Approaching Women

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Don't internalize rejection. I'm usually a big proponent of "YOU da problem" school of thought. But when it comes to approaching random people rejection doesn't always mean ur undesirable.

Women have a lot of shyt on their minds usually. Peep the random stream of consciousness below:
"These shoes hurt my feet but i couldn't find the other pair that matches this outfit. shyt I might have a blister by the end of the day. shyt! I gotta turn that assignment in for math class. Them Indians so good at this shyt and im struggling. I don't feel like studying tonight. Oh he's cute. I'm hungry, what imma do for lunch. Damn I forgot to pay car insurance. Now i gotta take money from that account, but I gotta bonus so that'll be coming thru, lemme check my account. Lmao! Twitter wildin today! Oh I got some more followers. Oh that's a nice dress she got on in that picture. Oh an iced coffee... Oh he tryin to talk to me? Not today sir, I look like ass. Do I even feel like going thru another relationship right now? Nah I'm not even on bc. He cute but I'll pass. I need to wash and condition my hair tonight, did i use all my conditioner the last time? Hell i don't feel like going in Walmart tonight!"

Sometimes you ain't even being rejected b/c ur ugly or undesirable. Chicks gotta lotta shyt going on. I also think women should do more to make their interest accessible to men. I hear a lotta complaints about them being overlooked but closed off body language and resting bytch faces and them just literally not being out and about makes it harder on men in an environment that is already irritating.

 

[4fossa]

Said most of this shyt in those other threads regarding this topic recently but idgaf.

1. I can't say it often enough: You dont need to be some fukkin model to have success with approaching. Selfe confidence, humor & talking skills are key. Its what makes women really interested in you like on some "This guy isnt like all them other dudes". I've seen plenty of dudes some would consider ugly etc. get play/taking home dimes. They just confident af and their game is on point. To make it even clearer there are lots of dudes girls would consider very good looking, but if they aint got no game its absolutely useless. Chicks wont be into you if you cant even talk to em/kick some jokes etc.

2. There are too many chances wasted on NOT approaching dimes at places outside of the club. If you get rejected , you prob wont see her again and its 1000times better than the feeling of "damn I shouldve approached her "


3. Especially go for dimes. They are usually happy to be approached because 9 outta 10 dudes are fukkin shook of them and dont approach. If you do it she'll be like "finally someone who isnt just creeping around me, starin me down n shyt"


4. Every rejection you get is just another step in sharpening your game, so go for it

This is exactly my point and mindset.

 

[Marco Zen]

Just cold approached a 9 1/2...

Update in a moment...

 

[GreenGhxst]

Because that's creepy AF.

No it's not, not if she's visibly choosing up and you can tell she engaged in the convo, if she's ignoring you or she ain't feeling it yeah, but then you back off

What body language or cues do you look for from a woman? Just curious.

eye contact is the biggest I see

 

[GreenGhxst]

Has anyone had any luck with it?
Never did it before but I will start. How to stop it from becoming painfully awkward?

Fam you cold approach and post the audio I got $5 on deck for you, that's a mcdonalds combo my nikka

Before you do it you gotta say this is God's gift from coli

I'm trying to give you motivation

 

[GreenGhxst]

Said most of this shyt in those other threads regarding this topic recently but idgaf.

1. I can't say it often enough: You dont need to be some fukkin model to have success with approaching. Selfe confidence, humor & talking skills are key. Its what makes women really interested in you like on some "This guy isnt like all them other dudes". I've seen plenty of dudes some would consider ugly etc. get play/taking home dimes. They just confident af and their game is on point. To make it even clearer there are lots of dudes girls would consider very good looking, but if they aint got no game its absolutely useless. Chicks wont be into you if you cant even talk to em/kick some jokes etc.

2. There are too many chances wasted on NOT approaching dimes at places outside of the club. If you get rejected , you prob wont see her again and its 1000times better than the feeling of "damn I shouldve approached her "


3. Especially go for dimes. They are usually happy to be approached because 9 outta 10 dudes are fukkin shook of them and dont approach. If you do it she'll be like "finally someone who isnt just creeping around me, starin me down n shyt"


4. Every rejection you get is just another step in sharpening your game, so go for it

100%

 

[GreenGhxst]

Don't internalize rejection. I'm usually a big proponent of "YOU da problem" school of thought. But when it comes to approaching random people rejection doesn't always mean ur undesirable.

