Anyone knowledgeable about cancer? My youngest daughter's mom has cervical cancer...

[murksiderock]

Not cervical BUT I have a lot of family and close ones who’ve had cancer. I think my aunt may have had something “down there” (not bashful I just don’t remember where it was) and had a hysterectomy. Maybe be prepared to take your daughter in. From any and everyone I know who’s gone through cancer, it’s a shyt show on your body and wellness and energy for a long time, both the disease and radiation treatments.

I hope she recovers, but I hope you can be supportive and likely prep yourself to possibly be a default/primary parent at minimum, even if for just a period of time.

We've had preliminary discussion on the kids. Her two oldest sons' father, lives in Charlottesville, Virginia. She said initially they were gonna spend 2-3 weeks there this summer with him, but he and her already discussed her sending them there for the entire summer...

I offered to keep our daughter for an extended period of time, she said we'll discuss it more when I get back. I gotta admit that it is pretty daunting thinking about the weight of responsibility of caring for our child if her mom isn't available, and she herself said "it can get bad and I may not be here". Her using that kinda language, it fukks with me, can't lie...

I am gonna do whatever needs to be done, and a loved one told me the other day that everything I've ever experienced in my life, has prepared me to be exactly who and what I need to be for our child, and her mother, while she fights thru this. It's just uncharted territory and nothing you ever imagine you'd be faced with. It's scary...

Her youngest son will spend time with his dad...

Yes. I’d need more details from you but usually that verbiage of spreading means the cancer has left its original site (the cervix in this scenario) and gone to other parts of the body. That would make it a stage 4 cancer.

It could also mean, it’s still all in the cervix it just got bigger. This is an infinitely better scenario. Cut out the entire organ and be done with it.

I'll be back revisiting this thread as I learn more, this shyt is an outlet for me to vent. I appreciate the education, bro...

According to her, she doesn't know the stage yet. Just that its "bad" and it's "spreading" and they've already ruled out surgery, with the hope that radiation shrinks it enough to allow surgery...

My sister in law lived 12 years after being diagnosed with stage 4 cervical cancer. The last 3 months of her life was really rough. She was in so much pain that my wife's family was relieved when she passed away. God bless you and your family.

Question, after diagnosis, how long was she able to live a normal life? How old was she, did she have kids? As the years went on, I'm assuming it became tougher to live with? How often was treatment/radiation/chemo?

 

[dizzy4111]

Apricot kernels have a lot of vitamin B17. She can eat those. I suggest intermittent fasting, juicing and detox teas. I personally love Dr. Bobby Price detox teas. They are very strong. If I was diagnosed with cancer I would do exactly what I'm telling you. No chemo. I'm a 43 y.o nurse on no meds, healthy BMI. I wish both of yall the best.

You shouldn't be allowed to work in medicine

 

[OneManGang]

We've had preliminary discussion on the kids. Her two oldest sons' father, lives in Charlottesville, Virginia. She said initially they were gonna spend 2-3 weeks there this summer with him, but he and her already discussed her sending them there for the entire summer...

I offered to keep our daughter for an extended period of time, she said we'll discuss it more when I get back. I gotta admit that it is pretty daunting thinking about the weight of responsibility of caring for our child if her mom isn't available, and she herself said "it can get bad and I may not be here". Her using that kinda language, it fukks with me, can't lie...

I am gonna do whatever needs to be done, and a loved one told me the other day that everything I've ever experienced in my life, has prepared me to be exactly who and what I need to be for our child, and her mother, while she fights thru this. It's just uncharted territory and nothing you ever imagine you'd be faced with. It's scary...

Her youngest son will spend time with his dad...

I'll be back revisiting this thread as I learn more, this shyt is an outlet for me to vent. I appreciate the education, bro...

According to her, she doesn't know the stage yet. Just that its "bad" and it's "spreading" and they've already ruled out surgery, with the hope that radiation shrinks it enough to allow surgery...

Question, after diagnosis, how long was she able to live a normal life? How old was she, did she have kids? As the years went on, I'm assuming it became tougher to live with? How often was treatment/radiation/chemo?

Praying for you and your family bro. I am around this everyday in my profession. I’m not an oncologist but I work with them and other providers everyday.

So by definition, stage 4 cancer means the cancer has left its original spot and gone to other parts of the body. That’s the situation it seems she’s in. There’s no cure for this. Any treatment will be focused on prolonging life and comfort. Cure CAN happen but like I said earlier, temper the expectations. If it happens, praise God, but there does come a time where the treatments and cancer will take a toll on her and it’s a battle not worth fighting any longer. How long until that happens is always case by case.

