to go in on you but help me to understand this.

Do you not understand what being the custodial parent and having custody entails. I mean you all want to complain that you have to pay daycare and pay for this, or that etc...but you have fukking custody, it comes with the territory. So what if your payments doesn't even cover daycare, its not supposed too. That is what your own income is far. Your kid has to go to daycare because of your own situation, not because of the fathers.

Whats wild is you don't hear single fathers fortunate enough to get custody of their kids complain about the day to day cost of having them. And the majority of fathers don't even seek assistance from the mothers. If I was to ever win custody I know I wouldn't.

I know what I'm about to say may be a shock to you, but women don't get themselves pregnant. So if it weren't for BOTH of you, daycare wouldn't even be a discussion. So because BOTH of you are parents, as the father you are responsible for HALF of the financial, spiritual, and mental well-being of your child. Regardless of how you feel about the mother or if the mother has full-custody.

And again, sadly enough A LOT of men think like you and it's sad. And for as much as yall brag about bagging dimes or jut being upstanding "good" men, ya'll meet some of the worst women in the world to the point you really thing women splurge at the mall instead of take care of their children.

 

[Rockstar Mom]

See what I mean.

nikkas think doing the bare MINIMUN is enough.

Once again, this is why child support was created.

If you're being forced to give the minimum, why you mad at the mom? You should be mad at yourself for being a half assed father.

 

[ThumpDaddy]

I think people are more upset about if the child support is getting misused. Hindsight being 20/20, some people wouldn't have chosen to make a baby with certain people. But every situation is different.

 

[Mr210]

I think people are more upset about if the child support is getting misused. Hindsight being 20/20, some people wouldn't have chosen to make a baby with certain people. But every situation is different.

to play devils advocate, anyless you are dealing with bum ass women how will you know that the mother is spending the CS checks on herself rather than the kid. If she has a meaningful job making $40,000 or so (I know thats not much) then seeing her with a new outfit or a new car or what have you doesnt mean she is using the CS money to get those things. Now if the mom is always looking fly but the kid is looking tore up thats another thing.


for real though I hear more men on this site talk/complain/bytch about child support much moreso than the guys i know in the real world who are going through that

 

[Wild self]

See what I mean.

nikkas think doing the bare MINIMUN is enough.

Once again, this is why child support was created.

If you're being forced to give the minimum, why you mad at the mom? You should be mad at yourself for being a half assed father.

That system is corrupt. The only reason women defend it so much is because they almost NEVER get put under severe pressure by courts to pay CS. Imagine a chunk of your hard earned money disappearing before you get the paycheck and not knowing that the money is going to support your kid properly? With limited visiting rights? That is why some men these days are REFUSING to have kids cause of that situation alone. Again, arrogance on women pisses men off cause, how can a functional family be raised in that? Where women get rewarded financially for divorcing/ breaking up with their man?

You see what I mean in another 20 years.

 

[TheBigBopper]

The more I read this thread, the more I think gay nikkas and eternal virgins won

Yeah, childless, sexually-active straight nikkas like me are winning, too...but let's be real: how long can that really last? Especially when you KNOW you wanna eventually have a kid with SOMEBODY?

It's only so long you can be a nikka in his 20s who's happy about not having to worry about the bullshyt that comes with having a kid, and who can sit back and be like at the nikkas with baby mama drama.....you gotta have a junior sooner or later, and you gotta deal with his mama

Why the fukk can't you just use a fukking condom? It's not that fukking complicated.

Jesus christ. shyt like this really makes me think that the black race is inundated with a shyt ton of low IQ dullards without the mental capacity to think through consequences.

 

[Rockstar Mom]

That system is corrupt. The only reason women defend it so much is because they almost NEVER get put under severe pressure by courts to pay CS. Imagine a chunk of your hard earned money disappearing before you get the paycheck and not knowing that the money is going to support your kid properly? With limited visiting rights? That is why some men these days are REFUSING to have kids cause of that situation alone. Again, arrogance on women pisses men off cause, how can a functional family be raised in that? Where women get rewarded financially for divorcing/ breaking up with their man?

You see what I mean in another 20 years.

So cuz you're on CS, u automatically have limited visitation? CS and cuatody fights are 2 totally different things. Its not even handled at the same time, nor in the same room. How do u know the kid isn't properly taken care of? Cuz his shoes are scuffed up? Like the poster above said, unless ya BM works at Mcdonalds, how do you know she's spending CS on herself?

 

[Amy Traphouse]

Men are more pissed off when their beloved seed isn't getting the support that they deserve. If I ever had a son and he doesn't get basic shyt met for him growing up, while the trifiling baby mamma uses it to stunt in the club, Damn right i would act like Chris Dorner. Only people that take their kids to child support are immature folks that can't handle shyt like grown folk. Only the greedy ones that trying to get a 1-Up on the other.