Women have a lot of shyt on their minds usually. Peep the random stream of consciousness below:
"These shoes hurt my feet but i couldn't find the other pair that matches this outfit. shyt I might have a blister by the end of the day. shyt! I gotta turn that assignment in for math class. Them Indians so good at this shyt and im struggling. I don't feel like studying tonight. Oh he's cute. I'm hungry, what imma do for lunch. Damn I forgot to pay car insurance. Now i gotta take money from that account, but I gotta bonus so that'll be coming thru, lemme check my account. Lmao! Twitter wildin today! Oh I got some more followers. Oh that's a nice dress she got on in that picture. Oh an iced coffee... Oh he tryin to talk to me? Not today sir, I look like ass. Do I even feel like going thru another relationship right now? Nah I'm not even on bc. He cute but I'll pass. I need to wash and condition my hair tonight, did i use all my conditioner the last time? Hell i don't feel like going in Walmart tonight!"

Sometimes you ain't even being rejected b/c ur ugly or undesirable. Chicks gotta lotta shyt going on. I also think women should do more to make their interest accessible to men. I hear a lotta complaints about them being overlooked but closed off body language and resting bytch faces and them just literally not being out and about makes it harder on men in an environment that is already irritating.

yall say "lmao" in your head, thats crazy b

 

[PhonZhi]

http://www.thecoli.com/threads/by-a...m-99-9-of-the-other-men-on-the-planet.365977/

 

[spencerforhire]

1. Talk to everyone not just females. Get use to the nervousness of approaching and talking to strangers in general. You want this to become a habit. NOT something you just turn on and off. Ya dig?

2. Don't be so outcome oriented. Go out, let loose, and have some fun. Don't get caught up with phone numbers or hookups. It'll just lead to more anger and frustration. Focus on the skill and process...not the outcome.

3. Have a designated pick-up schedule. Meaning dont be one of those guys that tries to pickup girls anywhere and at anytime. There's a time and place for everything. If your an introvert like me, it sucks up alot of energy approaching women all day.

4. Location. Knowing where to pickup girls and work on your skills is just important. Malls, bookstores, and college campus is great place to practice. College campus is one those few places where theres tons of females traffic to work on your skills. However time is limited for these college girls so it can be harder.

5. "In order to get the women of your dreams, you have to be the man of her dreams." So never stop bettering yourself: Health, Finance, Lifestyle, Clothes you wear.... etc... Everything counts.

 

[Marco Zen]

Just cold approached this 9.5 at the gym I go to..

For full disclosure she rejected me so don't read this long ass post expecting it to end with "Yea then I fukked her...". Save yourself the trouble..

So anyway...

9.5 chick

I deduct .5 points for excessive facial acne... Other than that... ...Face pretty enough... Body wise she's probably one of the baddest honeys in there.. Sista... Redbone... I don't even chase redbones but this one ....No tummy.. Possible abs... THICK... hips ...phat ass... Perky t*ts.. Smooth skin ...


I was outside finishing up the vape as she was walking in from her car ...

Seen her before, gave a subtle wave from a distance before but this time I was like I got her...

I say "Good afternoon"

She smiles says "Good afternoon"

I hit her with

"I been waiting a long time to say good afternoon to you up close "


She smiles again laughs a little and repeats it while laughing "good afternoon sir" and walks on in...


Fast forward...


Now she's on the treadmill.. That booty bouncing damn near took a pic


I'm on the other side with the weights...

Keeping an eye out for if she leaves and walks my way I'll be prepared with the arsenal...

I make my way over to get water refill which happens to be right next to her treadmill...

At the same time she's coming off the treadmill headed towards the paper towel dispenser that's right next to the water fountain....

So I'm like should I or shouldn't I...



fukk it..


The Approach...


I step to her as she's spraying her paper towel about to whipe that delicious sweat off the treadmill...


I say:

"Now that we got all the good afternoons outta the way...

(proceeded to hitbher with one of my awesome lines I can share with y'all for a small fee)


She smiled again, laughed a little and said "No" while laughing...

I said "Ok that's cool "


But before I walked away she stopped me to say.. "Hey.. But I like how nice and gentlemanly you are about it "

Then I said " what can I say I'm a hell of a guy "

She says " yea I'll bet "



I was obviously rejected. Either she has a man or husband she's trying to be loyal to or she's just not attracted or interested in me, at this point who cares...

The upside of this is we're bound to cross paths again. We both go to the same gym. The ice is broken. The "Hi" won't be the same because she'll remember me. I can be more playful with her about it...

And if she says hi and keeps it moving that means she's still not interested or whatever...