I want to add hopefully bc of her age, kids and such, they’ll be very aggressive to begin and see where it takes them. Don’t give up

 

[feelosofer]

It depends. My mother had cervical cancer but they caught it early enough to to a hysterectomy and she has been cancer free ever since.

 

[murksiderock]

It depends. My mother had cervical cancer but they caught it early enough to to a hysterectomy and she has been cancer free ever since.

The hysterectomy kept it from coming back, correct? If the radiation shrinks it and she can get a hysterectomy, that eliminates the chances of it coming back?

 

[The BasedFather]

Well damn, this made me sad reading this thread. Hope she pulls through and beats it. Be sad for your child not to have their momma some scary stuff. Blessing to you and yours brother

 

[Turtle]

Let me tell you, that i’m sorry that is happening to her.

The only good advice anyone on here will give you is to reach out to your doctors and health insurance for resources.

No one here is going to provide you that same level of depth.i hope she’s okay

 

[boogers]

where does she live OP? someone said Rick Simpson Oil, and thats good stuff, i can vouch for it. i like to make hash with hot water and wax paper from kief. you can buy kief for $5/gram where i live. i usually cop an ounce of bud (right now i have Cap Junky and Blue Dream) and add kief to it once its ground.

i wasnt trying to be discouraging about supplements, as long as they dont interfere with her real medicine its not a big deal. i am not a doctor, but i would not recommend fasting for anyone with cancer! as far as B vitamins, you should be taking those anyway if youre over 30.

 

[OneManGang]

The hysterectomy kept it from coming back, correct? If the radiation shrinks it and she can get a hysterectomy, that eliminates the chances of it coming back?

This is where I was telling you if you’re able to cut out the organ or area the cancer is growing in then yes it’s gone. The area where the cell type that is mutated lives will be gone. This is a highly potentially curative situation

However, in your loved ones case, and again just off of what you know so far, this isn’t a guarantee as it’s already spread. So a hysterectomy is no longer an assured cure of the situation. She’ll need surgery and prolonged chemo or radiation

Keep us updated please

 

[Yinny]

We've had preliminary discussion on the kids. Her two oldest sons' father, lives in Charlottesville, Virginia. She said initially they were gonna spend 2-3 weeks there this summer with him, but he and her already discussed her sending them there for the entire summer...

I offered to keep our daughter for an extended period of time, she said we'll discuss it more when I get back. I gotta admit that it is pretty daunting thinking about the weight of responsibility of caring for our child if her mom isn't available, and she herself said "it can get bad and I may not be here". Her using that kinda language, it fukks with me, can't lie...

I am gonna do whatever needs to be done, and a loved one told me the other day that everything I've ever experienced in my life, has prepared me to be exactly who and what I need to be for our child, and her mother, while she fights thru this. It's just uncharted territory and nothing you ever imagine you'd be faced with. It's scary...

Her youngest son will spend time with his dad...

I'll be back revisiting this thread as I learn more, this shyt is an outlet for me to vent. I appreciate the education, bro...

According to her, she doesn't know the stage yet. Just that its "bad" and it's "spreading" and they've already ruled out surgery, with the hope that radiation shrinks it enough to allow surgery...

Question, after diagnosis, how long was she able to live a normal life? How old was she, did she have kids? As the years went on, I'm assuming it became tougher to live with? How often was treatment/radiation/chemo?

I should add, even if she does wind up living a long time (cancer free or not) the process is extremely draining, mentally, emotionally, and physically. I would strongly recommend you get a jump on actually putting into place raising your kid now to take some of the stress off her. As she’s looking to restore her health now, it would help a lot without the added stress over the kids’ immediate and other needs.

 

[feelosofer]

The hysterectomy kept it from coming back, correct? If the radiation shrinks it and she can get a hysterectomy, that eliminates the chances of it coming back?

She had the surgery in 2019 and has been cancer free ever since. She has to visit an oncologist twice a year to double check but so far so good.

 

[Turtle]

Your health insurance if you have it should have case managers for stuff like this to help with scheduling and things of that nature you should request. Specifically for cancer diagnoses and their relatives, if you do not havr insurance she should quality for medicaid. But ask professionals for advice on people to see

 

[#BOTHSIDES]

Wishing you the best. My uncle has/had stomach cancer. He was diagnosed Kat least three years ago… I think he’s doing well and the cancer isn’t progressing


I had a cousin who also had it. He beat it I’m not sure if he did chemo

 

[Clayton Endicott]

Damn…the fact that it has spread is not good . She needs to make the most of the time that she has left. Cool ass lady I work with has it in her breast and ovaries. Really sweet person and it saddens me to see her go through it knowing that she probably doesn’t have much time left

 

[maxamusa]

Sorry to hear the news OP......gotta stay strong for the seeds.


Cancer sucks.