If men are more pissed about their child getting the bare minimum as far as CS and visitation why aren't they fighting for custody especially since a lot men gripe about the mother still staying at home working menial jobs while chunks of cash is deducted from your $80k salary? Instead I see men bytch moan and complain, try and get CS reduced or demand the mother details a list of where the money goes which in my opinion is why the courts are favored towards women. Not enough men taking enough interest in custody (or at least 50/50) they settle for $300 a montj of CS and 5-8 days of visitation a month.

 

[DaChampIsHere]

Cats don't realize that paying child support actually gives you control

Umm, no. Actually being a father in your household gives you control.

Black men have some warped ways of thinking. "Yeah breh, the court is gonna take me to jail if I don't make these payments, I'm in control though cause I put the order in for it. "

That isn't control, just low brow mediation.

Where women get rewarded financially for divorcing/ breaking up with their man?

Statements like this make you all seem fatherless/make your dad look shytty. Y'all reek of single parent household ways of thinking because you don't understand the financial needs of what it takes to raise a family.

Where on earth is anyone giving up a salary maker in exchange for a -$700 check every month?

Like, you all must be some sheltered, immature nikkas not to see how money gets eaten up. shyt, $600-700 alone in many places is just the extra cost of going from a 1 bedroom apartment to a 2 bedroom apartment (so your child can have a place to sleep), so that's a lot of child support eaten up off bat, so what is the mother supposed to do from there for the rest of the month?

nikkas worryin' about their money being misused, but don't even have the fortitude to head their household properly.

to play devils advocate, anyless you are dealing with bum ass women how will you know that the mother is spending the CS checks on herself rather than the kid. If she has a meaningful job making $40,000 or so (I know thats not much) then seeing her with a new outfit or a new car or what have you doesnt mean she is using the CS money to get those things. Now if the mom is always looking fly but the kid is looking tore up thats another thing.


for real though I hear more men on this site talk/complain/bytch about child support much moreso than the guys i know in the real world who are going through that

Every guy on SOHH is a baller with game and great taste with the ability to pull upstanding women. We are Hardonhoes, but damn it, some how we always get them pregnant.

 

[Wild self]

So cuz you're on CS, u automatically have limited visitation? CS and cuatody fights are 2 totally different things. Its not even handled at the same time, nor in the same room. How do u know the kid isn't properly taken care of? Cuz his shoes are scuffed up? Like the poster above said, unless ya BM works at Mcdonalds, how do you know she's spending CS on herself?

If a chick has your kid and your kid is still wearing payless shoes and hand me down clothes, while they wear the latest name brand clothes with the given amount, is that not suspect? CS is made for unruly women that are not mature enough to work with a decent man to take care of their children.

 

[lamont614]

Yo these are the type of arguments I don't understand from these single mothers. And I'm not trying to go in on you but help me to understand this.

Do you not understand what being the custodial parent and having custody entails. I mean you all want to complain that you have to pay daycare and pay for this, or that etc...but you have fukking custody, it comes with the territory. So what if your payments doesn't even cover daycare, its not supposed too. That is what your own income is far. Your kid has to go to daycare because of your own situation, not because of the fathers.

Whats wild is you don't hear single fathers fortunate enough to get custody of their kids complain about the day to day cost of having them. And the majority of fathers don't even seek assistance from the mothers. If I was to ever win custody I know I wouldn't.

she wont respond tho

 

[Rockstar Mom]

If a chick has your kid and your kid is still wearing payless shoes and hand me down clothes, while they wear the latest name brand clothes with the given amount, is that not suspect? CS is made for unruly women that are not mature enough to work with a decent man to take care of their children.

So now y'all go by the clothes the kid wears?

If I'm not mistaken, this is the same site that was mad at me for buying my son Js. Cuz he's a kid and doesn't need name brand. That's what y'all say.

But when it comes to CS, ya kid better be wearing Gucci?

CS is made for men that refuse to pay for their child. Like I said, I don't bother with CS cuz my sons father give me what I need/want, when I need/want it. I don't have to ask twice


But I know chicks that have to ask 10 times, to get their BD to purchase a pair of socks

 

[Wild self]

So now y'all go by the clothes the kid wears?

If I'm not mistaken, this is the same site that was mad at me for buying my son Js. Cuz he's a kid and doesn't need name brand. That's what y'all say.

But when it comes to CS, ya kid better be wearing Gucci?

CS is made for men that refuse to pay for their child. Like I said, I don't bother with CS cuz my sons father give me what I need/want, when I need/want it. I don't have to ask twice


But I know chicks that have to ask 10 times, to get their BD to purchase a pair of socks

No, I said that CS should not be used on the woman at all. AT ALL. All that money, the kid should have at least 3-4k a year saved up for college.

 

[Chris.B]

Wrap it up or better yet procreate with a white woman if you don't want headaches in life