But if she says hi and follows up with a "How are you?" as if she wants to carry a convo with the cute/ funny guy who tried to holla at her.. We can assume that its a clear invitation for me to try again



Its chess it ain checkers

 

[Docaveli]

If u really care, listen to someone with experience

17 years ago we had no social media like this now so if u didn't approach u didn't eat which also meant some girls wasn't Eating too

So if u stepped out the pack and approached back then, ur probability of getting the girl was high because options were limited

Now with social media everybody got options mostly females so it's a free market

What u need to do is get u one gf/friend with benefits or two so u can have constant sex

Treat them well/simp whatever don't matter

Now focus ur other time on building ur career

Once u made the money, get that new Benz/challenger/Beamer since u can afford it now

Ur home is ur choice, u can get a condo/house/ apt

U follow these steps u don't have to worry about cold approaching the bytches will approach u

Knowing what I know now, If u chasing p*ssy u doing it in reverse

p*ssy should be chasing u

All u got to do is look at whoever u know that don't have problem getting bytches

Find ur sweet spot and shoot from there

U can play the numbers game and pull here and there but the ends will not justify the means just from a numbers perspective

This is coming from someone with over 200 bodies

Average 15/20 since 2004 consistently

To edit I bring my numbers up to tell u that even though I smashed a lot during my time I have nothing to show for it but a bunch of pats on the back and a lil self esteem boost

I should have focused more on building a solid foundation for myself first

On the outside looking in I look good to other people because I havea house, cars but internally I know I coulda been in a more solid position at this point

 

[GreenGhxst]

If u really care, listen to someone with experience

17 years ago we had no social media like this now so if u didn't approach u didn't eat which also meant some girls wasn't Eating too

So if u stepped out the pack and approached back then, ur probability of getting the girl was high because options were limited

Now with social media everybody got options mostly females so it's a free market

What u need to do is get u one gf/friend with benefits or two so u can have constant sex

Treat them well/simp whatever don't matter

Now focus ur other time on building ur career

Once u made the money, get that new Benz/challenger/Beamer since u can afford it now

Ur home is ur choice, u can get a condo/house/ apt

U follow these steps u don't have to worry about cold approaching the bytches will approach u

Knowing what I know now, If u chasing p*ssy u doing it in reverse

p*ssy should be chasing u

All u got to do is look at whoever u know that don't have problem getting bytches

Find ur sweet spot and shoot from there

U can play the numbers game and pull here and there but the ends will not justify the means just from a numbers perspective

This is coming from someone with over 200 bodies

Average 15/20 since 2004 consistently

It doesn't make sense to me though, you still would have to cold approach. You got the money cars and you dress well right?? So you step into best buy and you see an associate that is an 8/10 on her worst days. She doesn't talk to you... what now?
You gotta approach, express interest, and get her number to further your relationship with her. I'm still in college , but you're saying all I have to do once I start making nice money is dress nice and instantly 7s,8s, and 9s will come flocking off of my clothes alone and the whip. I don't think that's how it works, granted I don't have a benz and a high salary, but in my head I don't see it working. You will always have to approach, getting the number, dates, and smashing would probably be easier. Can you expound on what you mean by never approaching? Most women are shy when it comes to that kind of shyt. Most people, matter fact. So you gotta do leg work everytime in my eyes.

 

[Retired Account]

If u really care, listen to someone with experience

17 years ago we had no social media like this now so if u didn't approach u didn't eat which also meant some girls wasn't Eating too

So if u stepped out the pack and approached back then, ur probability of getting the girl was high because options were limited

Now with social media everybody got options mostly females so it's a free market

What u need to do is get u one gf/friend with benefits or two so u can have constant sex

Treat them well/simp whatever don't matter

Now focus ur other time on building ur career

Once u made the money, get that new Benz/challenger/Beamer since u can afford it now

Ur home is ur choice, u can get a condo/house/ apt

U follow these steps u don't have to worry about cold approaching the bytches will approach u

Knowing what I know now, If u chasing p*ssy u doing it in reverse

p*ssy should be chasing u

All u got to do is look at whoever u know that don't have problem getting bytches

Find ur sweet spot and shoot from there

U can play the numbers game and pull here and there but the ends will not justify the means just from a numbers perspective

This is coming from someone with over 200 bodies

Average 15/20 since 2004 consistently

To edit I bring my numbers up to tell u that even though I smashed a lot during my time I have nothing to show for it but a bunch of pats on the back and a lil self esteem boost

I should have focused more on building a solid foundation for myself first

On the outside looking in I look good to other people because I havea house, cars but internally I know I coulda been in a more solid position at this point

Is it possible to outstunt nikkas in a major city?

 

[Malik1time]

I step to her as she's spraying her paper towel about to whipe that delicious sweat off the treadmill...

 

[levitate]

In one of my undergrad courses there was a fly Chinese girl that I was interested in. I had no idea how to approach her though... With the help of Google I learned a few Cantonese phrases - sat next to her in class and started speaking to her in broken Chinese. She started laughing and we hit it off. Became study buddies, then Netflix and Chill buddies then officially started dating.

The point of my story is, be daring, be amusing, be confident...and you will win.