About 3 years ago my opinion on
dating preferences was the same as the African girl in question. Personally I've always believed in my ability to love all women, regardless of skin color (from the palest white to the darkest brown), that's just who I have always been. BUT I honestly believed that people who chose to only date men of a specific ethnicity merely preferred that ethnicity as a...physical appeal period. Nothing more than liking one skin color over another, or eye color, or hair texture. Period.
For example:
Aaron asks: "Yo John, how come you only date Asian chicks bro?"
John responds: "I don't know man, Asians just...y'know...got those amazing eyes! I couldn't ever marry a woman without those eyes."
Back to the train of thought:
I didn't see why a black man who only dates white women couldn't be close to other black men and women. And I didn't see why a white man who only dates black women couldn't be close with other white men and women. After all a relationship is one thing and being friends is another.
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But eventually I came to see this issue very...
differently...for lack of a better word.
The word
preference is defined as:
to have a greater liking for one alternative over another or others. This definition implies that one has to know what the alternative has to offer in order for there to be a
comparison, because
comparison is the base structure of liking
one thing over
another.
What I concluded was that the preference theory works a lot better with fruits and objects than with people tbch.
I started wondering; how can you know you prefer one skin color to another when you haven't been in a relationship with both to see which one you like better (aka prefer)?
The answer came to me fairly quickly: Breh, clearly you don't need to be in a relationship to see which skin color you like best, all you need is a pair of eyes. But then why do you like one skin color better than another?
With fruits for instance; you have the taste to guide into deciding why you like a fruit more than another. Apples are more acidic than bananas, strawberries are sweeter, oranges are sweet but in a different way.
I have yet to find adults who base their preferences on fruit on how the fruit looks. There's always a basis for comparison. Sometimes the basis for the comparison can be the shape of the fruit: "I don't like melons because they're too big and I hate carrying big things so blueberries are my shyt."
The second problem, I came to realize, was that
unlike fruits we people are severely different and severely similar beyond the scope of skin colors. For every person you know there's another (of a different ethnicity) who's very similar in either personality or physique, or even both.
The taste of one black person doesn't extend to the other ones; so you can't compare bananas and oranges like you can compare black people and white people for instance.
The third problem was that
people don't date only based on looks, personality and other qualities matter. So essentially speaking one can't exclude an ethnicity from one's dating life because to do so is to close the doors on many people whom you don't even know whether you'd fare better with, relationship and happiness wise. Assuming people date for reasons beyond skin color that is.
Let's say Indian girl Natasha Suri dates black men only, and she's dating Johnson 'cause he's black and funny as fukk and smart and he's got goals and an amazing sense of style. If an indian dude Ashal Nipun happens to come into her life – and he's just like Johnson (funny AF, smart) but with better goals and better style – she's just gonna stay with Johnson because of skin color? Is that logical? If she begins to have more fun with Ashal than with her own boyfriend, is skin color really gonna be the sole reason for her loyalty?
Yeah, after all these thoughts I decided that the preference for skin color/eyes/hair was a very shaky argument because preferring looks is superficial, and deciding not to give a race a chance reeks of deciding that all people of that particular race are the same.
Fin.
shyt's a fukking essay, damn.
bytch aint even that cute either
bw are agents man